What to Do with the Dress?

What to Do with the Dress?

May 26th, 2010 @ 2:52 pm by Mrs. Frozen Yogurt
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Like Mrs. Cowboy Boot, I’m contemplating selling my wedding dress.

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I talked to Mr. Fro Yo about it. See, he is very practical and realized that there was money to be made from items we would no longer need. So, the minute we got back from our honeymoon he asked when I was going to post things from the wedding to sell. I mentioned selling my dress, and he said, “Oh no you don’t have to do that. Girls like to keep their dresses for whatever it is they do with them.” And he’s so right. What the hell am I going to do with it?

I never really about selling my dress; I always envisioned keeping it after the wedding and pulling it out from time to time just to gaze at it. But the more I thought about that, the more I began to wonder how practical that is.

Am I really going to pull it out often enough to justify keeping it? I doubt that my daughter (should we have one) will want to wear it. Even if it is back in style at the time this mythical she gets married, I really don’t think she would be interested in wearing my dress.

But how do you know if it’s a good idea? See, I’m the opposite of a hoarder, and I get rid of things so quickly. Usually this isn’t a problem and I’m happy to be without the latest object I decided to purge, but there have definitely been times I wished that I had just held onto a few items that I gave away.

So I’ve come to you hive. How do you know if it’s the right time to sell your dress? Or if you should even sell your dress? For those of you who have sold your dress, how did you feel afterwards?

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48 Responses to “What to Do with the Dress?”

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Miss Socks (message) 1,323 posts, Bumble bee

I’m the opposite of a hoarder as well, and I don’t think I’ll keep the dress after the wedding. I might even do a TTD session so it’s easier for me to get rid of it! I think if you’re fine with it, selling it won’t be too terrible. You’ll always have the pictures and the memories, and if you sell it, then you might get a few extra bucks back in your pocket! Only do it if you’re really really comfortable with it though. You don’t want to regret it down the line! You have time to make the decision.

5/26/10 @ 3:03 pm (reply)

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serasvictoria

Actually I’m going to see if my seamstress friend can turn is into a cute cocktail dress and dye it (maybe dark purple in honor of the wedding).

5/26/10 @ 3:03 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

hm, i guess it’s hard to tell when is a good time. it’s a beautiful dress so i can see why it’s hard to let it go. you could donate it if that would add some meaning to letting it go. i’m totally selling mine. want it?

5/26/10 @ 3:06 pm (reply)

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ktisthatbees (message) 2,742 posts, Sugar bee

If you are still “iffy” about it, then I wouldn’t commit to selling it just yet. You will experience a small heartbreak no matter when you sell your dress, but if you are doubting the decision itself, then you make experience remorse once it is sold. One positive thing to think about: Another bride will feel beautiful on her wedding day in the dress, it’s always good to pass something joyful like that along.

5/26/10 @ 3:07 pm (reply)

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Miss Ribbons (message) 2,018 posts, Buzzing bee

If you aren’t sure I’d just wait longer. I’ve rationalized it: my dress is a Jonathan Adler credenza hanging in my closet. Does that help? teehee

5/26/10 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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kfowler (message) 44 posts, Newbee

My wife would never sell her dress, it’s that special to her. She is trying however to sell her first dress she picked out, but didn’t wear to the wedding. It’s like never getting rid of that first wedding band or engagement ring. It’s just something really special that makes you feel empty or naked without.

5/26/10 @ 3:13 pm (reply)

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SabrinaR424 (message) 266 posts, Helper bee

I’m not selling my dress, and here’s why. For my wedding, my “something old” was a piece of lace from my mom’s dress. I would never in a million years have worn her dress in it’s entirety, but I loved being able to pull it out and look at it, and I loved being able to wear a piece of it on my wedding day. I want my future daughter(s)/granddaughter(s) to have the same option.

If you’re undecided about whether or not to keep the dress, hold onto it. It can never be replaced, so only purge it if/when you’re sure that’s what you want to do.

5/26/10 @ 3:19 pm (reply)

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teaadntoast (message) 2,595 posts, Sugar bee

I’m waiting six months before I decide. Just after the wedding everyone is so full of, ‘Thank goodness it’s all over,” that I think it would be easy to misjudge the emotional significance of the dress and prematurely give it away. If my feelings haven’t changed by November, I’ll be sure my initial reaction wasn’t unduly colored by the immediate post-wedding need to purge my surroundings of various nuptial knickknacks and bits and pieces.

