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Our wedding save the dates do not contain any of these words: “save the date”, “mark your calendar”, “join us”, “hold the day”—not even “wedding” or “celebration”. As my glorious designer/printer/bridesmaid, Alana Bailey of Alana Bailey Brand, noted, “I’m so glad you’re not the type of bride that has to write ‘Save the Date’.”
But should I have been?
The only text on the card is the date of our wedding, the name of the island we are getting married on, and the url of our wedding website. But, will people get it???
Initially I had no hesitation. We are distributing the cards to less than a hundred people, mostly very close friends and family. “Of course they will get it!” They will see our names, which is also are website url, and go to the site for more information. It is there that they will find loads and loads of “save the dates,” “please join us for our weddings,” etc.
Once the save the dates went into the mail, I wondered if people went to the wedding website. We’ve had one response to the save the date, “the website is HOT!” And I have noticed it has been accessed many times. All good signs!
Did you omit the words “save the date” from your save the dates? Was there any confusion among your guests?
Even though ours DID say “save the date” and was only a postcard, some people still thought it was an invitation.
I never thought of that - I think they would get the meaning!
I cannot imagine anyone not getting the idea! I love your style for the card, its different, which sounds darling. I would be really surprised if someone looked at this and said, oh, they are getting married, and then not think they are invited so they dont need to plan for it! If you DO hear of someone that doesnt get it, I would love to know, so keep us updated!
Our wedding is “destination” too (we and 99% of our guests live in FL and we are getting married in TN) and we also did not write “save the date” or any synonymous phrase. We just had our names, the wedding date, and town we are getting married in. We also included a card to our wedding website. I haven’t heard about anyone being confused, so I think they all got it. 
I hadn’t ever thought about that! I have definitely seen them without the words “save the date” and I was never confused,haha. Glad to hear your guests are using your website! We haven’t had many use ours yet!
Ours said “Anchor the Date”, not save the date and we had people calling to RSVP to our wedding already! And some people, when we met them in person for the first time after sending STDs out, were all, “How come you didn’t include an RSVP card to send back! We’re not sure how to tell we’re [coming/not coming]! Should we tell you right now?”
*sigh* I hope you have fewer problems!
You can always add “Formal invitation to follow” if you are afraid your guests will be confused
Ours wasn’t about the Save the Dates but on our invites we didn’t put our parent’s names or our last names and people were confused about who we were…oops haha
I kind of find what she said offensive. Some of us have large guests lists (200+), full of people who wouldn’t go on our website for one reason or another. I think it all depends on how well you know your guests. If you know they’ll get it, then go for it! But I certainly don’t think idea of actually putting “Save the Date” on a STD is one of those bridal traditions we all try to get away from.
Some of my guests didn’t understand what it was, thought it was a really weird invite — and I had save the date actually printed on mine
what exactly does, “I’m so glad your not the type of bride who has to write Save the Date” mean? I am not sending STD’s, so the answer is irrelevant to me, but it does seem to lump a lot of brides into a negative category just because they have 3 little words on a piece of paper. Not offended, just curious. . .
We didn’t put our last names on our save the dates, so I think some people got confused by our generic first names. It happens. My take is… whatever, they’ll figure it out.
hahaha
We omitted “Save The Date” as well.
There were quite a few guests who thought it was the actual invite!
Even though we had Invitation To Follow.
we used save the date~ but our front cover was a picture of us and then you opened the card, my BM said that it reminded her of a christmas card but i did not care lol
The only reason I would want to put STD is so people dont think its the invitation however if we dont put Save the Date would be it ok to still put formal invitation to follow??
We also included “save the date” and I’ve had several people who thought it was an invitation. Nevermind that it was a magnet we included with our holiday cards. And although our wedding website counter claims that 580 people have visited our website, I’ve gotted TONS of questions that could have been answered by glancing at our website.
I put “Save the Date” on ours becase I’m sure plenty of my relatives had no idea what the point of it was. I included them in our holiday cards and I wrapped each magnet separately like a little present. On the gift wrap I wrote “We’re tying the knot” and “Formal invitation to follow.”
I accidentally deleted the letters “RSVP” from our rehearsal dinner invite and almost no one RSVP’d, despite the inclusion of our e-mail addy and a phone number. So, some people really need all of the information.
You know, I always assumed people knew what save the dates were, but my fmil got one around the time we got engaged and had no idea what it was, so we made sure to stamp save the date on ours, but mostly because it was pretty calligraphy and I love to emboss. Sounds liek veryone you knew got it though!
We did put Save the Date on our postcard but not ‘Formal Invivation to follow’ or a spcific mention of ‘the wedding of.’ Just our names, date, location, and URL.
Some people thought it was an invitation, still others just thought it was some kind of party. But I don’t know for what other occasions folks send out save the dates!
In hindsight, I probably would have added more details so it was clear to all! But who knows, folks are funny
I don’t think there is any reason you HAVE to include “Save the date” or anything like that. People will have heard that you are engaged - so they will know its about the wedding. Personally, I would still include something like “Formal invitation to follow” so that people realize that this isn’t your invitation though.
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Mrs. Pashmina, NYC/Catalina Island, CA Age and Occupation: 28, Arts Education Fiance's Age and Occupation: 34, IT Administrator Engagement Date: April 26th, 2009 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Catalina Country Club, Catalina Island, California About Me: I'm a laid-back Cali girl who moved to NYC for school, and ended up staying for love. My fiance is a quick-witted Jersey boy, a self-proclaimed Foodie and the funniest man I've ever met. Together we love exploring the city streets embarking on our next misadventure---and yes, this often involves eating off food carts and trying "the next big thing". I'm the girl in the sundress, snapping photos and collecting trinkets of memorabilia along the way. As a girly girl at heart, I am excited about our romantic natural island wedding incorporating our American & Filipino traditions.
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