It’s My Wedding, and I’ll Cry if I Want To.

It’s My Wedding, and I’ll Cry if I Want To.

September 18th, 2010 @ 11:15 am by Mrs. Cardigan
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I’m not a crier.

There are very, very few things in this world that make me cry, and generally if I feel the need to cry I am able to hold it together long enough to get to a place where I can be alone. I hate letting other people see me cry, and I avoid it at all costs.

But this wedding is doing crazy things to my hormones. I can’t even tell you how many times I have cried over something wedding related throughout the past 13 months.

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Rehearsal dinner searching is stressing me out? Cry. My favorite venue coordinator quits and I have to get a new one that I don’t like nearly as much? Cry. Napkins cause problems for me? Sob. People are causing drama over my choice of ceremony officiant? Bawl my eyes out for two hours.

In the past two days, I have cried to two different people on the phone, and one person over instant messenger.

Seriously, y’all, I don’t even know who I am anymore!

Maybe it’s just that the high stress of wedding planning coupled with the high stress of student teaching is getting to me. Maybe I’m just extra tired and my hormones are going crazy.

But, that’s not really what I think it is.

I think it has more to do with how emotionally tied to this wedding I am. I have put so much into making this wedding personal, and I am so incredibly excited to see all of my details in action, and I am SO EXCITED to be marrying Mr. Cardy…and when things don’t go right I just have to cry. I let myself get so invested in the choices that I make, and when people question them or tell me that they won’t work, it’s such a hit to me emotionally that I don’t know what to do with myself.

I’m trying to be a big girl and stop crying over silly things, but I have a feeling that I’m in for another four months of crying at random events. And on the wedding day? I don’t even want to imagine how big of a basket-case I will be.

Have you started crying more now that you are planning a wedding? Do you have any genius tips for me to hold it together when I feel like I’m going to lose it?

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22 Responses to “It’s My Wedding, and I’ll Cry if I Want To.”

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Smashley (message) 75 posts, Worker bee

I student taught while I planned our wedding too! It was awful. I’m sorry! You’ll get through it!

9/18/10 @ 11:26 am (reply)

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PopRox (message) 507 posts, Busy bee

Aw *hugs* just think about how amazing it’ll be to be married to Mr. Cardy, and that nothing that happens b/w now and then, wedding related, will stop that from happening!

9/18/10 @ 11:32 am (reply)

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jacin10 (message) 112 posts, Blushing bee

this is hilarious - i did a very similar post the other day: http://jacinandpat.blogspot.com/2010/09/emotional-basketcase-trap.html

you’ll make it!

9/18/10 @ 12:04 pm (reply)

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jenandchris (message) 734 posts, Busy bee

Hahaha - I AM a crier. And this wedding business has made it about 1 millions times worse. We’ll pull through

9/18/10 @ 12:10 pm (reply)

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lisalew5472 (message) 699 posts, Busy bee

I know how you feel! Sometimes I just have to step away from it all for awhile, regain my sanity, and then dive back in. Sounds to me like you need a little mini-vay-cay from it all.

9/18/10 @ 12:12 pm (reply)

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Miss Ostrich (message) 1,948 posts, Buzzing bee

oh miss cardy! no more tears! what keeps me from the waterworks is me constantly reminding myself that this is a celebration. and when people are thrilled for you and mr. cardy, everything doesn’t have to be perfect. all that needs to happen that day is you and mr. cardy be ready to begin your new adventure together. and all will be amazing from there

9/18/10 @ 12:22 pm (reply)

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Miss Sand Dollar (message) 1,305 posts, Bumble bee

Oh, wow, this is me too! It seems that stress from the wedding combined with life is making me crazy. I feel like tears are almost constantly bubbling below the surface, just waiting to burst out!

9/18/10 @ 12:25 pm (reply)

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princessleia (message) 143 posts, Blushing bee

I can TOTALLY relate! Between school and work and wedding planning and the fact that NO ONE is stepping up and helping (including FI), I can’t seem to get through a single week without crying. I thought I was just starting to go crazy! But at least I know I’m not alone. I will say that I finally broke down the other week and decided to find a planner to help me and that has been an absolute godsend. I haven’t actually booked her yet but I can already feel the weight being lifted off my shoulders. It will be so nice to have a little help.

