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No? That’s not how it goes?
Coulda fooled me. I’d like to think of my wedding mantra as:
Or, in my case…cry a lot. At least as of late.
We are 17 days from our civil ceremony and 37 days from our big wedding. Yeah. I think it’s safe to say that Mr. Socks and I are feeling the pressure. Snapping a little at each other, me bursting into tears at any given moment (Usually after saying something like, “why can’t people just be NICE to me??”), Mr. Socks freaking out every Sunday about all of the things we should have done the previous week…
We’re two big messes.
RSVPs are supposed to be in soon and we’re missing quite a few. Like…the difference between having 45 people at the wedding and 75 people at the wedding. I know many brides can relate to this frustration! We aren’t sure how many of these people will actually come, either. It’s much more nerve-wracking to not even be able to guess who is coming and who won’t be able to make it!
Many of our cute RSVPs that ARE coming in are rather…blank. I know, right?? Who wouldn’t want to fill it out?
Even the front, where we left room for a happy little note? Blank.
Come on, people!! I know that it’s a little different/nontraditional, that you’re busy (or devoid of a personality in some cases), but seriously?? I’d even be happy with a “Congratulations!” but no such luck. We’ve gotten a few great responses, but more often than not…they’re coming in blank. It makes me feel like no one will appreciate any other details in the wedding, and honestly, my feelings are hurt over this.
I know that people like safe and traditional things, but are most of our guests so unwilling to roll with the punches and have fun? It’s not an exceedingly difficult questionnaire that would take more than three minutes to fill out! It’s not like these are distant relatives we sent them to, either! These are our closest blood relatives. I’ve shed more tears over this than I’d really like to admit, and it’s gotten me pretty down.
I’m trying to focus on positive things, but still…I’m getting that naggy voice in the back of my head that keeps whispering, “nobody cares…nobody cares,” every time I think of a detail I might love and that others won’t notice or appreciate. I’m spending way too much time and money on these details to only have them be appreciated by you wonderful blog readers, right?
I love my family. Mr. Socks loves his family. But right now, we’re pretty bummed about their reaction to our RSVPs.
Did a cute idea you loved backfire with your relatives? How did you handle it?
Awww…Miss Socks! That’s awful about no one filling out the RSVPs. What gives? I think they are adorable and I would be giddy and excited to fill it out! I hope things improve. Don’t lose sight of the whole purpose of your wedding. I have my moments or crying and frustration too but ultimately, you and Mr. Socks will be married and happy and all those little details will be worth it that day because they will mean the world to you.
I’m a total crybaby too, I’d be freaking out about these things as well. I can’t believe they didn’t fill out your RSVPs! What the heck??
Disappointing!
Aw how disappointing for you both! Well maybe you are right and people are busy or don’t know how to not sound cheesy but come time for your wedding they will be relaxed and ready to rock out. I personally love seeing your details!
Good luck keeping it together and just remember what is really going to matter a year from now, three years from now, thirty years from now!
Awww! You clearly put a lot of time and thought into the RSVP cards and your guests probably think they have to come up with something equally as clever and witty–it can be intimidating! And it is pretty much a given that RSVP cards will come in late or will need to be chased down, but just take a deep breath and realize that in 37 days, there will be so many other details to be happy about.
We’ve gotten about twice as many non-filled in RSVPs as filled in ones, it really sucks to flip them over and see the blanks.
I totally feel you on the crying thing. Try to get some sleep (thats what causes my crying) and be happy!
That sucks that people aren’t filling them out! I would TOTALLY write you a cute note! I guess not everyone is in to the details like us bees…. HUGS!
That is pretty disappointing. I would have taken the time to fill it out 
i’m sorry to hear that, i think they are so cute and if i was a guest, i’d loooove to be a part of the planning by responding! we are going thru a similar sitch- J designed our amazing STDs and website and like 4 people have commented. his own brother didn’t even let us know he’d gotten it/that it was cool. people are rude.
The answer here is clearly to invite the hive to your wedding. We are simply more fun.
We’ll love all your details! I love your RSVP cards and think they’re so much fun. Who wouldn’t want to let you know their favourite ice cream topping? I’m a caramel fan in case you were wondering!
That is disappointing! We did a mad libs RSVP and I knew it would confuse some people and cause pressure for others to come up with super witty, funny responses. A fair amount came back blank (mostly from relatives and our parents’ friends), but it was SOO worth it to get the filled in ones! Ours were due yesterday - we got A LOT back the last few days, but we are still missing some too. That seems pretty par for the course. I am sure you will get more “completed” ones right at your deadline! They are just taking their time filling them out 
*sad face* I love freak out and cry a little. I’m not a wedding guest but I can’t help but send my own little RSVP your way.
1. Never been to Philly but when I do get there let’s hang- K?
2. Take it all in. Spend at least 5 minutes by yourself at the reception watching your guests and your husband! (Yay!) Soak it all in!
3. Favorite:
Love song… don’t think i have one!
Ice cream topping- sprinkles
Vacation Destination: a rocky coast
4. Beer of course!
5. I love the electric slide
6. Sorry people are being sucky about the RSVPs! Congratulations in advance and big Bee Hug!
Love you, socks! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all this crap. Want to send me like 20 RSVPs and I’ll fill them all out for you? I promise to give different answers for each one.
@Miss Hippo & @Miss Elephant: Thanks, girls! I’m sure you could have filled out some kick-ass RSVPs!
@kjwinter: Ugh, isn’t that the worst? I don’t need people falling over themselves, but a little recognition would be nice, right??
@Encore: hahaha I LOVE this idea! I wish I could afford all of you!
@Miss Knitting: We’ll put caramel out for our buffet in your honor!
@eeper: I totally agree that the ones that do come in filled out give us so much joy–we love reading them! Hope you get all of yours in soon!
@Mrs. Pretzel: THANK YOU for filling it out!! Haha I should write all of the blank-responders and email and give your responses as an example!
BOO! It sucks when you really look forward to something and it doesn’t pan out. HUGS!
Socks, I am SO sorry that you have invitees who are missing out some fun! Devoid of personality, indeed! Keep your head up, honey.
I can’t believe they aren’t filling them out! Keep up all the details and making it your special day! I LOVE reading about all of them and they are definitely inspiring to others!!
I hear you and let me just say that people
SUCK! There, I said it! All we had was a little box for them to send us a message and most of ours were blank too! WTF?
And as for the details, you’re right, no one will love them as much as you do (and the hive) but you know that’s ok! I LOVED all y little details and a few people commented about how much they liked them including my photographer and you know how many weddings a photographer sees so those comments made my day! Someone will love your details, not just everyone. Again,people suck!
I’m so sorry Miss Socks! I would have filled out your wonderful card.
It almost seems like all weddings should have a high proportion of new-brides or soon-to-be-brides as guests. At least they would notice the details, fill out the cards and wouldn’t mind the constant wedding talk.
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Mrs. Socks, Southern NJ/Philadelphia, PA Age and Occupation: 23, Web Developer/Marketing Specialist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Systems Engineer Engagement Date: September 7, 2009 Wedding Date: October 2010 Venue: Ladder 15 Restaurant About Me: I am originally from the Midwest, but I love being an East Coast transplant! Mr. Socks and I are foodies and winos to the core---give us a hunk of cheese, some charcuterie and a glass of wine and we could die happy. We have two mischievous Wire Fox Terriers with completely opposite personalities but with a shared love of uprooting anything in our garden. Our backyard garden includes everything from tomatoes and peppers to a fig tree, blueberries, blackberries and raspberries! I love cooking, indie music, and spending time in our wedding city of choice---Philly!
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