No Jacket Required?

No Jacket Required?

October 27th, 2010 @ 9:32 am by Ms. Sloth
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My mother gave me some “advice” the other day. See, every once in a while, she comes up with something that I “have” to do or “shouldn’t” do. The other day’s something was telling the guests that they don’t have to wear a jacket.

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See, our wedding is going to be very casual. The groomsmen aren’t going to be wearing jackets (although Mr. S will be), so Dear Mom thinks that we’ll have to let the guests know on the invitation that there will be no jacket required.

I’m against this for several reasons:

1. Our invitation design (which I’ll show you at some point) is very specific. There is no room for those words on the invite.

2. I’m dating myself with this one, but Phil Collins, you guys. Believe me, there is a (very, very small) place in my heart for his craptacular music, but there is no place for it at our wedding. And I can’t even think the words “no jacket required” without getting some bland ’80s soft rock stuck in my head.

3. I don’t think it’s necessary. Our wedding guests are, for the most part, a savvy group. I think that they’ll figure out that our daytime botanical-garden wedding is not black tie. But I say that if they show up in a jacket and decide they don’t want to wear it, well, take the damned thing off! They might be happy they brought it anyway; it might get chilly at night in mid-May.

Did any of your family members give you any etiquette tips that you didn’t want to follow?

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23 Responses to “No Jacket Required?”

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ktbrady (message) 1,054 posts, Bumble bee

I’m dating myself too girl, and I LOVE it! I think you should just scan that image of Phil Collins and throw it in the invite. OK, kidding, but that would be rad.

10/27/10 @ 9:34 am (reply)

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Violet Violet (message) 985 posts, Busy bee

There are etiquette tips being thrown left and right these days, I say go with your gut. PS–I’m now singing “Against All Odds” to myself…

10/27/10 @ 9:40 am (reply)

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culby cheese (message) 193 posts, Blushing bee

Now I have a picture of Mike Tyson singing “In the Air Tonight” in my head.

10/27/10 @ 9:45 am (reply)

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Miss Sloth (message) 3,184 posts, Sugar bee

Thank you, hive, for making me feel like I’m not the only old lady out here!

10/27/10 @ 9:47 am (reply)

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Miss Wahoo

Emily Post says that one should not put any indication of formality of dress on the invitation… you can always tell your Mom that!

10/27/10 @ 9:49 am (reply)

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Miss Wahoo (message) 20 posts, Newbee

Emily Post says that one should not put any indication of formality of dress on the invitation… you can always tell your Mom that!

10/27/10 @ 9:50 am (reply)

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NotYourTypicalBride (message) 1,294 posts, Bumble bee

Hahahah! You just reminded me to add Phil Collins to my do-not-play list.

10/27/10 @ 9:56 am (reply)

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crayfish (message) 4,993 posts, Honey bee

I kind of love Phil Collins in all his cheesy glory (a song or two makes it into the fold when my iPhone is on shuffle). Just put dress code on the website!

10/27/10 @ 9:57 am (reply)

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bRooklynRocks (message) 3,769 posts, Honey bee

Okay, I am going to be listening to ‘best of Phil Collins’ today! And I agree with you, if they come and they feel uncomfortable, they will take off their jacket. On your invites, it states where it will be held. It’s a garden, they will dress appropriately.

10/27/10 @ 10:27 am (reply)

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lawdog462 (message) 7 posts, Newbee

Do you have a wedding website? You could offer to put a line or two about “casual dress” on the guest information page to placate your mum.

10/27/10 @ 10:29 am (reply)

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Miss Cinnamon Bun (message) 1,100 posts, Bumble bee

I’m happy to hear that you’re thinking of GMs without jackets, and groom with - we were trying to figure out if that would work!

10/27/10 @ 10:50 am (reply)

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Miss Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

My mom won’t shut up about her advice. It’s actually pretty ridiculous!

10/27/10 @ 11:55 am (reply)

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s_lee_p (message) 22 posts, Newbee

Glad to hear it isn’t just my mom that pops in her ‘very important’ advice. I think it is the generation gap - different things are important to the 50+ crowd than to my FH and I.

10/27/10 @ 12:23 pm (reply)

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aggee

We are planning a jacketed groom and jacketless GM, too. My mom doesn’t give advice, she just gives “the look.”

10/27/10 @ 12:26 pm (reply)

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tetorger (message) 138 posts, Blushing bee

1. If by craptastic you mean amazing, right?
2. They can take the jacket off. As mentioned previously, it would be great if you had a wedding website you could post more info on about the dress.

10/27/10 @ 1:13 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Locket (message) 2,837 posts, Sugar bee

Nopers! Since we were the first wedding (of the siblings) and mom isn’t big on wedding rules she wouldn’t have know the difference.

10/27/10 @ 2:04 pm (reply)

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SandraMarie_1986 (message) 1,363 posts, Bumble bee

I completely agree. And like you said, it might get chilly and they might need to use their jacket.

10/27/10 @ 2:19 pm (reply)

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Freeze Pops (message) 66 posts, Worker bee

One, I love you.
Two, I love “…but Phil Collins, you guys.”
Three, I love your mom.
Four, I don’t think you need to listen to her. Do like these other ladies say and let the dress code spread by word of mouth or on your site.

10/27/10 @ 3:16 pm (reply)

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