There’s No Minute Like the Last Minute

There’s No Minute Like the Last Minute

August 17th, 2010 @ 5:16 pm by Mrs. Jellyfish
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We’ve had a very long engagement—by the time we get married, we will have been engaged for 19 months. I’ve mentioned this before, but if I could do it over again, I would opt for a shorter engagement. The problem with such a long engagement is that at some point, it seems way too early to do certain things (like make escort cards, programs and menus).

Then, in the blink of an eye, time catches up with you and you find yourself less than 3 weeks away from the wedding with a massive to-do list staring back at you.

Yes, we’re 19 days away from the big day—can you believe it? (You probably can. You’re probably thinking, you’ve been around forever, Jellyfish. I don’t blame you—-it’s true.)

We have 19 days to go and I am kicking myself for not having checked more things off the massive to-do list earlier.

I’m not entirely surprised that I’ve put off so much until the last minute. It’s kind of my modus operandi, and it’s worked well enough for the past 27 years. I like to think of it as “working well under pressure”. I just hope I can get everything done and maintain a sense of calmness leading up to the big day. We’ll just have to see.

Anyone else foolishly leave lots of things until the last minute? How are you coping?

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27 Responses to “There’s No Minute Like the Last Minute”

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hyphensmith (message) 260 posts, Helper bee

Hi Miss Jellyfish! I am too a life long procrastinator with a really long engagement! By the time we get married we will have been engaged for 20 months…OMG, I’m just realizing that! 20 MONTHS!!! (engaged 6/27/09, wedding 2/05/11!) Anyway, I’m sure I’ll be in the same boat that you are, although I made a promise to myself that I will get the ball rolling in September. I’ll let you know how that turns out.

8/17/10 @ 5:35 pm (reply)

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besitos10210 (message) 76 posts, Worker bee

ohmygosh, i couldn’t agree more about the long engagement. ours was 21 months total…..wedding in 47 days…and my invites aren’t printed? yeah. not okay.

8/17/10 @ 5:40 pm (reply)

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Tehia_Ann (message) 47 posts, Newbee

I’m also in the same boat! We have a 18 mo. engagement [engaged 03/04/10 Wedding date 09/10/11] And between going to school and preparing for my school trip to Africa….I have a feeling it is going to be some serious procrastination involved!!!

8/17/10 @ 5:43 pm (reply)

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dance (message) 1,607 posts, Bumble bee

I feel like that - I have 11 months to go and don’t necessarily need to do much now…it’s too early! But then I think once school is added onto a full-time job it will all of a sudden be Christmas! And then next summer….and then what do I do?!

Thank you for reminding me that a lot of time is actually not a lot of time when it comes down to it. I hope this kicks me into gear to get some stuff done in the next few weeks!

8/17/10 @ 6:11 pm (reply)

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aruka11 (message) 615 posts, Busy bee

Yup! We’ll have a 22 month engagement and I’m just now starting the projects - yikes!

8/17/10 @ 6:13 pm (reply)

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Miss Thimble (message) 807 posts, Busy bee

I probably don’t need to remind you that you were super busy with school, no? and… the Bar, right? It’s forgivable to have put off some wedding tasks. I too procrastinate and work best under pressure, so I’ll probably be in the same boat! And I don’t have an excuse

8/17/10 @ 6:20 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

You’ll make it happen, panic is a wonderful motivator!

8/17/10 @ 6:44 pm (reply)

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photographernico (message) 527 posts, Busy bee

We chose to have a longer engagement (19 months) but it also needed to work that way so we could have a warm weather wedding. I like to plan so I got my wish!

8/17/10 @ 6:58 pm (reply)

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jlp2w71611 (message) 298 posts, Helper bee

19 months? When we get married it will have been 2 years & 3 weeks.. crazy! In the first year we got all the essentials done: church, venue, photographer, photo booth, DJ & ever since we hit the 1 year mark I have been reading WeddingBee like it’s my job & in constant wedding planning mode. However, I am definitely feeling that “it’s too far away” feeling in certain areas but I’m trying to just nail down one thing at a time. Right now we’re in the midst of getting our Save the Dates out & tackling the centerpieces!

Good luck in the next couple weeks & an early Congrats!

8/17/10 @ 7:12 pm (reply)

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jlp2w71611 (message) 298 posts, Helper bee

And by the way @hyphensmith- we are engagement day twins! Cool

8/17/10 @ 7:13 pm (reply)

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Miss Barrettes (message) 883 posts, Busy bee

You can do it!

8/17/10 @ 7:16 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Cola (message) 2,868 posts, Sugar bee

Deadlines are a great motivator! I’m sure it will all come together for you guys!

8/17/10 @ 7:29 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pin Cushion (message) 1,012 posts, Bumble bee

Ha! I was right there only a month ago! It will all get done, I promise! Hit me up if you want some local help too! I’m bored now that my own wedding is over

8/17/10 @ 7:42 pm (reply)

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marieta (message) 339 posts, Helper bee

*wry grin* We’ve been engaged for 16 months already and still don’t have a date… we expect it to be in about two years, which will make it over a 3-year engagement. There are financial reasons for that.

But on procrastination… ohhhh yes, it is a familiar thing. And I’ve found I do work better under some crunch. I expect that when it finally comes down to it, I’ll be doing last minute DIY stuff. Happily FI is well aware of this habit of mine and has already started nixing certain ideas because he doesn’t want me taking on the stress of them in the last few days.

8/17/10 @ 7:44 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

I am in this boat too. I am frantically trying to get things done.

8/17/10 @ 8:30 pm (reply)

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MsBunting (message) 229 posts, Helper bee

Even with a short engagement there are plenty of things it seems “too early” to do! Good luck sista!

8/17/10 @ 10:57 pm (reply)

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Miss Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

We majorly procrastinated on our invites and STDs. If we would have done them sooner they wouldn’t have coincided so much with Mr. G’s visa process. Planning a wedding makes me feel like I’m in college all over again.

8/17/10 @ 11:23 pm (reply)

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Miss HunnyBunny (message) 119 posts, Blushing bee

my engagement is approx 14 months long. at first i was wishing we had picked a sooner date, but with just buying a house and working nights in the ER i realize i really need this time. Now if only i can get off my butt and get started on some things!!

8/18/10 @ 1:23 am (reply)

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Mrs. Scissors (message) 7,343 posts, Bee Keeper

I was the same way! It seems like everything was so far off, then wham! Emergency ACK-why-didn’t-we-do-this-sooner status.

You’ll get there, one way or another. Don’t worry about cutting stuff either. 2 am on our wedding day? I was still finishing projects and abandoning others.

8/18/10 @ 1:50 am (reply)

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Stephanie

Here is my attempt to “one-up” everyone:

We have been engaged almost 18 months and we still dont even have a date set. Having just bought a house (and spent the last year and a half saving up), we dont see a wedding happening any time in the near future.

Heartbreaking? Yes. Worth the wait? I hope so!

8/18/10 @ 5:29 am (reply)

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