Weddingbee Blog

Okay, I know am not talking enough about our wedding.

Ugh, wedding planning. Can’t someone else be in charge of that?

By which I mean, I am not talking about napkins. I am not talking about which chairs we picked and how we picked them (but yes, we did pick chairs), and I am certainly not talking about what our invitations look like (Ha! you think we have invitations! That’s funny).

I have two important reasons for the fact that you have been reading a lot of about our relationship, and not much about our wedding:

1. Our wedding is about my relationship. It’s not about the napkins! And I think that there are a lot of fantastic resources out there for people who want to talk about napkins and chairs, and I do not have a driving desire to be one of those resources. I think that there could stand to be a lot more resources talking about our relationships and what is hard about them and how we get through that. Give me some of the, “Here’s how we were realistic in the writing of our vows while maintaining hope and romance.” Give me some, “Here’s how to revel in this day that is one of your many important days, but for sure not the only one.” I’m not saying that this is what any of you, readers, should be writing about - I’m saying more that this is what I wish I was finding more of, and I’m hoping to be that for someone else who is looking for more of it.
2. Um, the other reason you haven’t really been hearing so much about the planning of our actual wedding is day is because… umm…. we haven’t really been doing any. Ooh look, a pretty bird!

Here is my to-do list. It’s very organized and specific, as you can see:

the *actual* to-do list I wrote this weekend. very helpful.

So here’s what happened: we hit a point where it’s just about waiting. We are waiting for and on a lot of things, like for my muslin suit to come in the mail and then for them to make the actual cloth version of it; for our invitations to be put together; for someone (ahem, that wouldn’t be me, of course, ahem) to make a decision about what favors we’re going to do, and then for someone to make those favors (oh look, another pretty bird!).

Okay, so a lot of what we’re waiting for would happen if we would stop waiting for it.

But there it is, folks - the reason you haven’t heard much about our wedding planning is because we’re just not doing it. We are still settling into our new home, which is coming along nicely. We are trying to be nice to each other. We are trying to stay friends with our friends, and to make enough money to get by. You know, we are living our life, and wedding planning is fun, and being prepared for our big wedding day is important, but it is not at the top of the list right now, and that is okay with me.

There are, though, some things you can look forward to hearing about soon:

• Our invitations! They are in the process of happening. By which I mean that our designer/awesome friend Lisa is waiting (again, we’re in a waiting stage right now) to hear from us about what we want the invitation to say. And we are waiting to be inspired? Sorry, Lisa.

potential phrases for our invites… i like “our awesome life” in there somewhere.

• My shoes! I found some! This post will not be exciting, but look! Wedding related!
• Um… our chairs? No, just kidding. Not something I care about.
• Favors! We’re waiting… to have time to make them? Whatever they end up being, they are for sure something I am excited about, and something I hope our guests are excited about, too.
• Possibly a bridal shower, but at the very least a picture of the pretty, pretty invitation I got for it.
• Bridesmaids dresses. OMG you should be on the edge of your seat by the time you get to this point in the list.

Oh, and here’s a question for you, friendly, patient-with-me readers: Are you at all interested in reading about our budget? Because I imagine that such a post will be agonizingly boring to write, but I always found it helpful and interesting to see other peoples’ budgets. Or will you just judge me? Yes, I am spending $500 on our venue. It’s rough leading my life. Really.

if you need me, I’ll be hiding under the covers. possibly reading about marriage. But probably not about weddings.

Please tell me about your favorite part of wedding planning - maybe I’ll get inspired and get back to it - and, if you’re feeling ambitious, tell me something you want to read about, and I will do my best to oblige. Have any of you hit the point where you’re hiding from your wedding? Even though it’s in, you know, less than 90 days? Is this a healthy or unhealthy habit? Hmm…