Keeping It In Perspective

Keeping It In Perspective

June 29th, 2010 @ 8:39 am by Mrs. Knitting
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I have decided that I actively need to calm down about wedding planning and learn to laugh. I care a lot about this wedding and as a result I think I’m in danger of taking everything too seriously. I really really want to be able to laugh at all the ridiculous things that are likely to happen. Seriously, Mrs. Perfume’s ugly cake that tasted bad is one of the funniest things I’ve ever read, and clearly her wedding was still incredibly gorgeous and memorable even if she didn’t like the cake.

The problem is that because I don’t have a “go with the flow” type of personality, being able to take a step back from something I really care about is really hard for me. I also tend to take things pretty personally, which really doesn’t help when you’re planning a wedding. I know everyone says that the important thing is that in the end you’ll be married and that’s all that matters, but I don’t find that advice very helpful. I’m more like, “Yes, I’ll be married but everyone will think our wedding is awful because of (some ultimately unimportant thing that no one will notice but me).

That being said, I am now officially going to be making a huge effort to just calm down and laugh at all the ridiculous things that are going to happen. I suspect those are the things that make the best stories.

Anyone have any tips for keeping it all in perspective? Married ladies - did anyone have a wedding disaster that after the fact was hilarious?

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15 Responses to “Keeping It In Perspective”

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

I think just recognizing this is important, so you’re well on your way! I decided early on that I was NOT going to be a stressed-out basketcase for an entire year before our wedding and was determined to make it all FUN. It’s a mindset that takes some time to get used to but it’s worth working towards, for sure! WB helps a lot with that too!

6/29/10 @ 8:52 am (reply)

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6/29/10 @ 9:01 am (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I am with you 100% on this one! I am not the type of person to just let things go either, but I’m already focusing on making sure I have that attitude with the wedding. I think that like Trail Mix said, just recognizing that this is what you want to do will make a big difference!

6/29/10 @ 9:15 am (reply)

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moderndaisy (message) 6,607 posts, Bee Keeper

It takes a village to allow you to be calm about your wedding and roll with the punches. Some people will try to stress you out or rain on your parade, but others will lift you up high and make you feel like a million bucks. Stay close to those supportive people and take the others with a grain of salt.

We did have someone close to us after the fact do nothing but complain about the 2 year old screaming through our vows. Instead of saying “That was the most fabulous cocktail hour I’ve ever been to!” or “That band was absolutely amazing!” all this person said was how annoying it was that the kid was screaming. I actually felt sorry for this person, because it was clearly said out of jealousy, intentionally trying to bring us down from cloud 9 (where we still are BTW).

6/29/10 @ 9:22 am (reply)

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AnamCara (message) 1,135 posts, Bumble bee

I didn’t freak out about anything but one of the things I could slap my forehead about is the fact that I was short centerpieces…I think 2 or 3? I really don’t know. A friend of mine is a professional event planner and she was DOC so she grabbed some glass mugs and plopped the bridesmaids’ bouquets into them. Voila - centerpieces! I didn’t have a clue until well into the reception….just didn’t matter!!!

6/29/10 @ 9:41 am (reply)

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ejs4y8 (message) 14,581 posts, Bee Keeper

My husband stripped down to a t-shirt with his vest (very hoosier!) and it’s now pretty darn funny. We have photos of us dancing to Piano Man and he’s in his t-shirt and vest and i’m in my nice dress and all our friends are in a circle around us singing. It’s a pretty cute and true-to-us photo of not being too uptight. Then again, I think a few glasses of wine and the fact it was 1045pm helped, too

6/29/10 @ 9:52 am (reply)

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Mrs. Parfait (message) 1,755 posts, Buzzing bee

You’ll be fine. : ) I’m the same way—I always care too much. But I made an agreement with myself to worry up until the wedding day, then completely let go and let whatever happened happen. It was awesome–I was genuine smiles all day!

6/29/10 @ 10:32 am (reply)

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ktisthatbees (message) 2,742 posts, Sugar bee

I am with you on this one. I will care about the little things no matter how much people tell me that it won’t matter. I’m getting better though. . .I think. . .

6/29/10 @ 10:38 am (reply)

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

I’m calm in ways, but, since I found out we have to decorate ourselves for our 12 noon wedding, I’m a little more crazy. I’ve done everything myself and I want to continue on that path.

6/29/10 @ 12:03 pm (reply)

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Miss Pin Cushion (message) 1,012 posts, Bumble bee

Here here!!! I’m with ya!

6/29/10 @ 12:11 pm (reply)

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winter (message) 1,333 posts, Bumble bee

i completely understand what you mean. i was like that about the drinking alcohol at the wedding and even almost lost my MOH during the whole thing but she understood and I just let people have fun no matter what

6/29/10 @ 1:49 pm (reply)

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Lisa

At the rehearsal dinner, one couple came in late and complained about how HORRIBLE the directions were. I planned the wedding from out of state and had written the directions based on Google maps. My MIL didn’t think to include directions with the invitations to the dinner, so a few days before the wedding I sent them in an email to my family and my in-laws. But someone must have forwarded it on to this couple I didn’t know. Anyway, out of the blue, and in a great panic, my future MIL started urging me to go try some of the appetizers on the other side of the room. She thought I was going to get upset, but I just thought it was funny.

6/29/10 @ 8:03 pm (reply)

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Miss Socks (message) 1,323 posts, Bumble bee

I’m not exactly the “go with the flow” kind of person either, so I’m trying to figure it out myself! Haha, no advice, but I can definitely relate!

6/29/10 @ 9:55 pm (reply)

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Miss Taco (message) 950 posts, Busy bee

I still take everything way too seriously, unfortunately. I think when you have it all mapped out in your head, it’s incredibly frustrating, though understandable, when people outside of, um, your head don’t get it.

But just literally laugh out loud; I find this helps me. When people are freaking out and even when you are freaking yourself out. Keep something cute and/or hilarious on hand for just these occasions!

7/6/10 @ 5:15 pm (reply)

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