Making It Ours: The Vows

Making It Ours: The Vows

September 15th, 2010 @ 12:54 pm by Mrs. Knitting
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As I wrote about here, we’re pretty uncomfortable with public displays of emotion, so we won’t be writing our own vows. However, figuring out what we did want to say took a while, because while Mr. K was very vague about what he did want to say, he seemed to find lots of vows “lame.”

I, on the other hand, became very fixated on the idea of saying the wedding vows of the United Church because my paternal grandparents were married in a United Church and they had an incredible, happy, and long lasting marriage. I thought it would be so sweet to say the same vows they did over 60 years ago. However, Mr. K wasn’t fan because he thought the language was too old fashioned, so we moved on.

A pretty remarkable couple and two fantastic role models:

At this point I figured we’d just wait until we met with our officiant to see what he might recommend. However, then I came across Mrs. Ribbons’ post about their wedding and loved their vows.

“I, Ribbons, take you, Ribs, for my lawful husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”

I had subconsciously written these vows off years ago because they’re so basic and traditional. While I never grew up dreaming about my wedding (that’s a pretty recent obsession!), I think younger me just thought nobody actually used these vows because they were “boring.” However, as soon as I read her post I knew that these simple and traditional vows would be perfect for us. Clearly, 20 year old me was a moron!

I then copied and pasted the vows in an email to Mr. K and asked if he like them. Here is the entirety of his reply:

“ya”

Later at home he confirmed he was happy with these, but was confused about why we would be calling each other Ribs and Ribbons. Oh boys/people not obsessed with WB!

How did you decide on your wedding vows?

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10 Responses to “Making It Ours: The Vows”

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

We said these vows too in addition to improvising our personal vows (neither of us remembered to put aside time to write them). I loved saying them, so I say great pick!

9/15/10 @ 1:02 pm (reply)

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shaydenise (message) 1,151 posts, Bumble bee

These are ours: “Girl/Boy, I promise to love you with all my heart and mind and strength. I vow to be your best friend and do everything in my power to make you as happy as I am today. I will trust you with my dreams, and support you in fulfilling yours. Before us lies an open road, filled with adventure and love, and I choose to spend today, and all of my tomorrows with you, as my friend, my love, and the mother/father of my children.”

We wanted ours to be simple but include these things that were important to us. =)

9/15/10 @ 1:08 pm (reply)

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PaperCrane (message) 437 posts, Helper bee

I found vows from all over and blended them into something that would work for us- not to mushy, not too negative, and most importantly something we both believed we could promise and mean it.

“I, ***, take you, ***, to be my wife/husband. For as long as I live I promise to love you, believe in you, and stay by your side through good times and bad, regardless of what we may face together. I promise to do everything in my power to make our life together happy and fulfilled.”

9/15/10 @ 1:14 pm (reply)

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piglet_625 (message) 2,541 posts, Sugar bee

Hahaha… my FI says “ya” too. I love it. And I think it’s hilarious that he was confused about the Ribs/Ribbons part. So funny! I’m glad you found vows that work for you both!! IMO that’s the most important part of wedding planning cause it actually IS the wedding.

9/15/10 @ 1:32 pm (reply)

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Miss Taco Night (message) 241 posts, Helper bee

That “ya” is such a Mr. Taco Night response Actually, I usually get “sounds good,” but still. Men! PS- Your grandma looks like a movie star!!!

9/15/10 @ 2:39 pm (reply)

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LittlestBirds (message) 2,605 posts, Sugar bee

Love, love the traditional vows. It’s so easy to write them off as boring, but that’s before you pause to reflect on their meaning, and the value of sharing a common understanding of exactly what the marriage commitment means with millions of other couples spanning back across the years. They really say everything you need to say.

9/15/10 @ 4:03 pm (reply)

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Texacali (message) 109 posts, Blushing bee

I love Mr. K’s response and how he was confused about why you’d call each other Ribs. I can picture my FI doing the same thing, lol. Oh those boys!

I think the traditional vows are beautiful just as they are. They’ve been used so many times for a reason.

9/15/10 @ 4:31 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

We are using the traditional vows, but also saying something personal to one another. I like the combination of old and new.

9/15/10 @ 8:10 pm (reply)

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Miss Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

We are going with something along those lines too! You can’t beat a classic!

9/16/10 @ 3:19 am (reply)

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Miss Octopus (message) 1,446 posts, Bumble bee

Okay, I LOLed at Mr. K thinking you were going to call each other Ribbons & Ribs in your vows. The fact that he actually thought you would do that cracks me up.

9/16/10 @ 10:29 am (reply)