Weddingbee Blog

…aka, my Debbie Downer post.

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My main reason for writing this post is to feed comfort to fellow brides/grooms/planners who have had less-than-perfect planning experiences.

As you may have guessed from my prior posts about family and financial issues, my planning process has been filled with many a road block. To say the least, those two issues were just the tip of the iceberg.

In our planning process we’ve been faced with other issues as well, and here’s that list:

• We booked our DJ in May, but he double booked us a couple of weeks later and left us in a lurch (fortunately, he’s been replaced).
• Bridesmaid “S” had to back out of the bridal party.
• A few months later “S” is back in, but in desperate search for a dress
• My YUDU fail
• Mr. L was laid off twice this year.
• A few months ago all my brothers decided to gang up on Mr. L and it was not a happy time (fortunately the air has cleared).
• My parents have decided to separate.
• One of my younger brothers has sided with my father and won’t be in attendance on our wedding day.
• My youngest brother was in a very serious car accident a couple weeks ago. Fortunately he is doing much better and his scars are healing, but this has left my mom without a car and many extra expenses.
• Due to budget cuts we were forced to cut some of our guests.
• Google docs saved the wrong copy of my updated list and we missed sending invites to some guests (fortunately this was fixed soon after invites were sent).
• In our initial cake consult we were told a certain design could be done only to find out later that it couldn’t.

Now, don’t get me wrong…this list could be a lot worse and I know that I am lucky to have not faced more tragic issues. In retrospect, it’s probably better that these things have happened.

They’ve made me a stronger, much more resilient person and I have learned that I am capable of getting through the tough times that life throws at me. I’ve also learned that Mr. L is truly my rock.

He has been there for every emotional outbreak and fit of frustration. And, on the plus side, there have been many positive things happening to offset the negative. I have accepted the fact that planning a wedding isn’t devoid of error and that I should expect the same for our wedding day. Things will probably go wrong. The best that I can do is roll with the punches.

Have you been hit by Murphy’s Law?