My Dad Told Me My Wedding Doesn’t Count

My Dad Told Me My Wedding Doesn’t Count

July 14th, 2010 @ 4:07 pm by Mrs. Cardigan
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Yup. He sure did.

It all went down when we were at my cousin’s wedding a couple of weekends ago. We were sitting in our chairs, patiently waiting for the wedding to start, and their musician for the ceremony came out - a friend of theirs who was going to be playing guitar.

My dad leans over to me: “How in the world is that guy going to play ‘Here Comes the Bride’ on a guitar?”
I smiled at him (silly dad!) and replied: ”Well, they’re probably not going to play the Bridal March! I’m sure he’ll be playing something else.”

My dad pondered this for a moment, with a look like this on his face:

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“WHAT?! How can you have a wedding without ‘Here Comes the Bride’?! This is horrible!”

…I paused for a moment, hid my face, and sheepishly muttered: “I’m not using it either…”

His face morphed from the slightly humorous confused face to something more along these lines:

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“WHAAAAAAAAAAT?!?!?!?!?!?! You have to play ‘Here Comes the Bride’! It’s not a wedding without that song! You’re not getting married!!!!”

Of course, he was joking (kind of), but it completely caught me off guard that my dad was that invested in what music is played as I walk down the aisle. In all honesty, I briefly considered changing my mind and playing the traditional music, because my dad was genuinely upset about my decision to be a little more non-traditional. Of course, I’m going to end up sticking to my guns on this one and playing what I want, but I didn’t know how to react when he was so upset! I assured him that the music I will be using is beautiful and very meaningful to me, but he just kept shaking his head and looking from me to Mr. Cardigan with this look of disbelief on his face.

My dad is pretty set in his ways as a traditionalist when it comes to weddings, if you can’t tell. Somehow, I don’t think I’m going to get him to see it my way. I wonder how he is going to react when I tell him that all the guys are wearing Converse and I’d like to buy him some to wear too?

Were any of your family members shocked at some of your more non-traditional choices?

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43 Responses to “My Dad Told Me My Wedding Doesn’t Count”

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Mrs. Hermit Crab (message) 3,564 posts, Sugar bee

oy Dads!

7/14/10 @ 4:17 pm (reply)

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ktisthatbees (message) 2,742 posts, Sugar bee

mmm new post? hmm I could have sworn I’d already read this. . .anyways Cardy, that is funny about your dad

7/14/10 @ 4:17 pm (reply)

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Miss Socks (message) 1,323 posts, Bumble bee

ahhhh hahahah I’m sure he’ll come around…Oh I know my dad has had those faces a few times when I’ve mentioned prices!

7/14/10 @ 4:17 pm (reply)

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kfowler (message) 44 posts, Newbee

One of the shockers of our wedding were our colors: pink and brown. We had originally gone with yellow, but couldn’t find bridesmaid dresses in that specific color, so we changed to pink and brown. The groomsmen wore black tuxedos with brown undershirts, which we didn’t know how they would look. Many people questioned our decisions, but on our wedding day, the groomsmen looked very handsome!

7/14/10 @ 4:19 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

@ktisthatbees: No, not a new post - it was written a few months ago. Currently, archives are still being pulled from my blog.

7/14/10 @ 4:24 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

Heehee, dads are funny that way but on the day of, it will all be hunky dory since he’ll be so emotional about it all anyways!

7/14/10 @ 4:28 pm (reply)

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Miss Seahorse (message) 156 posts, Blushing bee

I have been shocked at what my family feels strongly about! They’re often all, “Why do you need dresses? Why so fancy? Why a caterer?” but when I mentioned we might play the ipod for the processional my mother was *shocked.* She insisted we have live music. Mostly it was funny… the things they do and don’t care about are surprising!

7/14/10 @ 4:29 pm (reply)

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camrie (message) 3,044 posts, Sugar bee

I get all kinds of crazy look when I mention things I think are common due to my exhaustive perusing of wedding blogs.

