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Everyone’s seen it…almost every movie involving a bachelor party also involves a stripper. But honestly, how many real life bachelor parties do you know of that involve strippers? I can’t think of any.
That leads to the question: How many bachelors actually want a stripper at their bachelor parties? I know Mr. Plaid doesn’t. And he’s not just saying that. Most of my other guy friends feel the same way. They’d rather spend their “last free night as a single man” hanging out with their buddies, drinking, gaming, and shooting the shit. They definitely don’t want to spend it getting lap dances.
That’s not to say that there aren’t guys out there that would very much enjoy a lap dance or ten at their bachelor parties. I guess I just don’t understand it. What’s the point? What’s the thrill? I’m just at a loss.
I honestly don’t know how I’d feel if Mr. Plaid did want a stripper at his bachelor party. I’d be shocked, mostly just because I know him, and strippers are not his thing. But past the feeling of shock, I just don’t know. I think I’d be disgusted, but I don’t know that it’d really go much further than that. He is a grown man who can make his own decisions, and I trust him.
However, if I were a guy, this is the only type of stripper I’d want at my party:
This is a cake I made for a friend’s bachelor party who is getting married this coming weekend!
What do y’all think about strippers at bachelor parties? How many of you even know anyone who has had one? (Maybe it’s more common than I think.)
It seems like sometimes it has as much to do with what the groomsmen want as what the groom wants and also that there can be an element of hazing and embarassing the groom involved.
My husband went, had a bunch of lap dances, and that was pretty much all I heard about it. Except the next day two of his of town friends were PLEADING with me not to tell their wives (like I have nothing better to do but tattle on grown men).
I really have a hard time believing that all these guys are “forced” into going to strip clubs by their friends. My husband goes with his friends every once in a while. About half of them don’t tell their wives/girlfriends. THEN on occasion I have to listen to said wives/girlfriends talk about how “Husband Johnny” would NEVER step foot in a dirty strip club, all the while knowing he went last month. I find the whole thing annoying.
We just had this great debate with our friends - we are doing a jack and jill party rather than a totally separated bachelor/bachelorette party and while my FH wasn’t very keen on the idea of strippers, the groomsmen were very upset that they weren’t going to a strip club! Seems like it was more about what they wanted than what he wanted… In the end FH is getting what HE wanted (a day of hanging out with his friends and a night of partying with ALL of our friends) but it sure was a struggle to get the groomsmen past the strippers issue!
i’m extremely anti-strip club - but everyone i know who’s gotten married has gone beforehand.
like tnason said above, it’s more about the groomsmen doing what they want and hazing the groom.
FH’s best man LOVES strippers, so i’m dreading the bachelor party. i didn’t handle it well when FH was a guest at another guy’s party this past spring.
i would gladly give up my bachelorette party to do a jack and jill thing to avoid the whole situation.
I don’t think fiance cares one way or the other, he’s definitely not a strip club kinda guy, but he’ll go for his other buddies bachelor parties. Unfortunately I think he’ll probably end up with one at his because his friends will be all for it. At first I was upset about it but the more I think about I’ve decided just to let it go, even if I protest his buddies will do it anyway so I’m not going to waste my breath protesting! I’m not happy about it but I’ll get over it. While I’m not comfortable with him looking at, being touched by, or touching a pretty much naked woman, I don’t have any fears or him cheating on me or leaving me for a stripper lol. so I’ll let him have this one night if his buddies insist upon it. but it is an annoying “tradition” that I wish would go away!
Funny how it always seems like the single guys attending the bachelor party are the ones most interested in having strippers — not the actual bachelor-to-be-married!
My husband didn’t have one and wasn’t interested at all.. same with my brother who was married a few months before us. I think they and their friends were FAR more concerned with hitting the poker tables than seeing gross naked ladies. I agree with you, I don’t know a single person who DID have strippers/go to a strip club for their bachelor party.
None of the guys I know have. My husband’s bachelor party involved a nice steak dinner out followed by laser tag, mini golf and arcade games.
We are having a jack and jill party as well. My fiances groomsmen were also upset that there wouldnt be any strippers involved. My fiance thinks strippers are not at all good taste. I dont think that his groomsmen even knew that the party was supposed to be for the groom, they thought it was just a party before the wedding. There will be no strippers because I am extremely against it. I have strong views about intimacy being a private affair. There will be no wedding if there are strippers, that is my policy.
I am against having strippers actually come to the bachelor party (I have actually attended one of these, and it was disgusting). Things can definitely get out of hand, esp. when there are no bouncers around.
H/e I have no problem with him occasionally going out to a strip club. I know what he thinks about strippers, and I am not worried about him! He finds it funny, and it’s good bonding experience for him and his guy friends. When I go out with my friends, I may flirt a little or even dance with some random guy. I think it’s good that we can have these separate experiences. We are both even more thankful we have each other to come home to!
