First Wedding Nightmare

First Wedding Nightmare

July 14th, 2010 @ 2:41 pm by Ms Seahorse
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I’ve been reading some other peoples’ wedding blogs and various people have posted about wedding nightmares. Not, “it was a nightmare!” but actual, “I went to sleep and dreamed that the back of my dress was missing or no one showed up or the cake was made out of dirt.” And I was like, “Silly brides, don’t worry! You’ll be fine.”

Well, last night I had my first wedding nightmare. And I know other peoples’ dreams are really boring to read about, so I’ll try to keep it brief: I dreamed that suddenly it turned out that TOMORROW was September and it was our wedding day and we were getting married. And that was that. Only everything was sort of in real time, so our dress fitting isn’t until next Tuesday and my suit - the muslin version - hasn’t even arrived in the mail. Oh, and our vows are written only in the sense that we have a pageful of phrases.

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I think giant red clips add a nice little something do a wedding, don’t you?

So yes, my DreamSelf could have stood up there in a dress that’s a little too long with her fiancee in a dress that’s a little too loose (we could pin it in back, I guess?) and say things like, “I promise to always find time to play with you, I vow to slow down, I thee wed.” Sweet.

I suspect that this is happening because 2 months is creeping up next week, and then from there we’re talking weeks to go: 7 weeks, 6 weeks - I know that it’s more than a month, but it’s just weeks. Also, I’ve been trying to stay calm by reminding myself that all we need is each other and the people surrounding us - but my lovely dream last night reminded me that while we don’t need dresses that fit perfectly, it turns out that is something that I care about.

Any countdown advice? I was the kid in school who went back and forth between two extremes: I was either up the night before starting a paper or I had finished it three weeks earlier. There was never a gradual progression of studying/paper writing, and this whole wedding planning thing is a gradual process. But everything will be okay, right?

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me, dressed as a bride who is FREAKING OUT

Okay, yes, it will, and I know that. But any advice on trusting that everyone else will be ready (suit-makers, caterers, bridesmaids in dresses, people who are making quilt squares if we ever actually send them the cloth)? This is definitely the right way to start a Wednesday - stressed out and ready to do something about it.

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I had my first wedding nightmare a few nights ago too! I dreamed that it was the night before the wedding and none of my bridesmaids had dresses at all. Very random. I wish I had some advice, but I’m going to be just as freaked out as you when we get that close!

7/14/10 @ 2:52 pm (reply)

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

Tomorrow will make a month and I’m so far behind. I, like Miss Cardy, had a dream that none of the bridesmaid had dresses.

7/14/10 @ 3:00 pm (reply)

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daniellemybelle (message) 2,520 posts, Sugar bee

I so identify with this. It will be okay, coming from someone who has crossed over.

Mostly I’m commenting to say - pretty dress!

7/14/10 @ 3:01 pm (reply)

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daniellemybelle (message) 2,520 posts, Sugar bee

(I just realized they are different. I kinda meant the last one. I like the halter neckline. Okay bye.)

7/14/10 @ 3:02 pm (reply)

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tritaratops (message) 110 posts, Blushing bee

I’ve had the same dream! The wedding was the next day, but nothing had progressed planning-wise from present day. But in my dream the wedding still went off without a hitch (we made it work—wore a regular dress I had, didn’t have programs, etc).
I’ve had this dream 4 times already and we are still a year out.

7/14/10 @ 3:09 pm (reply)

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Miss Seahorse (message) 156 posts, Blushing bee

@tritaratops: ah, four times?!

Sane me keeps saying, “All we need is each other,” but dream me/freaked out me has realized we need more than that! But then sane me is back with, “No seriously, just each other. Just maybe get going on that whole writing your vows thing.”

7/14/10 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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swoonoverit (message) 16 posts, Newbee

For what it’s worth, I had SO MANY nightmares leading up to my wedding that when I walked down the aisle there were no nerves whatsoever. Because I had, afterall, done it a thousand times already in my dreams/nightmares.

My best advice is just to take a deep breath and remind yourself about the meaning of the day. No matter what you’ll still be marrying the love of your life - what does it matter if a few things aren’t as planned, right?

7/14/10 @ 3:16 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

Make a list of everything you can think of that needs to get done and then try to cross one thing off each day, even if it’s really silly, little things…That really helped me, to see everything written out and see what had to be done and what I had already taken care of!

7/14/10 @ 3:30 pm (reply)

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meggyo (message) 323 posts, Helper bee

i had pretty much that exact dream. the most recent one was that for some reason we had to go to a train station to pick something up the day of the wedding and we ended up missing all the of the pictures before the ceremony and i couldn’t even shower or have my hair done. so we just went straight to the ceremony with my hair in a pony tail. i seriously woke up stressed out! and i don’t even care that much about details in the non-dream world!

