Wait, What?!

I woke up this morning, and was leisurely going through my morning routine. Check Weddingbee”¦ check my email”¦ read some blogs”¦ hmm, I wonder how many days left until the wedding”¦ check our countdown on the Knot”¦ oh look! Less than 200 days. Cool.

WAIT, WHAT?! Less than 200 days?! How did that happen? When Mr. C and I first got engaged, we had over 500 days until the wedding, and now we’re in the 100s?!

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You see, that’s the problem with long engagements. You get engaged and start telling people your wedding is 16 months away, and they say “Oh! You have plenty of time!” and then they don’t take your wedding seriously. People laugh at you when you start looking at venues and photographers 15 months out, and when you attend a bridal show at 13 months, most of the vendors seem to think you’re crazy.

When you start planning DIY projects, everyone treats you like you’re just a cute little kid who is a bit over-excited about something. You ask your fiance for his opinion on something, and he says “Eh, we have a ton of time to decide on that!”

Suddenly, all of these people start to convince you that maybe you don’t have to plan so early. You have plenty of time, right? You don’t NEED to start folding flowers with a year to go. You have time. So you relax. And you slow down, and you start telling yourself “I have lots of time, I can do that later!”

Then, one morning you wake up, and realize “HOLY CRAP, I have less than 200 days!” And then the panic attack hits you.

Okay, maybe it’s not quite that dramatic, but I really have let myself relax, maybe a little too much. We have just a little over 6 months until our wedding, and I still haven’t talked to a single florist, nor have I really researched them at all. I have no idea what I want to do for our centerpieces, and I have about 17 different DIY projects that I have started and left incomplete.

I need to get my butt in gear! So, I’m setting a goal for myself. By the time we reach the 5 month mark,

  1. All of our Kusudama flowers will be folded.
  2. I will have decided on centerpieces, and will be collecting items for them.
  3. I will have a florist booked!
  4. I will have begun purchasing accessories (jewelry, veil, etc.) for myself.
  5. I will complete at least one other DIY project.

Whew. It doesn’t look so bad in that little bitty list, but those are all things that I’m having a seriously hard time getting motivated to do, so I’m going to make myself take care of them! I’ll be sure to check back in once we hit 5 months and let you know if I made my goal!

What would go on your list to complete in the next month? Did you let a long engagement get you too relaxed about getting things done? Let’s tackle this together ”“ we can do it!

BLOGGER

Mrs. Cardigan

Location:
Austin
Wedding Date:
January 2011
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    jacky, Guest @ 1:07 pm

    thats very exciting that things are moving quickly for you , but also stressful i imagine, recently my friend who is also a soon to be bride told me about this company called taskrabbit.com, this company allows you to hire background checked individuals called runners to do your tasks for you , such as pick things up deliver items , moving and the list goes on. This is a great service for soon to be brides that might need help getting things done on time for the big day

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    kaymaroo 78 posts, Worker bee @ 1:08 pm

    How exciting for you! Don’t worry, those momentary bouts of panic give way to more calm–it comes in waves but goes away again. Today I hit the 10-day mark (eek!). Yesterday I was a wreck, today I’m totally zen. Tomorrow…who knows?

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    SandraMarie_1986 1363 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:22 pm

    Yes, I have been researching like crazy but with some of our bills, it’s already been 6 months of our 18 month engagement without anything being done. Seriously stressed me out when I thought about it. :(

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    animated_librarian 290 posts, Helper bee @ 2:34 pm

    I just looked it up and I hit the 100 day mark today! Oh boy. The invitations should be in any day now, the honeymoon is not fully booked yet, I still need to reserve our wedding night hotel, my florist has not gotten my quote to me yet, my next fitting is on the 19th, I need to buy hair accessories….oh my. On the positive side I have venue, catering, hair and make-up, photographer, part of the honeymoon, shoes, dress and invitations figured out…oh my.

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    Fortune Cookie 29 posts, Newbee @ 3:16 pm

    Lol, I had the same reaction when I logged in to The Knot and it said “95 days until your wedding”. After I picked my jaw up off the floor, I had a panic attack and now I think I’ve got it under control. I totally feel your pain, just make sure your to-do list consists of small, easy to complete tasks rather than large ones that if feels like you’ll never check off and you’ll be fine!!

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    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:25 pm

    if you’re under the 200 day mark, that means we are too….ahhhhh!!! Nobody panic!!! *starts to make lists everywhere*

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    brooch 1760 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:35 am

    I love this post because it’s exactly what we’re going through. We’ve been engaged since last October and did pretty much nothing (but get overwhelmed with all the ideas, inspiration, and options out there) until now… when we’re less than a year out (where did the time go?) and needing to book vendors asap. Don’t stress! We’re trying not too. Can’t wait to see those DIY projects AND your centerpieces (I actually have no idea what I want either, eky!)

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    winter 1333 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:21 am

    that is EXACTLY how i felt! when we chose a date those 400 something days went by really fast!

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    msjellyfish 1453 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:37 am

    I feel like I could have written this! Our engagement was 19 months, and we’re at 58 days out now. After the 100 day mark, time FLIES. I got lazy and put stuff off because it seemed so far away, and now I fear I’ll be scrambling! Oh well, such is life.

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    tiffinapit 264 posts, Helper bee @ 3:18 am

    We got engaged December 2007, and began actively pursuing the idea of an actual wedding July 2009. I have gotten all of the skeptical reactions you described to a T, and then a lot of “Wow-you’re really smart!” It depends who you’re talking to. But, we have secured vendors and our venue at killer deals and we have the luxury of making payments along the way. That is crucial for us since I’m a student and stay-at-home mom. He is the only one working for pay so we need flexibility!
    I am tackling things as I can, but most procrastination is due to a lack of funds as opposed to motivation. This summer I am going to get it all done before I start Nursing school this fall. EEK! I have 380 days, its gonna fly by! Good luck in the next 199! :-)

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    Lo 538 posts, Busy bee @ 12:17 pm

    We got engaged 3 months ago and are just now at the 1 year mark and people keep telling me to slow down and i have plenty of time including my mom and FI. However I was able to book the last summer date at our venue 3 months ago and our chosen photographer has already had requests for our date so I feel a lot better getting the big things booked early. The whole point of a long engagement was to have time to plan and enjoy the process.

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