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I don’t think a picture could really describe the things that happened toward the end of the rehearsal dinner and into the night that led up to our wedding day. And sometimes it’s those moments away from a camera that are some of the most memorable. So, my wedding eve started out lovely and ended not so lovely. Check it out.

Brideswomen are the Best

As guests started to leave and the young 30-somethings took their place around the fire pit reminiscing about yesteryear, I headed up to the bridal suite where I would be spending the night. The villa that we would be using as the bridal suite had two bedrooms. I arranged for 2 Hottie brideswomen and Hottie of Honor and her significant other (SO) to stay in those rooms.

I headed up to Hottie of Honor’s room where she and her SO were hanging out in bed. I jumped right up in the bed with them. This is the best part of having your besties around the night before your wedding. I needed to go over my vows with someone. I felt like they were too long. I was worried I was being too wordy. I needed more opinions. I read my vows to Hottie and her SO. Then, my other two Hotties came and sat on the floor in the room and helped me figure out how to edit out a couple sentences. These are the moments you don’t plan and yet you end up carrying around with you for all of your days. The people who were there to listen to your vows, to make sure you are your best. These are the small moments that you will miss if you don’t stop to breathe and take it all in. You can’t let the stress of not having your vows finalized and memorized the night before your wedding stress you out so much that you forget to take this mental snapshot. There was photographer present; it’s just an image that is forever etched in my mind.

Stress-Stress-Stress

As everyone headed off to bed, I started getting nervous. I started thinking about all the things I needed to do the next day. I tried to remember where I had put all the decor for the wedding events that I hadn’t seen in a couple days. In particular, I couldn’t remember where the framed photos of our passed loved ones had been stored.

And then I remembered what would keep me up for the next several hours! I put them in the same box as the framed photos of family weddings. That box had been passed onto our DOC, Brenda Swann, for set up at the reception. It kept me up until 2AM. I couldn’t decide if it was worth calling her to get the photos back or just rolling with it and just not having the photos at our tea ceremony.

Later, I found out that Mr. Hot Wings had an equally restless night. He was so anxious and nervous about everything that needed to happen the next morning for our almost entirely DIY wedding that at 3 AM he woke up in a near panic attack with cold sweats and a racing heart.

I can’t help but think that maybe our stress incidences could have been avoided if Mr. HW and I had stayed together that night. We’ve lived together and slept side-by-side for over 3 years. He’s the person that calms me down the most. Why did we decide to stay apart on one of our most stressful nights? Well, we thought it made the most sense. The women’s start time was a crazy 5AM. So, I wanted Mr. HW to sleep in as much as possible on our wedding day. But he lost sleep because of the sleep, and it turned out to be a wash, I guess.

So, exhausted and running on adrenaline, the wedding day preparations began early as early could be…5AM! Stay tuned. The wedding day recaps are coming up!

How was your wedding night eve? Did you spent it differently than you normally do?