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I have a little problem. While I love rings and am so excited to wear my beautiful engagement/wedding ring for the rest of my life, Mr. Knitting has huge knuckles and is convinced he can’t wear a ring. At first I was a bit sad at the idea of him not wearing a wedding ring because I thought others might think that he’s not committed to our marriage. However, I got over my tiny bit of sadness when I remembered my father doesn’t wear a wedding ring and he and my mother have an incredibly happy marriage. I realized not wearing a wedding ring doesn’t signal any less of a commitment to me, and what do I care about what others think about my marriage?
However, I would like him to have something he could wear in place of wedding ring. I’m currently considering a wedding watch as a good option. I thought about wedding cuff links or a wedding tie clip, as I like the idea of jewelry, but I’m thinking he would prefer something that can be worn on a day to day basis. Also, in the 6 years that I’ve known Mr. Knitting he has never once worn cuff links or a tie clip so I’m guessing those aren’t items he’ll be wearing too often in the future.
A watch seems like a pretty good idea to me. He hasn’t owned a watch in a few years and would definitely love a new fancypants watch. It’s also something I could have engraved, which appeals to sentimental little me!
Hilariously, when I asked him to have a look at watches he likes, it turns out he’s a bit of a princess. Here’s what he came up with:
It’s a $7000 watch. Hahaha I don’t think so. I guess we don’t need to feed anyone at the wedding… (After he read this Mr. Knitting insisted I let all of you know that he didn’t really want a $7000 watch [with more diamonds than my ring], he just thought it was nice).
What do you think? Any other good suggestions? Have any of you considered an alternative to a wedding ring? Is there such thing as a nice adjustable wedding ring? I’d love to hear your ideas.
I have fat knuckles from cracking them my whole life, but skinny fingers … so my rings all used to spin if I got them big enough to fit over my knuckles
Then I found sizing balls. They allow the ring to fit over my knuckles, but keep it snuggly in place. Doesn’t spin at all.
Would this be an option for your fiance?
Here’s a pic: http://www.chicjewelry.com/SIZINGORBS.HTML
Well a friend of mine’s husband has their wedding date tattooed on his ring finger. That is pretty unique in my opnion:) Or what about a ring that fits over the knuckle and then you could add one of those little ring guard things to make it snug?
I think a watch is a fantastic idea because of the reason you said. You can engrave it! And he can wear it day to day or when you go out. I think thats perfect, maybe not $7000 but you can still get a nice watch for a reasonable price.
Oh girl, I totally understand! My husband has HUGE knuckles and teeny little skinny fingers to go with them. He was utterly convinced that he couldn’t wear a ring, but I, unlike you, was not particularly understanding about that and really REALLY wanted him to wear one. So we went an visited about 800 jewelers and found that a comfort fit ring, sized large enough to squeeze (a little tightly, but he was okay with that) over the knuckle and then sit loosely on the finger, was pretty comfortable for him. We opted to get a ring that won’t scratch so that he doesn’t have to worry about taking it off, ever. Once it’s on, it’s on. We’re keeping the sizing balls as an option, but he’s been wearing it for a month and the spinning isn’t bothering him. Rings can be found for men that think they can’t wear them! Otherwise…that’s an uber nice watch!
I think the watch is a great alternative if you can’t find a way to make the ring work or he really isn’t into it. While my fiance is going to wear a wedding ring, I’ve gifted him with two watches over the years. He ALWAYS wears one of them and it continues to make me smile when I see that.
If rings might not be his thing…. what does he think about getting inked? Me and future hubs plan to get wedding bands tattooed on our fingers as that way even if the rings get lost or broken or tarnished, we will always be wearing our wedding bands. =)
You should read about these rings:
http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2010/06/readers-dilemma-help-no-weddin.html
Oh… I totally didn’t see that katie mentioned it as well! Glad I’m not the only one in love with the idea of a tattoo wedding band.
My knuckles are also a bit wide, and I have the little balls inside my engagement ring. It works out really well!
However, my FI is not getting a ring. Why? Because (when he was married before), he never got hit on more than when he had his ring on- sad, but true! I think some women must see a man that can make a commitment or soemthing, not sure. Also, my FI is a chef, and wearing a ring is just annoying for him.
Never thought of a wedding watch! LOL!
The best things about weddings is somene else has had and conquered your problem before…3rd-ing the hinged ring! FI has the same issue.
Haha If your FI loves a watch like that you should check out some of the Bulovas I bought FI one that has similar detail and diamonds for around $800
Ugh. Mr. Seashell wants a “wedding watch” instead of a wedding ring too. I told him too bad.
Ditto the hinged ring - they’re fantastic. Otherwise - if you’re set on a watch, I recommend a Bulova or a Tissot - both great watches with good movements. They have really high-end watches, but they sell some moderately-priced ones too. I’ve bought my fiancee one of each over the years - the Bulova was around $350 and the Tissot was around $250 if memory serves.
I love this site. I have never even heard of a hinged ring until now!
I looked at watches, not for a replacement ring, but as a wedding present. Man, they’re crazy expensive. Glad everyone has ideas on how to conquer the problem.
HA. Love the “hahaha I don’t think so.” Now he knows what it feels like when they do it to us 
I have to suggest the hinged ring too! they are brilliant! My mom has terrible arthritis and her wedding ring wasn’t going over her swollen knuckes anymore…so they went and had it re-fit with a hinge. It’s amazing!
As my FI doesn’t wear any jewelry nor wants to wear one (plus it would be very impractical as jewelry isn’t allowed at work and having to take it of constantly would make a wedding band really prone to getting lost heh) - I’ll be giving him a watch instead of a ring as well. I kinda feel it would a) not be right of me to force him to get a weddingband if he really doesnt want one and b) a waste of money to buy a wedding band he won’t wear. So I opted for C) the wedding watch! We found a real pretty one (~1000dollar, which I think is an insane amount for a watch but well tis his wedding ‘band’ and he’s gonne be cherising it for the rest of his life so tis well worth it imho, plus my wedding ring is even more expensive /grin) — I love that it can also be engraved, and well, I am really quite happy with it.
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Mrs. Knitting, Toronto Age and Occupation: 24, Student Recruitment Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Neuroscience PhD Candidate Engagement Date: October 2009 Wedding Date: December 2010 Venue: University of Toronto Faculty Club About Me: I'm a pearl wearing, etiquette book reading Toronto girl who loves cooking and baking, museums, charm bracelets, and collecting books on Jackie Kennedy (a lot). I've been known to spend Sunday mornings at the antique market, Wednesday evenings at sister sushi dinners, and any bit of spare time reading. After six and a half years of many late night walks, watching DVDs together in bed, travelling to places like New York, and Tobermory, doing Sudokus together on the couch, lots of Indian food, the occasional yoga class, moving in together and so much more, Mr. Knitting and I are planning a cozy Christmasy (it's a word!), vintage wedding in Toronto complete with many DIY projects (eek!) and lots of help from our amazing group of family and friends.
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