7/14/10 @ 3:31 pm (reply)

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Katie

I’ve had that exact same dream about three or four times now, begining about 9 months out when we had only booked a reception site and bought a dress (no groom attire, no food, no cake, etc.!). The only good news for me is that the dream gets much less anxiety provoking each time.

7/14/10 @ 3:38 pm (reply)

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winter (message) 1,333 posts, Bumble bee

awwwwwi hated those dreams! just dont believe in them as soon as the wedding was over…they have stopped. it’s probably just because you have the wedding in your mind. i know it’s hard to say to just forget about it but that’s the only way really to.

7/14/10 @ 3:40 pm (reply)

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October4040 (message) 118 posts, Blushing bee

I can’t tell you how many dreams, er nightmares, I’ve had about my wedding. One was that my invitations that I ordered online didn’t arrive til after the wedding (I actually just got them on Monday), that my wedding party didn’t have their bouquets, etc. I wish I’d have a dream where everything goes great for once!

7/14/10 @ 3:58 pm (reply)

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Terrier (message) 16 posts, Newbee

i’ve had that same exact dream! like whatever I have done right now is all that is done on my wedding day.

i talked to my friend (who is getting married in september) and she has also had this dream. makes me feel a little less crazy.

7/14/10 @ 4:14 pm (reply)

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afuturemrsl (message) 728 posts, Busy bee

I LITERALLY had that same dream last night but mine is over a year away so NOTHING is done.

7/14/10 @ 4:19 pm (reply)

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something.blue (message) 255 posts, Helper bee

I was in freakout mode about the same time, there’s A LOT still to do, but then, you start getting stuff done!

Take my most recent dream from last week, so from 5 weeks out: We are at the ceremony, FI and I are wearing sheets (??) and old navy flip flops (although I was wearing the ones in our wedding colors!) The ceremony starts and I process (with him!?) and I can’t.stop.smiling.

We go to a strange room to the side and start eating a la last super with all the far off family that RSVP’ed no. (I wish I could make this stuff up) and I can’t see my priest give his homily. I’m thinking, I wish Bill (Priest) gave us better seats!) But I’m sitting with my FI, eating bread, literally bursting of smiles.

I woke up thinking, I cannot wait to be that smiling person, whether I’m wearing flip flops surrounded by RSVP’ing-No family members (or if vows were’t written, it WOULD come to you!)!

For now, I’d follow Mrs. Trail Mix and live by lists.

7/14/10 @ 4:30 pm (reply)

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Miss Seahorse (message) 156 posts, Blushing bee

@something.blue: aww, your dream is so sweet!
note to self: remember you’ll be smiling.

7/14/10 @ 4:36 pm (reply)

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jlgdis (message) 14 posts, Newbee

I had a nightmare last night that the DJ wasn’t playing any of our songs.. none of the songs we have requested for dinner or our entrance songs.

I’ve also had the “I blacked out” and our wedding happened anyway dream, which was pretty sad since other than seeing red (not our colors) table cloths I didn’t remember anything.

You will get it done though, don’t worry! And I’ve been telling myself, get the things I really need done and everything else if it gets done, great.. if not, we probably won’t miss it anyway.

7/14/10 @ 4:47 pm (reply)

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Miss Puzzle (message) 3 posts, Wannabee

I just had my first wedding nightmare this week!
It requires some background info…
My parents really want me to get married in my hometown, and therefore the church I grew up in. I do NOT want this, because there will be literally1000 people there. I have chosen to have the ceremony where my fiance and I live, which is at the beach in NC. One of the many reasons I dont want to get married at hometown church is because I think I will be obligated to include people in the wedding I do not want there. I will also have a LOT less control.

So in my dream I am waiting to go into the church at my wedding in hometown church…and I dont have any makeup on or my hair done. I look at my bridesmaids and I have 10 of them, mostly people my mother would want me to include. They have purple dresses, and as I walk down the aisle to a contemporary christian song my mom loves (gag). The ceremony procedes to be filled with country music…thank god i woke up after that. it was awful.

7/14/10 @ 6:41 pm (reply)

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dns567 (message) 459 posts, Helper bee

i had that exact same dream a few weeks ago!!

7/14/10 @ 8:36 pm (reply)

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jackiet314 (message) 45 posts, Newbee

I have also had a similar dream about a month ago, 4 months out from my wedding. It was like real time in that the stuff I have gotten done in real life was done, but it was my wedding day, so things that i hadn’t done in real life weren’t done. In the dream I was just like “oh well, this is my day, I’ll have fun anyway” and rolled with it. i think its just the stress of trying to get everything done!

Here’s to no more wedding nightmares!!!!

7/14/10 @ 8:50 pm (reply)

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