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So, we’re at that time… the time when we should be having floods of RSVPs arriving in our cute little mailbox. Did you see how I said should? Yeah.

We’re a week away from our RSVP deadline and we are still waiting on over half of our RSVPs to come back. Nervous? No…no, I always look like this.

Please Don't Keep Us in Suspense :  wedding phoenix rsvp Nervous

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And here’s the kicker: our own family members are dragging their feet.

Granted, I pretty much know who of them is coming and isn’t coming—but still, that’s not the point. Same goes for the bridal party – do you hear that everyone? Ahem. We didn’t design and print up those adorable little RSVP cards, then secretly number them with the spy pen and stamp them for them to not be sent back. Not to mention that we have that great little space on the back for people to write well wishes or draw us pictures.

Speaking of… would you like to see some of the fantastic “artists” that will be attending our wedding? I thought you might. If there is anything that has made the waiting on RSVPs easier, it’s knowing that when one arrives in our mailbox, there’s a good chance we will have major entertainment inside that little envelope.

Behold the skillz:

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Froggie kitty sign of approval

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From my talented cousin and groomsman.

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From our good friends in Seattle – this is actually part of a joke from their wedding—we loved it.

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Although this one is labeled as from Frogger’s brother, we’re pretty sure this is the brilliant work of his lovely wife. Clearly she has us pegged. Hey, don’t laugh.

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From our friends in Florida, we are thrilled they are going to be able to fly up to celebrate with us.

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From our fellow wedding planners, these two are tying the knot in Hawaii in Feb – can’t wait! PS – this is what the majority of our time is like when we are in Chelan, I couldn’t have drawn it better. Drew it better? Yeah, I blame any grammar issues on bride brain.

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From Frogger’s cousins who just had a baby—-e can’t wait to see them.

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From another of Frogger’s cousins – personally I love the stick figures since that’s on par with my skills and we are so excited they can come. They live in Nashville so I will finally get the chance to meet them.

I will say, after going through the RSVPs and looking back at the fantastic responses we have received, I definitely feel better about the situation. In addition to drawings (which we have received quite a few, I couldn’t include them all here), we have also gotten so many wonderful well wishes – we feel very loved.

So my question is this… with the deadline looming, am I right to be a little concerned about the low number we have received thus far? How many have/did you receive when you were about a week out from your deadline? Do I need to start throwing elbows?

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29 Responses to “Please Don’t Keep Us in Suspense”

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jordynrose
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jordynrose (message)  6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

Did you Seattle friends draw that little bride and groom? They have some skills!

 
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ZoeKat
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ZoeKat (message)  590 posts, Busy bee

We have 11 days until our deadline and 40% are back. I expect (err…hope) to see my mailbox flooded with little blue envelopes for the next week! Some of my closest family members & bridal party haven’t responded, either. The drawings are cute! How fun to include a space for those on the RSVP.

 
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Miss Frog (message)  505 posts, Busy bee

@jordynrose: It’s actually cut out and pasted on but you’re right, it’s hard to tell that in the photo!

 
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jackie-o
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jackie-o (message)  2,389 posts, Buzzing bee

These are great - - they totally made me laugh!!!! YAY

 
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LoriLori
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LoriLori (message)  727 posts, Busy bee

We’re a week PAST our deadline and we have like missing RSVPs. Grrrrrrrr
Start throwing elbows!

 
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supergeek
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supergeek (message)  111 posts, Blushing bee

I figured that they’d start flowing in from the get-go but ours has been really slow too (about 50% in… 3 weeks till the deadline but they’ve also had them for 3 weeks). About half of the people who haven’t replied are those that are probable yesses, and so we can’t even consider a “B” list without them getting back to us.

But I have to say that those drawings are genius!

 
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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message)  2,685 posts, Sugar bee

I remember this feeling exactly! How hard is it to drop the card in the mail?? I actually never heard from some of my bridal party or family. In the end, I had to get on email and start asking people.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  7,288 posts, Bee Keeper

i had this conversation with my mom and older sister about family rsvps. i mean, sure we can assume they are coming but come on, that’s what the rsvp card is for!

