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…these words have been echoing in my head since last night. Lil’ Bro Locket is going through a serious breakup and is having a very difficult time dealing with it. And, since he is staying with us at the moment we are doing our best to support him in his time of sadness.

“Heartbreak and Healing” by yours truly:

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Last night was a rough one and the gravity of the finality of the breakup hit him like a bus.

He had learned (or was under the impression) that his ex was already seeing someone else (after 1 month of being separated) and he didn’t take it well. He was in a fury of anger and sadness all at once.

He asked me. “How could she have even loved me if she’s already with someone else… and why do I still love her even if she’s hurting me so much?”

I replied the best way I could: “I know this must be hard on you, but you really need to know that it’s temporary and it will pass.”

To which he replied, ”But, you don’t know heartbreak… how could you possibly know what I am feeling?”

And, he was right. I didn’t know and hopefully will never know what true heartbreak feels like. I was lucky enough to have met the man I am going to marry before I had to deal with the heartbreak and mourning of an ended relationship. The only insight I really had was that Mr. Locket had gone through the motions of a difficult breakup and they were hard on him. I know this because he was still going through them when we first met and it took time for him to heal and recover, and I was there to help him and wait for him while it happened.

It was a difficult time for the both of us. He was still mourning the end of a 2+ year relationship and I was entering what could be a good relationship (if he let me in) with great uncertainty. I was so new to relationships that it took a lot of patience and understanding on my part to know that in time he would come around and eventually let go of what could have been and see what could be instead. Clearly, after time passed he put his old relationship behind him and we were able to move forward as a couple.

Those early times were such an integral part of our relationship that a year into it I created the above sculpture for a sculpture course I had been taking. It’s still alive and well and hanging on our bedroom wall reminding us that with heartbreak there is healing and there is always someone there to help you heal along the way (the sculpture is especially meaningful since the body is Mr. Locket’s and the hands are my own).

Right now we are continuously offering our support to lil’ bro Locket and hoping that with time he too can heal and find someone to love.

Have you never experienced heartbreak? How do you help someone when you don’t know what they are feeling?