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My father passed away when I was six, and from that moment on, Mama Hippo raised me and Sister Hippo solo, which is pretty amazing ’cause we turned out pretty darn good! Without a father in my life, there is the issue of who should walk me down the aisle.
As a thirtysomething bride, I could definitely walk myself down the aisle and be OK with it. I mean, do I really need someone to “give me away” at this point, particularly since I’ve been out of the house and paying my own bills for over a decade? I’m definitely not super traditional, but I can imagine myself being a little sad waiting to walk down the aisle all by myself after my bridesmaids have processed. While I’m sure my grandfather or one of my uncles would be more than happy to do the honor of walking me down the aisle, I feel like my mom has earned it (I was kinda bratty!), and it would mean so much more to me to have her be my escort since she truly did raise me. So it is decided.
My issue is…how do we walk? Mama Hippo and I tried out a couple of different ways, but nothing really felt right. I think at this point it’s going to be more important how it looks than how it feels ’cause either way feels a little awkward. So what do you think? Hand in hand with fingers intertwined like this?
Or arm in arm like this?
Or something else altogether? Anyone else having their mother walk them down the aisle? How are you going to walk? I’m looking for answers here…Help!
My mom and I walked hand in hand. Linking arms felt awkward to me, but it looks fine in pictures too. 
I love the hand-in-hand, fingers intertwined. I will be doing it like that with my mom
I saw either way, but I like the hand in hand better without the fingers being intertwined. I think its beautiful though.
I would go hand in hand if I chose this route. However, I gave up and decided to go it alone.
My aunt walked me down the aisle and we did it hand in hand.
I’m so glad you posted this! I lost my dad 7 yrs ago and this question is always on my mind. I do want her to walk me, but I know how she gets to crying!LOL
I like holding hands the best. it looks more relaxed and more “This is my mom!” to me. Well, that’s what I want to chose anyway.LOL
I am having both of my parents walk me down the aisle- and I struggled with the “mechanics” of it also. I’ve seen pics with the bride intertwined arms with both parents and it looks weird to me because then it looks like she is escorting THEM down the aisle.
Then I found a picture where the bride and her father looked traditional (arm in arm) and her bouquet was in that hand, then she held hands with her mother and I think that is what I’m going to do.
So I vote for hand in hand in your case.
I vote holding hands. It looks very “mother-daughter” to me in pictures.
I liked walking by myself, but I did think about having Mom walk with me. If we did, I probably would have held her arm. It’s such an emotional thing– I think you can decide in the moment, or the night before. You can practice at the rehearsal dinner.
knowing my mom im gonna have to drag her down the aisle cus she will be balwling like a baby into my shoulder. but im having my mom and dada walk me because she raised me but it will be the only thing in my life he has been able to be in. maybe i should make him carry the tissue lol
I had envisioned my mother b/c my dad passed when I was 15. But then my mom died about 2 wks before I became engaged. I was going to go solo, but everyone pressured me, and I had my older brother (a very important figure in my life) walk me. I have to say the bride holding her mom’s hand really moved me -that’s my vote!
I like hand in hand. I personally have always felt weird with the arm link even when I was doing it with a man. I’m not entirely sure what my father and I will do yet, but I could absolutely see myself holding my fathers hand! I think it’s a much sweeter, intimate way to be escorted.
love the fingers interwined… looks so sweet in photos too!
I walked down w/ both of my parents and we did the arm-in-arm thing, which was totally fine…I’d do that, only bc I never hold hands with my mom like in the first photo!
I love hand in hand. It’s what I would do. Lucky you to have your momma walk you down the aisle!
Love that first picture. It looks like two capable women heading into the future, knowing they will always be there for each other.
Do what feels natural the day of! I’m sure it’ll just happen, whatever you feel comfortable with that day. It is so cute that your mom is walking you down the aisle!
omggg that first picture made me cry!! I was thinking about what to do with my mom also and linking arms just doesn’t seem natural- I am definitely going to hold her hand now!
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Mrs. Hippo, New York City/Dallas, TX Age and Occupation: 34, Event Planner for a Non-Profit Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35, Finance IT Engagement Date: August 8, 2009 Wedding Date: March 2011 Venue: Samuel Lynne Galleries and Marc Events About Me: I’m a thirty-something bride living in New York City and planning a modern-ish wedding in Dallas, Texas. I love trashy reality television (Jersey Shore, anyone?), online shopping, Sunday brunch, Central Park, and random celebrity spottings on the streets of Manhattan. While I love NYC, I miss good Tex-Mex, my college friends, central A/C, and being in close proximity to a Target. I’m thrilled to finally be planning an event that’s not work-related and to be marrying my best friend in what I hope will be a unique and personal ceremony followed by a reception with plenty of good food, good drinks, and dancing (regardless if it’s good or not).
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