Making Our Ceremony Unique

Now that our Save the Dates are finally out, I’ve been thinking about the actual ceremony. I’ve been to a ton of weddings and because of that, I have even more of a desire to make ours unique. If this had only been the second or third (or even eighth) wedding I’ve been to, I might not realize how similar they can be. But it’s not. So I know. With the exception of a color scheme and some decorations, weddings can often feel very cookie-cutter. Sure, the feelings you have about the people getting married are different, but the overall structure is pretty much the same. Now don’t get me wrong, I am all for tradition. If you are having a super traditional wedding and that fits who you are, that’s completely, 100% awesome. But King Hippo and I aren’t ultra traditional people, so I’m trying to think of small ways to infuse some non-traditional accents into our wedding so that our guests walk away actually remembering their time with us. A wedding “experience” is kind of what I’m going for here.

I’ve read about a Ring Warming Ceremony, and I’m thinking this just might be the element I’m looking for to not only make the ceremony unique, but to incorporate our guests into the day.


I found this description of a Ring Warming Ceremony on The Offbeat Bride:

The concept is simple: Near the beginning of your ceremony, have your officiant let your guests know that your rings will be making their way through the assembled guests, with an invitation for each guest to hold the ring, say a silent prayer/blessing for your marriage, and then pass it to the next guest. Then the officiant can pass out the rings, and continue on with the ceremony until it’s time for you and your partner to present the rings to each other.

Obviously, there are limitations to a ring warming: it wouldn’t work well for super large weddings, and if you’re having a big wedding you may want to have someone watching the progress of the rings and keeping them moving in a timely manner through your guests.

Some people worry about rings getting dropped during the ceremony – if you like, you can affix them to a pillow or book or some other symbolic item for the passing.

I pretty much love this idea. I think it will be new for most (if not all) of our guests, and I especially like the idea of having our friends and family involved in the ceremony instead of just being observers. Logistically, my biggest concern is the timing. We will likely have between 100 and 120 guests, and I have absolutely no idea how long it would take to pass the rings among them. We could split the rings up (my ring passed on one side of the aisle, King Hippo’s passed on the other) in order to speed up the process, but I kind of like the idea of the rings being passed together. Hmmmm…I definitely want to figure this out.

Has anyone done (or seen) a ring warming ceremony at a large wedding? How did it go?


Mrs. Hippo

New York City/Dallas, TX
Wedding Date:
March 2011

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    fitzly 574 posts, Busy bee @ 11:49 am

    We are doing this by passing the rings through a ribbon threaded through the guests.

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    hippo 1012 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:08 pm

    @Mrs. Stripes: Oh, Stripes! That’s so good to hear! We will have a pretty short ceremony too, so if you made it through 80 guests, that’s good news.

    @Sleepy_Miranda: Our ceremony won’t be 25 minutes long, but you’re giving me hope! If we split the rings up onto two sides, then we should certainly be able to get through it.


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    elephant 6339 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:48 pm

    This sounds like such a special element to the wedding. I also like the idea of having it done before, if you have a very large wedding.

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    lioness 819 posts, Busy bee @ 8:01 pm

    I love love love this idea! Not sure if we can pull it off with 125 guests, but I’d LOVE to see it done as a guest!

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    fancysarah 27 posts, Newbee @ 1:44 am

    ooohh, love this – may have to include this last minute!!

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    Miss White Pearl 199 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:41 am

    miss hippo, i’ve never heard of this and i’m so head over heels for it!! man, weddingbee rocks my socks more every single day!

    and, also, just FYI, i have a large number of guests attending and before i even finished reading your post (as i was trying to think the logistics through for my own ceremony), i thought a ring on either side of the aisle would be a terrific idea. the thought of everyone praying over those significant items and them coming together for one great wish for the future is beyond beautiful to me.

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    CelebrantVenus 2 posts, Wannabee @ 3:38 am

    @Miss Hippo: LOVE that you’re using this ritual, and love how you’re turning people on to it, even more! btw i officiated a ceremony + ring warming with approx. 75 guests, and it took about +10 minutes for the ring warming itself… i suppose it may depend on the direction one gives to one’s guests, e.g. ‘pass the rings’ vs. ‘instill your energy and best wishes (etc.) for/to the couple’.

    @fitzlyLOVE your variation. :o ] thanks!

    @Sleepy_Miranda: wow!

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