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Being the youngest sibling to two very protective brothers, I always wanted a sister who could share the spotlight. I would routinely check my birth certificate hoping that I was secretly a twin. My mother still displays the Christmas list I wrote asking for a baby sister complete with “all her things.” I never did think that I would inherit a sister and a best friend via either my brothers, but that is sure as heck what I got. We became really close when she got pregnant with my twin nephews.

She even gave me the privilege of being Maid of Honor at their wedding.

How is this wedding related you ask? Well, my sister, you see, is very smart.

One night while explaining the guest list conundrum, I told her that I don’t like to disappoint. I guess I more or less try to avoid any situation where someone will be talking about me in an unpleasant way. Talking shit, if you will.

“I know you do,” she said to me, “but it doesn’t matter when or how you piss people off, they are definitely going to be talking shit about your wedding. The invitations are too gaudy, I can’t believe she paid to have the room lit up, the centerpieces look stupid!”

The bright F-it light went on over my head. She’s absolutely correct. People are already becoming offended by our choices. Why should I expect that the guest list be any different? I certainly don’t want to lose sleep over a decision that is going to aggravate people, either way. Then she said the best phrase she could utter, music to my ears really, because I’ve been saying it all along but haven’t been listening to myself. “People forget that they are there to support you, on the best day of your life.”

So, Thank you Santa, for fulfilling my Christmas wish a few years later than expected!

Poison and Def Leopard concert, wicked classy. AKA the night Spiffy learned the hard way who has a higher alcohol tolerance.

What’s the best nugget of wisdom that someone’s given you about your wedding?