The Bouquet Toss: A “To Toss” Wedding Tradition?

The Bouquet Toss: A “To Toss” Wedding Tradition?

June 22nd, 2010 @ 3:30 pm by Mrs. Pashmina
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I recently was reading the blog Weddings, Yes Please! and it got me thinking. Is the tossing of a bride’s bouquet really as hated as it portrayed these days? In theory, yes, it is not the most empowering for your female attendees.

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You never want anyone at your wedding to feel they as if they should be waiting, and hoping, to one day get married. But what about astrology, numerology, the lottery… aren’t these popular for a reason? Don’t we all sort of like predicting the future? Don’t we always wonder if a random event means something more?

I always have always joined in for the bouquet toss. I have never really minded it, and (somewhat) enjoyed it. Perhaps this is due to the wedding reception being mostly a passive event. Dare I say it? … Sometimes they are a bit boring! Even watching the toss is a bit amusing for the crowd. We have the older ladies vexing for the bouquet, the young girls just wanting to join in with the game, and the young women trying their best to steer clear of the bouquet all together.

What’s your stance on the bouquet toss?

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44 Responses to “The Bouquet Toss: A “To Toss” Wedding Tradition?”

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Miss Knitting (message) 1,072 posts, Bumble bee

I don’t have strong feelings about it either way. I give the bouquet toss a “meh”.

6/22/10 @ 3:48 pm (reply)

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MissCatherine (message) 278 posts, Helper bee

I think we’re all reading too much into it!
It’s just for fun!

6/22/10 @ 3:51 pm (reply)

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hisbunny (message) 767 posts, Busy bee

I always enjoyed it, and missed it in weddings where they didn’t toss. I tossed mine, and it was a fun occasion!

6/22/10 @ 3:51 pm (reply)

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Curlysue (message) 1,703 posts, Bumble bee

I never really liked it simply because every wedding I’ve been to there were so many little kids trying to catch it, it was kinda ridiculous. Fight for a bouquet or even try to catch it when some little girl is dying to get it? HAHA Since there will only be about two girls who are single at our wedding I’m thinking about having ALL the gals come out and I’ll surprise them with a break away bouquet with mini bouquets flying through the air. I think that will make for some surprised and fun looking reactions on their faces for photos.

6/22/10 @ 3:52 pm (reply)

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Miss Seashell (message) 1,713 posts, Bumble bee

I was mortified by it as a teen, but then when I was dating Mr. Seashell I was always secretly DYING to catch it.

6/22/10 @ 3:56 pm (reply)

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mcnetn3 (message) 1,675 posts, Bumble bee

My SO and I don’t think we’ll do the bouquet toss or the garter toss simply becuase most of our friends and family are already in committed relationships and we’d rather spend more time shaking our groove thing than participating in the tossing tradition.

6/22/10 @ 4:01 pm (reply)

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Bellum10 (message) 39 posts, Newbee

Instead of tossing an actual bouquet of flowers, we are tossing a bouquet filled with scratch tickets, money, candy, and fast food certificates. And for the garter we are attaching some money.

Might as well spice up the tradition and make it worthwhile for all our guests that get called out for being single!

6/22/10 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

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LeahP (message) 331 posts, Helper bee

I used to LOVE the bouquet toss. In fact, when I got engaged I greived a bit for the fact that I could never participate anymore….so sad!

6/22/10 @ 4:15 pm (reply)

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lisaberry (message) 186 posts, Blushing bee

I don’t like it, but I think the garter thing is worse. Just weirds me out.

I don’t have philosophical reasons for not liking the bouquet toss though. I just don’t enjoy it and never have. My single friends who will be at our wedding find it embarassing, so we’re nixing it without another thought.

6/22/10 @ 4:17 pm (reply)

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ktisthatbees (message) 2,742 posts, Sugar bee

i feel kind of middle of the road about this tradition. It doesn’t bother me or anything, but i just can’t see myself wanting to do it at our wedding.

6/22/10 @ 4:28 pm (reply)

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MissHelen (message) 2,440 posts, Buzzing bee

I used to love it because to me it’s a game…you catch the bouquet, you win a prize! I’m with LeahP in that I’m really sad I don’t get to try to catch it anymore…but we’re considering having everyone try to catch it for good luck!

6/22/10 @ 4:30 pm (reply)

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Miss Socks (message) 1,323 posts, Bumble bee

I don’t think I’ll do a bouquet toss–we won’t have a ton of single ladies. I’m not super opposed to it, but I just don’t think I want to take the time for the tradition, especially since Mr. Socks is SOO against a garter toss! I don’t think we’d want to do one without the other!

6/22/10 @ 4:38 pm (reply)

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Mrs. French Bulldog (message) 7,730 posts, Bee Keeper

I always thought the too was fun and always participated. In fact the only time I ever caught the bouquet was the wedding I went to right before Mr Frenchie proposed.

6/22/10 @ 4:47 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I don’t really care either way! We’re skipping it, but we won’t have many single girls at the wedding!

6/22/10 @ 4:48 pm (reply)

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Alison Z.

We’re skipping both the bouquet toss and the garter toss. As singles, we both always DREADED being practically shoved out onto the dance floor by our married friends and relatives at weddings… ugh. I know it’s a matter of choice for each couple which traditions they want to include, but personally, I just remember distinctly loathing that feeling … like it’s not bad enough you’re single at a wedding, but now you’ve got to get up in front of everyone and be reminded that you haven’t found that special someone yet. To cheesy music. The people I’ve talked to so far about this have all been thankful we’re leaving it out haha.

6/22/10 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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dookie32 (message) 176 posts, Blushing bee

I don’t really think when you are getting married in your 30s that it’s nice to make a spectacle of your other single friends in their 30s- just my opinion. The bouquet toss and the garter are automatic no’s for us.

6/22/10 @ 4:54 pm (reply)

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mebless (message) 512 posts, Busy bee

I love it actually!!! I feel like it’s almost like the bride is passing on her hope of love and a happy future to her female guests. I don’t see it as negative tradition; however, I have been with my fiancee for 8 years so I was never technically single for this tradition…

6/22/10 @ 5:02 pm (reply)

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Miss Ribbons (message) 2,018 posts, Buzzing bee

I was always slightly humiliated when I had to catch it. So I skipped

6/22/10 @ 5:04 pm (reply)

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anisley (message) 30 posts, Newbee

We are skipping the “traditional” bouquet and garter toss. All of our friends are married. We are doing a spin on it and having all the married couples come out to the dance floor. We’ll play a song and stop it every so often and by the end of the song the couple married the longest will be the only one standing. They will get the bouquet and garter.

6/22/10 @ 5:13 pm (reply)

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