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Who would’ve thought one little card could cause so much frustration? Especially one as cute as this!
They seem so simple. Check one box, write down a number, and pop it in your mailbox. Well, there’s less than 3 weeks to go, and we received less than half of our RSVPs back. LESS THAN HALF!
This is ridiculous! I mean, it’s even already stamped! We’ve lost at least 20 bucks alone from not getting these mailed back to us. And the thing that really burns my biscuits is that when we have to call people to find out if they’ll attend, they have the nerve to get all pissy about it! Sorry guys, but if we’re throwing a big party, reserving a seat for you, getting food cooked for you, providing you with dessert AND free beer, the least you can do is let us know if you’ll be there or not. So sorry to inconvenience you with a text/phone call.
Am I wrong to get so riled up about this? If, for some crazy reason or another, I didn’t mail back an RSVP as a guest, I would call or email the bride to let her know my attendance. I knew our society is losing all our manners or etiquette, but since when is it OK not to let the host of a dinner party know you’ll be in attendance?
Whenever I get worked up into a frenzy about it, Mr. SD just writes it off as “no big deal”. So, it’s official, hive. I am 100% a bridezilla when it comes to this whole guest list/RSVP thing. I am angry, and I feel like I have every right to be. Rant over.
What about you? Did your guests respond promptly]? Is anyone out there being driven as crazy as I am?!?
NOT a bridezilla. Perfectly acceptable frustration. Rage on, girlfriend!
Aw, I’m sorry! I totally feel your frustration, how rude of people!
I had a lot of outstanding RSVPs too…but thankfully when I would call or email everyone was apologetic, not rude! I mean, I see something slipping your mind, but then you apologize and say yes or no. That’s it. I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla at all.
Ugh I am so glad that part of wedding process is over! Im sorry youre frustrated and hope you have better luck ASAP!
I feel you. I’m in the process of checking with people now. Frustrating. How difficult is it?
Thankfully, I divided the task up. Take a deep breath and keep it moving!
It’s so annoying. I had people say that they wanted to keep it as a souvenir. What? I put a stamp on it! That cost a lot of money!
You’re totally justified. :o)
Most people just aren’t as considerate as they should be.
I am so with you on this one. Etiquette doesn’t change no matter how society or traditions do. There’s a stamp on it! Put it in the mail! lol Good luck!
I’m totally in agreement with you! I had to chase down about 1/3 of our guest list, many of whom said, “Of course we’re coming! What in the world gave you the idea that we’re not?” Each time I tracked down a potential guest and got this reply, I had to seriously bite back the urge to retort to them with, “The RSVP card with a SASE still tacked to your fridge should have given you a clue, Aunt Mary/Uncle Ned/Random-person-my-grandmother-insisted-on-inviting-whom-I’ve-never–ever-met-or-even-heard-of!”
You are not being an invitation bridezilla; you’re just being a gracious hostess with the mostess!
I totally felt your pain. People in our freaking wedding party thought they didn’t have to rsvp because they’re in the wedding party. Silly people, do you want food to eat or a seat for your significant other or not?
It’s a pain. Even my own mother didn’t RSVP right away because she wanted to show the invitation and RSVP card around school. Seriously? It wasn’t even fancy; we bought them at Michael’s.
We are now hard core sticklers about RSVP’ing as soon as possible. My brother-in-law is getting married in three weeks and we didn’t get the invitation. We let them know (since hubby is in the wedding party) and they dropped one off at the house while we were out-of-town at yet another wedding. But they put it together with the extra pieces and didn’t stamp the RSVP. I still mailed it the next day, but I had to use the postage machine at work. I wonder if her parents will even notice.
You are SO not a bridezilla for this! It’s called common courtesy and some people just don’t get it!
I completely agree. I had to ask the Best Man if he was bringing a guest and he threatened to not be in the wedding.
I have guests that have replied no guest and have told me to my face that they may be bringing a guest now. I have guests who say +1 but are still unsure of who they’ll be bringing or if they’ll be bringing anyone at all.
And all the while I look like I’m crazy because it’s past the RSVP date and I want to know if you’ll be there.
And I’d like to know your guests names since the escort cards are for each individual guest!!!
YOURE NOT A BRIDEZILLA!
I have to laugh because ours were due last we week and we still are missing HALF of them as of today!!!
I said the same thing…all you have to do is check a box and put it in the pre-addressed, pre-stamped envelope! You don’t even have to add your name because I numbered them!!! I totally hear you Miss Sand Dollar!
not surprising at all. i had it as a Google doc for guests to click their meal choices and RSVP, and sadly, most of our American guests didn’t RSVP when everyone else did. Maybe it’s just a bad habit?
Oh I must add all of FH’s aunts/cousins added their children (2-3 kids each and they are all coming)! And one couple who just got married in June and called us a week before their RSVP was due to make sure we put it in the mail before the due date NEVER responded to ours.
You are NOT a bridezilla, people have no sense of manners anymore.
I just found out that for our friends wedding last year, my FI didn’t send back the RSVP- he was in the wedding party and of course we’ve been together for 7 years and talk to these people everyday, but I still laid into him a little bit. He got a little lesson on etiquette, but he still doesn’t care. He expects them to do the same thing. I said “well, then theyre not getting a stamp on their rsvp!” What a waste of money.
Ugh. So with you. I mean, really, how hard is it? Chances are, you know if you’re going to be there or not. Please just let me know too! Totally feeling your pain here - but how awful of people to get snippy when you call to ask them about it!
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Mrs. Sand Dollar, Houston Age and Occupation: 24, Graphic Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 22, Electrical Technician Engagement Date: January 8, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2010 Venue: MacLean Park About Me: I'm a domestic diva down to the core. I heart cooking, sewing, baking, decorating and making sure we have a hand-crafted home. The best part about the wedding is I get to incorporate it all! I make sure I put my art degree to good use by screen printing, craft knife cutting, and a whole lotta graphic design. We're having a big-time party on a small-time budget, and I promise to show you a boot-scootin', barbecue-eatin', finger-lickin' good time! Mr. Sand Dollar and I spend most of our time on DIY projects or traipsing around the outdoors with our two pooches Rory and Juno. I'm looking forward to sharing our journey with all of you!
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