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This is a different kind of name change post.

This past weekend, the Hot Wings went through an official name change. I’d like to publicly announce for the first time, Dr. and Dr. Hot Wings!

Aside from the fact that it’s literally taken me a lifetime to accomplish this Ph.D. business to attain the Dr title, I like the title because it’s gender neutral. When I say, “Dr. Hot Wings is totally awesome.” You’re likely left wondering, is she totally conceited and talking about herself, or is she proclaiming yet again how awesome she thinks Mr. Hot Wings is?

So while I think it’s important for women to make conscious decisions about how they want to be addressed after marriage, isn’t it a bit strange to make it to the gender neutral Dr level and go back to the gender specific Mrs title?

In Vietnamese culture, women don’t change their last name after marriage because you are always your father’s daughter. This, in addition to having started publishing under my maiden name and the beauty of my 10 letter FULL NAME, I don’t want to change my name at this time. That’s right—10 letters, baby. My parents didn’t give me a middle name, so I am 6 letter first name and 4 letter last name. That’s pretty much a superstar name, right? Mr. Hot Wings’ last name is 9 letters and is virtually always mispronounced.

Anyhow, I thought it would be funny to be announced as Dr. and Dr. at our wedding. Sadly, the only people who would find this cute and funny are likely our grad school friends. We would probably just be considered pompous.

For those of you who are on the fence about name change, what types of factors are you considering? And for your Dr’s out there, did you include your Dr. title in your wedding somehow?