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Not many people know this, but I have a secret regarding my proposal. I kinda, sorta, maybe knew it would be coming.

The truth is that about a little over a year ago Mr. Locket called me at work and asked if I would be willing to trade in my promise ring (which he had gotten for me on Christmas, only a few months earlier). The conversation went a little like this:

Me: ” Umm, what! Why? You just got me this ring and I love it!”

Mr. Locket: “Because I found the perfect engagement ring for you and I want to buy it.”

Me: “Uhhhh… are you sure you are ready for that? And, why are you telling me this?” (keep in mind, at this point, Mr L led me to believe he wouldn’t be ready to marry anytime soon)

Mr. Locket: “Well, I am not ready right now, but I might be in 6 months and I don’t want to miss out on the great price the ring is being sold for.”

Me: “I dunno, my finger would feel so naked without my ring and I wouldn’t have anything for God knows how long. Maybe if I knew what the ring looked like? I feel weird about getting rid of a ring I love that holds sentimental value for something I might not like. You know how our styles and tastes can differ.”

Mr. Locket: “I really wish you would trust me on this. Okay, well why don’t we go look at 3 different styles after you finish work and you can tell me which ones you like and if it happens to be the one I picked then you will never know.”

Me: “Okay, that sounds good.”

So a few hours later Mr. Locket picked me up from work and we went to the jeweler and I tried on 3 rings. Unfortunately, I wasn’t too fond of any of the rings and I especially wasn’t fond of one of them. When Mr. Locket saw my distaste for the one ring I could tell it was the one he loved. To ease the blow I explained how it was a great ring, but it didn’t work on my finger. He wasn’t too bummed about it so we looked at other rings and finally came across one that we both liked. At the time it was the perfect ring of them all. It had princess cut stones and diamonds all around and I just loved it. Not to mention it was basically a much larger version of the promise ring he had given me months before. In all the excitement (and with some sales strategy pushing him forward) he bought the ring while I was there and warned I would not be getting it right away. I left feeling giddy and was full of smiles knowing that my engagement was just lurking around the corner. Admittedly, this is how I came to find Weddingbee! I Google searched something along the lines of “What to do when boyfriend has ring, but won’t propose…” and it brought me here to the boards where I met many other eager and giddy waiting bees.

This is the ring set we left with:

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Well, that giddy feeling soon faded. Time went by and all I could think about was that darn ring and how it was still not on my finger. I began wondering what was taking him so long and I wasn’t so quiet about my impatience. The hardest part was that I had to pretend I didn’t know about the ring and played dumb every time a family member or friend called to get an “update” on my life. Poor Mr. Locket was getting attacked from every direction. Because he had told friends and family about the pending proposal he was not only getting slack from me, but from them as well. After about 2 months of having the ring in his possession Mr. Locket had had enough and felt the pressure to propose to be too overwhelming. He wanted to do it on his own time and without me expecting it would happen (he should have thought of this before he bought a ring in front of me).

He made a huge point to return the ring and made it clear to me that he wasn’t doing it for show. With all the pressure from everyone (including myself) he felt like proposing to me was no longer his decision and he didn’t want to do it for the sake of pleasing everyone. He wanted to propose because he was ready and because he wanted to. I watched him leave to bring the ring back and as the door closed shut I cried. I cried a lot. I am pretty sure I was still in bed crying when he returned home and I didn’t care how it looked, I was upset.

After a couple days of being mopey and bummed out I knew I needed to get over it for the sake of our relationship. And, that’s what I did. I decided to take on the mindset that the ring never existed because before that we were happy and carefree. A couple weeks went by and we were back to being as happy as clams and when I was least expecting it I got the proposal I had been waiting for. The ring was different and absolutely perfect and the timing couldn’t have been better. He proposed on his own time and gave me the surprise of a lifetime.

And if you haven’t seen it yet, here’s my ring:

Did you know your proposal was looming? Did you have trouble while you waited?