We’re not using the Wedding March either (I don’t like it because to me it seems too generic - plus we’ll be having a guitarist as well). I’d rather pick a nice arrangement of a song I know so it becomes of one of those things that when you hear it you think “I got married to this!”

7/14/10 @ 4:33 pm (reply)

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june42011 (message) 3,019 posts, Sugar bee

My dad has crazy feelings toward certain things. I mentioned I wasn’t going to wear a blusher and I thought he was going to break down in tears. He was SO upset! I am now wearing a blusher…

7/14/10 @ 4:41 pm (reply)

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Gilneas (message) 1,393 posts, Bumble bee

I think my fiance’s family feels pretty much this way about our entire wedding ceremony. I don’t think they’ve ever been to a wedding that wasn’t in a church.

7/14/10 @ 4:46 pm (reply)

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kpugsley (message) 29 posts, Newbee

Processional music is one thing my FI and I found ourselves completely at odds about, lol. I adamantly do NOT want to walk down to “Here Comes the Bride”…FI is/was adamant that I DO.

I won that one though, and I’m walking down to “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles instead.

7/14/10 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

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Miss Thimble (message) 807 posts, Busy bee

Cardy! My goodness I thought this post was goiing to be about something way more serious, lol! My dad has been cool, but my mom has been surprising me with her traditional ways. More on that later

7/14/10 @ 4:56 pm (reply)

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Mrs. D'orsay (message) 2,272 posts, Buzzing bee

um… I’m just happy you included a pic of Rpatz on here. Is that wrong?

7/14/10 @ 4:59 pm (reply)

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Baileyh (message) 3,490 posts, Sugar bee

My Fi’s dad is pretty persistent that the ceremony be something traditional and classic bc he marks it as a service. He told us after we sign the papers we can have fun and play more light music bc then it becomes a celebration.

I dont agree…i think the whole day should be a celebration…:)

7/14/10 @ 5:06 pm (reply)

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Miss Earrings (message) 2,477 posts, Buzzing bee

haha. Yeah some of my relatives think what we are doing is just wrong, but hey it isnt their wedding so I dont care Thankfully my parents and his parents are on board with what we want to do though…I would have trouble saying “i dont care” about them!

7/14/10 @ 5:09 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Hamster (message) 4,046 posts, Honey bee

I was too distracted by that picture of RP to read any more…(swoon).

7/14/10 @ 5:10 pm (reply)

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Piccateer (message) 165 posts, Blushing bee

You can always use the argument that the “Bridal March” is taken from an opera that ends with everyone dying - I’m so not joking on that one. The Bride (Elsa) ends up dying from the grief of her husband leaving her because he has a holy mission of sorts. I guess it is still celebratory at the moment it happens in the opera, but it weirded me out when I thought about the work as a whole.

7/14/10 @ 5:31 pm (reply)

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Mamasita2004 (message) 311 posts, Helper bee

Yeppers!!!!! I think the two things the biggest things that left our folks in shock were:

1. We are not inviting EVERYONE we know. Due to the venue size, we can only fit so many in comfortably. Our rule is: If we have not sat down to have a meal with the person/family in the past year (and they do not live in another state), then they are not getting invited.

2. We are not going to have flowers. The only flowers will be the baby’s breath centerpieces.

3. We aren’t using a videographer. We love pictures, and we will have a photographer, but that is it.

7/14/10 @ 5:47 pm (reply)

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Mamasita2004 (message) 311 posts, Helper bee

Oops,that’s three. Lol, can’t count today.

7/14/10 @ 5:55 pm (reply)

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jgoulart (message) 1,069 posts, Bumble bee

Wait, RPatz say what? I mean, my hubs was shocked when I told him that noone really uses “here comes the bride” anymore. LOL. Times are a changing guys!

7/14/10 @ 5:55 pm (reply)

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