Weddingbee Blog

I used to love being the center of attention. I mean, I used to do karaoke sober! I used to push to the front of the crowd for group photos.

Now, not so much. While I’ve come to peace with the fact that I’ll be the center of attention on my wedding day, I’m still not thrilled about it. Mr. S feels the same. So to avoid those “all eyes on us” moments, we’re forgoing some traditions.

We won’t be announced as we enter the reception. We’re going right from the ceremony to the cocktail hour to the reception, just like the rest of our guests. And it’s a small wedding, so it’s not like they won’t just see us there. An announcement is unnecessary.

We’re not having a first dance. Mr.S didn’t want any dancing at all at our wedding, but I talked him into it. But there won’t be a first dance just for us. Now, there is a part of me that would kind of like a first dance, but one for all couples, not just us. But since he’s so against it, I’m choosing my battles and letting this one go. I don’t need a first dance, and I won’t be disappointed without one.

We’re also not going to cut the cake (we’re having cupcakes) or feed it to each other. We’re not having a bouquet or garter toss. As far as dancing goes, there will be danceable music and an open space. If our guests want to dance, they are more than welcome to. I’ll probably join them after some cocktails. But again, there will be no “organized” or “announced” dancing.

This is all well and good and fits in with the whole laid-back, relaxed feel of our wedding. But then, something struck me.

Will our wedding be fun?

I hope so. I know that Mr. S and I will have fun, and I know that most of our friends just need good food, good company, and an open bar to have a good time. But I want everyone in a festive mood, and I’m not sure if our plans are festive enough.

I’m planning on having a smilebooth with a bright background and festive props. I’m hoping people will have a ball with that. I’m thinking of doing a Mad Libs type of guestbook (more details later) that may be a bit NSFW but fun nonetheless. And of course, the after party. But I’m not sure what else we can do for our guests that will be fun and festive but still relaxed, still us.

What are you doing to make your reception festive and unique?