Weddingbee Blog

It is time. This weekend, this day, which seemed unfathomable 15 months ago, has arrived. As I write this, I’ve got 142 whoopie pies stuffed in the freezer, a printer groaning under the weight of custom-font escort cards, and a woefully ignored cat playing tag with my ankles. I’ve gotten so much done, and I’ve still so much to do. But despite the seemingly insurmountable pile of tasks before me, I am ready.

I am ready. It has taken me a long time to get here. For most of my life, I’ve been decidedly *not* ready. I wanted to be married - it is “the thing to do”, isn’t it? Go to college, meet a nice person, get married. It was what was expected of me, and what I expected of myself. And it scared the hell out of me. I am my own person. I didn’t want to become half of one unit. I desired to be held accountable to no one by myself. Then, I met Mr. Hamster, who felt the same exact way.

I am independent. He is independent. Yet, on this weekend, we will join together. We will not become one indeterminable unit. That is not our way.

Instead, we will support each others’ aspirations, growing and improving our individual selves. And by doing so, we become better partners for each other. It took me 28 years to realize that depending on someone doesn’t equal helplessness; relying on someone does not equate to weakness. Both of us feared losing identity, but this relationship isn’t about two becoming one, it is about two becoming a better two. This may not work for everybody, but it works for us.

This weekend, there will surprises. Things will not go as planned. The weather may be capricious. My meticulously detailed schedule will not be followed. And yet the day will be a success, for after this one day of wedding, there will be may more days of marriage. Not to say marriage will be easy - there will also be surprises, deviations from plans and schedules, and stormy weather. But it will be okay - I will have my biggest supporter backing me up, as will he. I am ready.

Thank you, for following my planning journey, for humoring my really-not-that-important shoe struggles, my whoopie pie foibles, my haphazard attempts at DIY. Your support and feedback have kept me going when I just wanted to throw my Gocco against the wall. I’d like to think that I’ve inspired some of you in your plans - but in the grander scheme of things, I’m just a girl planning a wedding, like many of you. Really, as long as I’ve caused one of you to crack a smile or suppress a giggle, I am happy.

’Til next time…

Miss Hamster