- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee Blog
I’ve heard a lot of people say their wedding day was the best day of their life or that they expect it to be the best day of their life and I just can’t relate. I do not expect my wedding to be the best day of my life and, frankly, future me is going to be pretty disappointed if it is.
I love this guy, but marrying him better not be the high point of our lives:
Don’t get me wrong, I am so excited for our wedding and I know it will be a very special day. It might even be the best party I ever attend, simply because I’m going to be surrounded by all my favourite people (and a couple strangers!). However, despite how excited I am and how much effort I’m putting into the wedding I really don’t want it to be the best day of my life.
I sincerely hope that one day Mr. Knitting and I will have professional successes that make me even happier and more proud of myself and my husband than our wedding day. I firmly believe that we will have happier moments with our future children and I suspect that becoming parents may in fact be one of the best days of our lives. Who knows, it might even be a completely random day that ends up being the best day of my life.
Basically it comes down to the fact that while I expect my marriage to be an integral and very precious part of my life, I do not expect or want my wedding day to be the best day of my life. It will be a day, it will be amazing, it won’t be the best.
Where do you stand on this?
I totally get that one’s wedding shouldn’t be the pinnacle of their life. I want so many more things out of life, that I hope things just keep going up and up and up from here. So best point in our lives? No. But best singular day? It just might be!
I agree, I hope that the wedding day is the start of many great days! 
I agree with you 100%! I was just thinking about that the other day - there are so many other amazing days that will come after our wedding!
I always have a hard time making a number 1 because I like things for different reasons. And I was having a hard time imagining how a wedding was the best day ever but when it came it was such a surreal feeling. I don’t know that it will be the best day ever for us overall but I know I will never experience anything just like it again. It was really amazing to be surrounded by so many people that had helped us throughout our lives and traveled a great distance to help us embark on this journey together.
I’m sure when we have children there will be many more wonderful days that are surreal in their own way. Our careers will bring us hopefully satisfaction and meeting of goals that will be celebrated. But I do think the wedding day will rank up there with one of our most special days. I wouldn’t have been upset if it hadn’t been because I really didn’t expect it but for us but the way it turned out I think it’s something we’ll always be able to think back on and say what an amazing day no matter what other exciting things happen in the future.
I’m with you on this one - yes, it will be a great day. Perhaps one of the greatest days. BUT I too desperately hope that this is not the high point of my life because I have a lot of years left in me (I am only 23!) and I want more than just one great day. I want success and to feel happy and fulfilled and one day, when I look back on my life, I want to be so fiercely proud of what I (we) have accomplished that I will never have to think that my wedding was the high point in my life and that all the years after it went downhill. And I absolutely believe that it only gets better
Completely agree, I hope its ONE of the greatest days of my life but that day better not be as good as it gets!
I’m looking forward to my wedding being the best day of my life to date- but beyond that I welcome other wonderful best days ahead
Ditto to the rest. One’s wedding being THE best day of her life seems kind of anti-climactic, right??
I agree with Miss Thimble. I hope it will be the best day of my life so far, but I agree that I hope there are many more amazing, wonderful days to follow.
This is funny because FI and I were talking about the greatest moments of our lives earlier and while I know our wedding will be one of them it wont negate all the other ones we have had. Graduating college together, celebrating the first jobs we ever got out of college, traveling to a new country - all amazing days and experiences and I hope my wedding is up there with the best of them but I hope we continue to have amazing days, accomplishments and experiences long after our wedding night ends! Great post Miss Knitting!!
As someone who had their baby before the wedding, I can honestly say that seeing the positive on the pregnancy stick and telling McGroom was the best day of my life. When he proposed (last year it was “let’s either get married or have a baby,” and I got pregnant), it was fantastic, but it will never be as wonderful as seeing that stick, feeling the first kick, him feeling a kick, growing as a couple, and bonding during delivery. I love you Moose. You were the best baby ever!
I don’t think it should be the best day of my life, but truthfully, it was the best day of my life SO FAR….and that’s saying a lot since, I was super happy when I was selected valedictorian of my HS class, when I got my top choice pick for undergrad education, when I got accepted into medical school (I was so happy, I cried!), when I graduated from medical school just 3 months ago…..and I can still say that the day I married the love of my life, by repeating those beautiful vows to each other in front of our closest friends and family was more joyous and special to me than any of those combined! It was the day we created our family. I have to agree that I hope even more joy is in store for us….particularly, the day we become parents, but as for now, the happiest day of my life remains the day we said “I do”.
it kind of always makes me sad when anyone talks about any part of their past as the best day (or even years) of their life…i guess i just feel like most people are too young to bee looking back all the time. it comes off to me as giving up on your present and future, and i think it’s sad.
Totally agree. I’m SO looking forward to my wedding but at the end of the day, its just a great day. I fun, exciting celebration that i’m going to want to remember. But it shouldn’t be the greatest day of my life. And i’m not going in with any silly expectation for it to be either.
I agree with you. I like to say that it’s going to be one of the best dayd, but I feel like, specifically when FH and I have children, I will have many more wonderful days that may top my wedding day.
i agree that this day shouldn’t be your life’s defining moment, but as someone who felt so much love between FH and myself and the rest of our family and friends loving on us over our wedding weekend, I can honestly say that we aspire together to have that much love in our house throughout our marriage.
So for us, instead of looking at that wonderful day as a brick pulling us down making us think that nothing will be better, we take that lovely wonderful day as a challenge to love better.
You know, I was always in the “wedding won’t be the best day of my life” camp…until my wedding day. Up until now, I can honestly say that it WAS the best day of my life. It probably will be for a long time. However, I agree with you in that I hope its not all downhill from here! I’m hope my marriage is full of new “best days” to celebrate and that it keeps getting better.
I like to think of it as the best day of my life, SO FAR. Its certainly the hugest decision of my life so far and the celebration and heightened emotion of the day will reflect that! But, as you say, I predict bringing children into the world, and raising them will lead to many more “best days so far”!
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Mrs. Knitting, Toronto Age and Occupation: 24, Student Recruitment Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Neuroscience PhD Candidate Engagement Date: October 2009 Wedding Date: December 2010 Venue: University of Toronto Faculty Club About Me: I'm a pearl wearing, etiquette book reading Toronto girl who loves cooking and baking, museums, charm bracelets, and collecting books on Jackie Kennedy (a lot). I've been known to spend Sunday mornings at the antique market, Wednesday evenings at sister sushi dinners, and any bit of spare time reading. After six and a half years of many late night walks, watching DVDs together in bed, travelling to places like New York, and Tobermory, doing Sudokus together on the couch, lots of Indian food, the occasional yoga class, moving in together and so much more, Mr. Knitting and I are planning a cozy Christmasy (it's a word!), vintage wedding in Toronto complete with many DIY projects (eek!) and lots of help from our amazing group of family and friends.
| Sun | Mon | Tue | Wed | Thu | Fri | Sat |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 29 | 30 | 31 | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 |
| 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 |
| 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 |
| 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 |
| 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 |
Latest Gallery Pics