We are not very jealous people and we trust each other. Not everyone will agree with this mentality, but this is one of the things that I love about our relationship.
My husband has been to strip clubs, both before and after we were married, for bachelor parties and not for bachelor parties, and I don’t have a problem with it, other than the occasional money spent. Weirdly, he did not see strippers at his bachelor party, but not because he wasn’t at the strip club, but because his friend got into a fight (idiot) and the whole lot of them got kicked out before they ever saw a nekkid lady.
I’ve been with my husband to strip clubs, and well, it doesn’t bother me. Is it humanity at its finest? No, but I’m honest. He doesn’t love lap dances, I know when he’s gotten them since he tells all, but feh, he’s more likely to pay for a massage (back, people! I know because I’ve also gotten one) than a lap dance.
The fact is, these are women who are working, who are more attracted to the dollars that are sent their way than the men handing them over; and the men do it (at least the ones I know) more as a male bonding thing than a *zomg naked girl* thing.
Now if the husband was going by himself or on a more than once every six or so month basis I would be worried.
I keep saying I don’t care because he’s coming home to me. But in a way I think wanting to go see strippers is kind of immature. Honestly if he isn’t done sewing his wild oats before he marries you, is he ready? Also whats so great about naked people anyway? 
One more topic raiser: Isn’t it sort of another example of the objectification of females?
Meh, like I said, I don’t care but I’d like to hear what a bride who is or was a stripper has to say about it.
That would be interesting.
A group of my guy friends had strippers for another friend’s bachelor party and all we heard about for weeks leading up to it was how many strippers, topless waitresses etc, that they were going to have and then after the party all of them said it was pretty boring. So, long story short, they had more fun talking about it than actually doing it. lol!
My fiance has been to one strip club in his life and has no plans to have a stripper or to go to a strip club. Honestly, if that’s what he wanted, he’s an adult and whatever. I’m not threatened by a sripper. I’ve been there, it’s actually kinda sad for these girls. But, I digress, my fiance would much rather go to a hockey game and drink with his buddies, which they don’t get to do very often with work, kids, etc.
Mr. Cardy definitely isn’t interested in strippers, though his best man is, haha. I’ve already told him I’m not okay with it, and he’s fine with that!
My husband was anti-bachelor party. Everytime his brothers and buddies called to plan his bachelor party he protested saying he didn’t want one. Finally his friends and brothers gave up planning one. Feeling bad that he didn’t get a party I asked him if he wanted me to talk to his brothers to plan one. He explained that he has gone to so many bad stripper bachelor parties that he actually hated the idea of having one himself. Evidently its common in his group of friends to hire strippers for their bachelor parties. Still feeling bad I bought him and his friends baseball tickets and he got to go enjoy a stripper free evening with his buddies.
I guess, like you, I’d be shocked because I know my FI well enough to know that the idea of having a stripper disgusts him. He’d much rather play xbox with the boys and drink lol.
My husband and I fought for literally months about his party, because the original agreement was strip club only, look-no-touch, and then I found out they were planning to hire a topless waitress and I lost all my trust in him and his friends. Getting over it was HARD. I still take the fact that his friends were ready and eager to pay a woman to perform borderline sexual favors for him as a sign of MAJOR disrespect for me. Personally, I think the line between a stripper and a prostitute is pretty thin (and on occasion nonexistent).
I really don’t have a problem with them…Doesn’t bother me. I think its funny though how a lot of people are saying that their fiance/husband or the people they know didn’t do them…how many times do you think people go and then don’t say anything about it? lol.
sweet cake!
i think i understand having a stripped. it’s a means of entertainment, in my head. of course, hanging out with friends makes sense to me too, being that’s a very “bachelor” thing to do… but hiring a stripper, IMO, is part of the “event” of it all. two of my guy friends had stripper(s) at their bachelor parties. actually, just last month, my friend’s bachelorette featured two of her best guy friends dressing up like firemen and dancing for is– complete with glued-on crowbar mustaches. i had the most awesome time in vegas with my FI (he was only a friend then) and his boys at my first strip club ever. we saw Cirque du Soleil the night before and, to be honest, i felt like it was another show of tricks! i’m not sure what my FI’s guys have planned (he’s being surprised) but i wouldn’t mind if he wanted a stripper.
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Mrs. Plaid, Austin Age and Occupation: 26, Pastry Chef Fiance's Age and Occupation: 34, Cabinetry Carpenter Engagement Date: August 8, 2009 Wedding Date: October 2010 Venue: Kindred Oaks, Georgetown About Me: I am a Jersey girl born and raised but have since migrated to Texas and embraced its twang and Tex-Mex. I could probably eat chips and queso every day but instead I eat popcorn. I use the word “awesome” way too much but I just can’t seem to stop myself. I am addicted to all things DIY and am planning what I call a Texas-Chic wedding. I love snuggling with my two adorable dogs and of course, my adorable fiance. I can’t wait 'til I can call him my husband some day! October 2010, here we come!
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