Name Change Game

Name Change Game

May 12th, 2010 @ 3:25 pm by Mrs. Frozen Yogurt
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Before this whole marriage thing, I was Miss S, and now after considering whether or not to change my name, I decided that I wanted to take Mr. Fro Yo’s last name. So now I’m Mrs. L.

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I know this is a very personal issue and I can see reasons for each side (change vs. not change vs. hyphenated). Had I decided to go the hyphenated way, my entire name would have been 36 letters long. Yikes!

However, changing my name is taking some getting used to.

Granted I’ve been married all of 3 weeks, so that’s to be expected. But I’ve wanted to correct people on several occasions when they called me by new name. In fact, I feel like I’m lying when I tell people my name now. It takes me back to high school when I would doodle in class and play the name game where I would match up my first name with my crushe’s last name, only now it’s for real so there’s no need to blush if someone catches me doodling it.

Currently, my wallet is a big mess of Miss S and Mrs. L with some credit cards and documentation reflecting the new last name and some the old. I think even Mr. Fro Yo is having a hard time wrapping his mind around the whole thing. I sent him a text saying, “I’m officially Mrs. L with the social security office.”‘ And he wrote back, “Ha. That looks weird.” Aww, thanks honey!

I look forward to the day when it rolls off of my tongue and I no longer have to stutter in meetings when I’m introducing myself, and when co-workers no longer introduce me to new employees and say, “This is Kelsey, I have no idea what her last name is anymore.” When will that be?

Anyone else having some growing pains with your new last name?

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24 Responses to “Name Change Game”

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Candy_Nee (message) 1,407 posts, Bumble bee

I feel the exact same way!!!! I’m knee deep in the process of chaning my name and I have no idea what to call myself. Do I use my maiden name until it’s official with the social security office? It’s official on Facebook though!!!

5/12/10 @ 3:29 pm (reply)

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completelyrandomsally (message) 618 posts, Busy bee

My problem is that I was Miss S____ and now I’m Miss S_____. Two different last names with the same number of letters (the last not being so common anymore - thank ya), but I still try to write my maiden name a lot.

5/12/10 @ 3:29 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

sounds kind of exciting, if a bit confusing at first! you’re all official and married now!

5/12/10 @ 3:29 pm (reply)

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Miss Seashell (message) 1,713 posts, Bumble bee

I imagine it being a weird mental shift. I asked a friend what it was like when she changed her name and she said it was completely natural and she didn’t slip-up once. I was shocked! I’m sure I’ll stumble a few times!

5/12/10 @ 3:32 pm (reply)

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Miss Taco (message) 950 posts, Busy bee

I was just thinking about this, gah. Not a big fan of hyphens, so I narrowed it down to:

two last names

maiden-as-middle, married-as-last

I think I’m going with the latter. It would be a whopping 12 letters (space included) the first way. And, dear god, I don’t want to know what happens when I’m on customer service calls and I’m trying to spell my already complicated maiden name, which now comes with a space and a capitalized (albeit standard) last name.

I guess I then get to go by three names, which is kind of cool, if unnecessary (what if we all went by our middle name, also?)

Whew. Best of luck, you’ll love it, I’m sure

5/12/10 @ 3:36 pm (reply)

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realeastcoaster (message) 1,245 posts, Bumble bee

This is pretty normal, for sure. I know I stumbled over myself when I was introducing myself to people for a while. And the name change process was drawn out and annoying.

I think the most awkward part was when my name was officially changed at work. I work in HR for a large organization - when my name changed in the system, a lot of people thought that I had left the company without warning, and came to our office to see what was up. I don’t know why, but I almost felt embarrassed saying that I was still there, like I was admitting to some kind of attention-seeking exercise. It all goes away fairly quickly though.

5/12/10 @ 3:38 pm (reply)

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farmersdaughter (message) 1,675 posts, Bumble bee

My fiance is kind of weirded out by my new last name - he can’t get over the fact that I’ll soon be Mrs. G - he keeps saying “I can’t call you that, that’s my mom’s name!”

