Making “Dilemmonade”: Part II

Making “Dilemmonade”: Part II

October 15th, 2010 @ 10:42 am by Mrs. Locket
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When we last left off I shared with you a few of my wedding week woes and how we managed to get through them. Unfortunately, they weren’t the last of issues we ran into. Some were easy enough to take care of while others took a lot more patience and were more of a struggle.

Making “Dilemmonade”: Part II : wedding emotional ithaca Lemonad

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The Easy Ones:

The Bad: Mr. L’s tux jacket and shoes didn’t fit.

On the Wednesday before the wedding Mr. L decided to pick up the tuxes. In that visit he learned that both his shoes and his jacket were too small.

The Good: The shop had time to order new sizes.

Fortunately, Mr. L didn’t wait until the last minute (as he normally would) and was able to have them make the changes with time to spare. Whew!

The Bad: We were 1 hour late to our rehearsal!

Too many tasks tied us up and we left much too late to make the rehearsal in time.

The Good: More people could make it.

We had all of our party coming from out-of-town and a few of them couldn’t make the earlier 4 o’clock rehearsal time. Our late schedule had them arriving minutes before us. Fortunately, Kara (the coordinator) wasn’t too upset.

The Tough Ones:

The Bad: My Father had a change of heart (in case you need help recalling).

I know this may seem like a good thing, but it was the last thing I needed the week before my wedding. How could he decide that suddenly he did want to walk me down the aisle?

The Good: I stood my ground.

I finally gathered the courage to let my father know that he couldn’t just say that he was sorry and make everything better at the last minute. In the end I know I made the right decision, even if it was a hard one.

The Bad: My younger brother decided he wasn’t coming to the wedding.

Due to issues with my parents separating and siding with my father, my younger brother didn’t feel right about coming to my wedding.

The Good: Less drama to deal with.

It’s actually hard to say that there was any good in this. I am sad that my younger brother didn’t feel comfortable coming to our wedding and wish things could have gone differently.

All in all, it wasn’t too rough of a week (well, at least for when you expect chaos). It could have gone a lot worse and we could have run into more problems or dealt with them in a way that would have exacerbated them.

Did you deal with any big pre-wedding dilemmas? How did you overcome them?

Up next: The much-anticipated Locket Wedding Recaps!

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9 Responses to “Making “Dilemmonade”: Part II”

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

Good for you that you decided to find the good in each situation. This is really a good post. I wish I had a magic wand to make the issues easier.

10/15/10 @ 10:54 am (reply)

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mightywombat (message) 3,311 posts, Sugar bee

That’s terrible. i’m sorry you had to go through this. Your brother’s actions don’t seem right to me, but I realize I’m not in the family and know nothing about the situation. If you are able to be more understanding or forgiving than me, that speaks extremely well of you.

10/15/10 @ 11:14 am (reply)

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kandaceandjason

I’m so humbled by your ability to stand your ground. So often weddings can turn into a big charade of pleasing everyone but yourself. I do hope that your father is sincere in his desire to apologize, and I hope that you can keep an objective eye to know if he was doing it for personal gain or because he realizes he’s missing a big part of his life in you.

10/15/10 @ 11:28 am (reply)

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OttawaBride2011 (message) 4,510 posts, Honey bee

I’m so sorry you had so much crap to deal with, it really doesn’t seem fair! I am so glad you were able to see at least a little good in all of it though

10/15/10 @ 11:39 am (reply)

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clane616 (message) 674 posts, Busy bee

I’m glad you have the courage to tell the details of the less than perfect parts of the family stuff leading up to the wedding. It lets all of the other brides out there know that things aren’t always as perfect as they are in some wedding recaps. I think it’s awesome that you stood your ground and did what you thought was right.

10/15/10 @ 11:42 am (reply)

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MissCatherine (message) 278 posts, Helper bee

This is a great list… proving that weddings aren’t smooth, and that things always go wrong… and the best way to deal with them is how you react to them. Good for you, Locket!

10/15/10 @ 12:13 pm (reply)

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Kate

Oh Locket,
I feel for you so much! I can’t even imagine having such conflicting emotions, and so much family issues going on around you, during what should have been nothing but a happy time! I really admire your strength for standing your ground. I hope that in time, your dad understands what an ordeal he put you through, and can understand what led to your decision-making. And I hope that your younger brother, when he grows up, will be able to have a new perspective.
You may not have had the best environment during the weeks surrounding your marriage, but something tells me your strength, positivity and grace will ensure you have the best marriage!
Wishing you the best.

10/15/10 @ 4:55 pm (reply)