 
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LittlestBirds
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LittlestBirds (message)  2,605 posts, Sugar bee

I can completely sympathize with the anxiety, since I’m the same way, but I’ll tell you what I’m telling myself: let it go! We also know pretty much who is coming and who isn’t, and I know for close-to-certain that a good chunk of our guests won’t bother to put the card in the mail, or will be late, or will forget. No big deal - just keep saying it. I speak from experience organizing a million social events for my group of friends over the years and nearly wringing a few necks over people’s inability to so much as click the “reply” button - forget about locating a mailbox and dropping a pre-addressed pre-stamped envelope in it. Embrace the email “Yeah didn’t I mention we’re coming?” form of RSVP, because it’s going to happen, and one might even count that as lucky!

 
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flurrsprite (message)  134 posts, Blushing bee

i have to say, the first wedding i was invited to, i don’t think i actually sent my rsvp card back in! i just had no idea about my possible future and i just figured it was a “well, if i can go i will and if i can’t, it’s just mean we’ll all feel sad about it, right?”… little did i know what goes in to wedding planning!

so i think a friendly reminder is always helpful ;) of course, in my situation i had to decline rather than risk not showing up at the last minute (which was good because i couldn’t make it in the end). and it’s probably much easier for the bride when you’re dealing with someone you talk to on a regular basis!

 
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Miss Trail Mix (message)  6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

Those drawings are amazing, you have some very talented guests!!

 
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Miss Cardigan (message)  8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

Those are awesome!

 
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Mrs. Pug (message)  3,753 posts, Honey bee

oh my gosh those are so sweet and cute.

 
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Merry02 (message)  428 posts, Helper bee

Ugh, I remember that feeling! We only had to track down about 15 families after the deadline, so it wasn’t so bad. The worst were two separate relatives that RSVP’ed back with more attending than were invited. We even included ___ of ___ on our invites to avoid that exact situation.

On the bright side, my RSVP deadline was only 2 1/2 weeks ago, and it already feels like decades ago. You will soon forget about that stress…I promise! :)

 
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Miss Thimble
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Miss Thimble (message)  806 posts, Busy bee

I think you’re good- you still have a week, and I for one am guilty of RSVPing last min, so maybe lots of other folks are too! At least you’ve got those great drawing to help keep you calm

 
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Miss Scissors (message)  7,343 posts, Bee Keeper

love the responses!

my family was *the worst* at rsvp-ing. it all got in. you’re still good. :)

 
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Mrs. Hamster (message)  4,046 posts, Honey bee

Oh these are so cute!! :) We received a bunch of RSVPs *right* at the deadline, so you might as well!

 
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kurtsbride2b (message)  45 posts, Newbee

My RSVP deadline is June 10. As of today I will have approximately 36 people attending-out of 150 invites sent out.
I am constantly thinking oh no, what if no one actually shows up!

Many family members have told me just to relax and wait. But I can’t-I need to know now. And I miss seeing the pretty envelopes in the mail daily!

 
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Kevin

All the couples I work with have this same problem, and each one of them stress out about the RSVP’s and the fact they don’t get them back. That is always going to happen, so here are some strategies to make the process easier.
1. If you need an exact count or exact menu choices for the venue or the caterer, it is not uncommon or against proper etiquette to place a courteous email or call to those that have not RSVP’d. In this day and age people are very busy and have the best intentions to get back with you but many times simply forget to RSVP.
2. If an exact count is not needed, you can plan on anything between 60-80% of your total guest list attending. I planned a wedding for a couple that had a guest list of 1000 and they were worried on the final count since they didn’t no do RSVP. Since most of the guests were out of town or out of country, I told them a good figure would be around 40-50%. Final count at the wedding was 450. If most of your guests are local you can plan on a higher percentage, but when in doubt, plan on extra guests.

Hope those help ease the stress a little!

 
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lunarbelle

We are doing online RSVP’s The immediate family has had their invites for 2 weeks we hand delivered them and only 4 have responded — this includes the bridal party — funny — I guess they figure we know they are coming. The mailed invites just went out and we already have 10 responses I think that’s quick. Hopefully the rest will trickle in quickly as well.

 
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Mrs. Frog, Phoenix, AZ/Chelan, WA Age and Occupation: 29, Public Relations Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Online Sales Engagement Date: February 8, 2009 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Amy's Manor About Me: I'm an opinionated Midwestern girl now living in the Valley of the Sun marrying a laid back Northwestern guy. I'm equal parts sass, silly and sweet. I'm fiercely loyal with a strong devotion to my family and friends. I have a not-so-secret obsession with apple juice, a new obsession with DIY projects and I love a really good cheese plate...with lots of wine. After 7 blissful years of dating, I'm having the time of my life planning the destination wedding of my dreams to my Mr. Frog-turned-Prince Charming.

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