9/18/10 @ 12:28 pm (reply)

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Miss Meerkat (message) 3,216 posts, Sugar bee

Oh Cardy! I know exactly how you feel. If someone hands me the wrong colored napkin I might cry. I got told by a couple friends that I will go back to my normal self after the wedding. =)

9/18/10 @ 12:37 pm (reply)

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Marks (message) 11 posts, Newbee

I have been the exact same way lately!! (And also recently posted a blog entry re: crying!! http://mrsmarks2b.livejournal.com/5528.html)…
Even last night, my FMIL started talking about a co-workers daughter getting married and one of the things she had done, and we both started to cry!! lol

I think it will all be worth the tears in the end though Best of luck!

9/18/10 @ 2:01 pm (reply)

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Miss Earrings (message) 2,477 posts, Buzzing bee

Yes, this sounds like me! I swear I cry at the drop of a pin at the moment. It is driving me nuts

9/18/10 @ 6:04 pm (reply)

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Bride_Colleen (message) 627 posts, Busy bee

I had a 21 month engagement and looking back on it now it was waaay too long. The last month or so I felt like a basket case. The only good thing is I thought I would be sad when my wedding was over. After puting all that work into it all for one day I thought I would be very upset. But it was the opposite! I am SOOOO relieved and I am so happy not to think about wedding stuff anymore. Good luck to you!

9/18/10 @ 8:11 pm (reply)

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crayfish (message) 4,844 posts, Honey bee

I was totally this way, too, but when it came to the day of, the cliche really WAS true: None of it mattered. I was 100% calm and focused on my husband. We’ve been married a week, and though I love the projects I completed, I hardly had time to even notice them the day of. I actually can’t wait for our pro photos, since I was so busy!

9/18/10 @ 9:12 pm (reply)

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Miss Sparklespaniel (message) 818 posts, Busy bee

Urgh, I must be a mutant cos I used to be a regular crier. I’d cry on average about once a week, for any reason. I used to cry like a two year old if I was tired and the fella would have to send me off for a nap!

But this year, I’ve started teaching full time, I’m planning a wedding and we’re building a house and I haven’t properly cried all year. I’m a bit worried about it actually! I’m worried I’m not emotionally connecting to the wedding and the idea of getting married!

I think crying more than usual is probably normal, it’s such a full on thing to go through. Although not sure if crying LESS than normal is! LOL

9/18/10 @ 10:52 pm (reply)

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Miss Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

Oh no! I’m not a crier either so I hope I don’t become one. Possibly even more desctructive is that I eat when things aren’t going good. I hope that you are OK and taking some “you” time!

9/18/10 @ 11:43 pm (reply)

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tdoodles (message) 9 posts, Newbee

When I feel upset about something, I usually go up to Mr. tdoodles and ask for a hug. He would then get up and take me in his arms without asking why or what’s the matter. And all I would do is rest my head on his chest thinking about how instantly better I feel when I’m in his arms. =)

9/19/10 @ 2:28 am (reply)

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Miss Octopus (message) 1,446 posts, Bumble bee

I could have written this post! I am SO not a crier either…..not even like I hold it back, but I almost never even feel like I WANT to cry. However, this wedding has me a mess. Stress crying, happy crying, whatever. I cried just yesterday writing thank-you letters to my parents.

9/19/10 @ 8:43 am (reply)

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MissMeg (message) 353 posts, Helper bee

Student teaching will DEFINITELY make high stress events even more stressful. I’m planning my wedding during my 2nd year of teaching (which here in South Carolina means I’m going through my formal evaluation period - very much like student teaching). I’ve also been crying over every little thing. When somebody is negative about my wedding ideas I just get so hurt and lose it - when normally I would be like “Oh well, they don’t like it? Not my problem!”

Thankfully I only have 6 more months of crazy. Then I can be married and hopefully back to a more rational emotional state!

9/19/10 @ 11:39 am (reply)

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SandraMarie_1986 (message) 1,363 posts, Bumble bee

Awww…Miss Cardigan! I hope you feel better. I know exactly how you feel though. Being so emotionally invested in the wedding can take a toll and when I vent how something is going right in the wedding planning, I get some weird looks and comments. I know it’s not the end of the world if everything doesn’t turn out perfect but it’s just hard some times when you put so much love, time, and effort into the planning. I hope things get better. Take care Cardy! Sending you hugs!

9/20/10 @ 2:51 pm (reply)

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SandraMarie_1986 (message) 1,363 posts, Bumble bee

oops… *isn’t going right.

9/20/10 @ 2:51 pm (reply)

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