5/12/10 @ 3:40 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Star (message) 2,057 posts, Buzzing bee

I totally hear you! Except for us, it’s both me AND Mr. Star who are knee-deep in name change paperwork and have wallets bulging with ID’s that say two different names. What a hassle! But totally worth it for the coolness factor

5/12/10 @ 3:52 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Lamb (message) 970 posts, Busy bee

It’s been 5 months and I just accidentally introduced myself in a business meeting as Melinda FamilyName. Sigh. Luckily for me, I made an out of state move, so everyone here has only ever known me as Melinda NewLastName. It makes it easier for everyone except me!

5/12/10 @ 3:52 pm (reply)

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boilerbride (message) 27 posts, Newbee

I just tweeted about how I hadn’t read many blogs recently about changing your name! Like many of the posts here, I’m in the process of changing my name. Some places I’m M and some places I’m G. I didn’t realize how much time it would take. Some places just need to see your marriage certificate, some need a copy of your new license (which takes 2 weeks to come in here). I’ve already accepted that I will have a new last name and the whole dragging it out just puts me in limbo.

I feel like I’m in a “Cher” or “Madonna” phase where I don’t have a last name.

Anyways, good luck with the rest of the process Mrs. Fro Yo!

5/12/10 @ 3:54 pm (reply)

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teaadntoast (message) 2,595 posts, Sugar bee

I feel like I’m lying, too! It’s just so STRANGE to think of myself as an M rather than a W.

5/12/10 @ 4:06 pm (reply)

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Miss Starfish (message) 1,924 posts, Buzzing bee

Haven’t gone through it yet, but I bet it will be weird!

5/12/10 @ 4:06 pm (reply)

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yoori (message) 231 posts, Helper bee

Awww you’re so cute! FH and I had a baby, so it was natural for EVERYONE to assume we were married. So I’ve already been Mrs. F for 2 years, and we’re still 2 years away from our wedding lol.

5/12/10 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

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It took me a full year to get used to Mrs. MarriedLastName. I still think of myself with my maiden name, but I am finally getting used to seeing it on emails and starting to think of my name as First, Maiden-as-middle, MarriedLast. At first I was sad to let my maiden name go, but now I’m more accepting of my new last name!

5/12/10 @ 4:52 pm (reply)

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AprilBride10 (message) 528 posts, Busy bee

It is totally weird to think of myself as Mrs. HisLast. I’m still not used to introducing myself that way, and it doesn’t help that only about half of my paperwork is done.
Oh, and the ‘official’ name change at work was very very weird. After working in a very large organization for a long time, people were definitely surprised to hear I changed my name. And it was fairly awkward to send out the “new name” emails. Sigh, at least it’ll be over with soon!

5/12/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I have a feeling it’s going to be VERY weird to change my name! I think I’m going to have a really hard time because my initials aren’t changing - so when I’m writing my name I’ll have to focus really hard on not just writing my current last name!

5/12/10 @ 5:25 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

Thanks girls!! It’s so nice to know I’m not alone!!

5/12/10 @ 5:45 pm (reply)

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tea (message) 7,288 posts, Bee Keeper

your coworkers are hilarious. that sounds like something i would say. i’m prepared to change my last name and while my guy was insistent that i do it in the beginning, he’s now changed his mind and asked me what i wanted to do. seems like he’s forgotten what he said before! lol

5/12/10 @ 6:15 pm (reply)

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Sarah

I’ve been married almost a year, and I still mess up my name sometimes. It’s getting easier though!

5/12/10 @ 6:34 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

I feel the same exact way and I haven’t even changed my name yet. I just moved in with FI this week (in a different state) and had to get a local driver license/change everything to the new address. Just doing this made me feel like a fraud, so I can only imagine that a name change will be worse.

5/12/10 @ 6:42 pm (reply)

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