5/26/10 @ 3:19 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

@Miss Ribbons: Ha! I love that! I need to reframe my thinking, that definitely helps!!
@ktisthatbees: You’re so right! I still have time, and it’s nice to know that someone else will enjoy it.
@Mrs. Pug: Yes! Please, can I have it!!
@MandyW: So true! I think I might be rushing into this.
@serasvictoria: I’m trying to find a place to dye another dress of mine and I can’t find anyone to do it!

5/26/10 @ 3:21 pm (reply)

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Farfromachildbride (message) 1,006 posts, Bumble bee

I agree completely. Trying to decide this one for myself right now. I’m thinking about waiting one year. If I can get into it on our 1 year anniversary, I thought it might be fun to slip into it for a whirl around the living room. But after that I think I’ll be ready to part with mine.

5/26/10 @ 3:24 pm (reply)

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MissKatelyn (message) 740 posts, Busy bee

I don’t think I will sell mine. For me, the dress is the only thing from that day that I will actually be able to keep besides the wedding and videos. All the decorations, flowers, food, etc. will all be gone. There’s nothing tangible from that day and I think it would be nice to hold on to something that important from that important of a day.

5/26/10 @ 3:28 pm (reply)

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pharmy (message) 329 posts, Helper bee

Dyeing is not hard to do at home, just make sure you get the right dye! Satin is a synthetic fabric, so Dylon works best, or a specific dye for synthetics. It’s not hard, and as long as you start out with a low concentration it turns out wonderfully

5/26/10 @ 3:28 pm (reply)

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Miss Hot Dog (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

You could always use it to make a dress for your potential daughter when she’s a baby! Or make it into a quilt.

If you DO decide to sell it, be positive that you’re OK with parting ways. If you’re not 100% certain, you may come to regret it later.

It’s so gorgey porgey, BTW!!

5/26/10 @ 3:37 pm (reply)

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Miss Trail Mix (message) 6,329 posts, Bee Keeper

Ima keep mine bc I’m A) a sentimental schmuck and B) a complete and total pack rat! I vote for you to hold onto it a bit longer before deciding anything

5/26/10 @ 3:45 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Cowboy Boot (message) 434 posts, Helper bee

Well. I sold mine. The money was great. Somehow, my credit card bill (even after such a huge payment) still hasn’t managed to control itself. But, then again, I don’t miss my dress. I haven’t felt the need to touch her or look at her since she left and I’m happy when I think about another bride wearing her. Overall, I’m glad I did it. And I can be somewhat nostalgic and sentimental.

5/26/10 @ 3:51 pm (reply)

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GatorKate (message) 115 posts, Blushing bee

I agree with Mrs. Pug about donating it. Knowing you were helping another bride have a beautiful day (that she may not have been able to afford) may help you feel better about having to part with something that means so much to you.
But if you need the money that would come from selling it, I would just wait until a point where you feel better about parting with it. Don’t do anything while you’re still feeling uncertain, because you will probably question the decision you make for a long time. I think you should wait until you are 100% positive that selling it is the right choice for you.

5/26/10 @ 3:58 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I probably won’t sell mine, just because I’m way too sentimental. But, I have thought about it before. I guess we’ll wait and see how I feel after the wedding!

5/26/10 @ 3:59 pm (reply)

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BrianneG (message) 940 posts, Busy bee

I can’t wait to sell mine. I thought I’d found a buyer already but she backed out. Hopefully I can find a buyer quickly. I’d love to send the money to Bank of America and clear up the little bit of credit card debt I racked up during the wedding planning.

5/26/10 @ 4:30 pm (reply)

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tea (message) 7,295 posts, Bee Keeper

i have a feeling i’d be keeping mine because i am a bit of a hoarder. but i would be attached to it and that would be hard for me to part with it. but if you’re reticent at the moment, then just hold on to it for now. no need for a rushed and hasty decision

5/26/10 @ 4:32 pm (reply)

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serasvictoria (message) 630 posts, Busy bee

@Mrs. Frozen Yogurt: I definitely meant that I am going to dye the dress myself. I mean, I figure that the worst that happens is if I don’t like the color it can go black.

Plus I am in the process of dyeing my shoes and crinoline, I don’t think dyeing a dress will be too difficult. Plus after cutting off the bottom and train I’ll have extra material to practice with.

I would only get like $200 from selling mine since it wasn’t a pricey DB dress (around $600 I think). I’d much rather keep it and have a chance to rewear it than sell it.

5/26/10 @ 4:40 pm (reply)

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