Think of the Children!

Think of the Children!

November 3rd, 2010 @ 9:36 am by Ms Cheetah
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As a little girl I always wanted to be a flower girl, but alas, I never was. I was pretty disappointed and annoyed when a few years ago my mother confessed that I had been asked to be a flower girl not once, but twice. Each time my mom told the bride and groom no because I’d “ruin the wedding.” Yes, that is a direct quote. Apparently both times I was asked was during my terrible twos, but I like to think I could have behaved for those couple minutes down the aisle—I would’ve been so excited! At least my mom seems to have more confidence in me now that I’ve grown out of training pants.

Think of the Children! : wedding kids palm springs Little

That could’ve been me!I could’ve been a contender, y’all!

After much thought and consideration, Mr. Cheetah and I have decided against having children in our wedding party. As crazy-pants adorable as they are, it just doesn’t make sense for our wedding.

We want to keep the plan for the wedding day as simple as possible, and as awesome as kids are, they can complicate things. Our wedding party is already large and we are planning a modern and sophisticated wedding without many traditions. While we do know some adorable youngsters, we aren’t leaving anyone out by excluding children from the wedding party—I don’t have any nieces or nephews and Mr. Cheetah’s family is all grown. Although I know it’s the right decision for us it does make me a bit sad that I won’t be picking out a big fluffy flower girl dress and we won’t have charming photos like these:

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Are you guys having children in your wedding? Were you in any weddings as a child?

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25 Responses to “Think of the Children!”

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slconrad1982 (message) 8 posts, Newbee

My son from a previous marriage is one of my fancys groomsmen. And I am having my girl friends 2 girls as flower girls but no lil man. lol And that is it. =) Too scared to have lil ones in my wedding the girls are older between 6-8 so they understand better. I kinda felt like I was being a lil selfish for not doing it. But it just works better this way!

11/3/10 @ 9:45 am (reply)

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feministbride (message) 283 posts, Helper bee

Oh my gosh, having all my nieces and nephews in little dresses and tuxes is one of the things I am most excited about. By the time our wedding rolls around we will have at least 7 kids aged 6 and younger running around… I do understand that it doesn’t fit every family and every wedding though!!

11/3/10 @ 9:55 am (reply)

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Lexsy

I am so sad that there will not be any children - or kids at our wedding. Not because we don’t want them, but because none of our family or friends have children! The only ones who do (two couples) have very young ones and don’t want to bring them! I really wish there were more, I think young children always add joy and magic to any party / festivity (which I am only reminded of when looking at the pics you posted).

11/3/10 @ 10:04 am (reply)

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fromcharleston (message) 651 posts, Busy bee

Oh Lord, I was a flower girl for my “aunt”’s wedding (Mom’s high school/college best friend) along with her niece who was about the same ago. I think we were about four. All I know is that A hit her head on the pew and started crying, so I think I was crying, or just got shy and our moms had to carry us down the aisle. Oy!!! If your decision feels right, do it.

11/3/10 @ 10:09 am (reply)

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

We didn’t include any children bc there simply were none to include! I was a bit sad at first but it didnt matter on the day of!

11/3/10 @ 10:27 am (reply)

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Violet Violet (message) 985 posts, Busy bee

We’re not having any kids in our wedding bc there aren’t any that we could include! His niece won’t be walking yet, but if she was we wouldn’t hesitate to ask.

11/3/10 @ 10:30 am (reply)

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Miss 1Cent (message) 168 posts, Blushing bee

We are having 2 flower girls & one ring bearer that are cousins of my fiance. One of the flower girls (who will be 6) was about 3 when she was a flower girl at my fiance’s brother’s wedding. The best moment was as she stumbled down the aisle (they were stairs!!) & shouted “I’M COMING, I’M COMING.” Some other brides might not be too pleased about that, but I love cute kid moments like that.

11/3/10 @ 10:34 am (reply)

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missrobots

I know this probably sounds terrible, but I’m not really into kids. I have, like, zero maternal instinct. I would probably have steam coming out of my ears if I had to deal with poor behavior from them on my wedding day. Though some friends have kids, I don’t think that there are any children significant in OUR lives to OUR relationship that I would want to include them in the wedding. So, we’re going without.

11/3/10 @ 10:38 am (reply)

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SandyToes (message) 373 posts, Helper bee

MY FH and I just found out we are going to be an Anut and Uncle next July. My FSIL is pregnant and her child will be about year and a half by the time we get married in 2012. The little niece or nephew will be the only little we have in the wedding. Both the parents are in the wedding, and I’m going to leave it up to them to coordinate what they want to do during the reception.

11/3/10 @ 10:41 am (reply)

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SamanthaSadlier (message) 574 posts, Busy bee

I was a flower girl when I was like four or five, and I LOVED it!!

I had a great time, and loved dressing up all frilly and cute. It was a really fun experience for me. Unfortunately I don’t really know many young little girls who are close to us in any way, so we won’t be having children in our ceremony. Sad

11/3/10 @ 11:25 am (reply)

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Miss Panther (message) 1,046 posts, Bumble bee

We’re having two of Mr. Panther’s cousins (mostly to appease his family because several of my family members are already included in the wedding), and it’s been such a pain in the ass already. Figuring out where they’ll go when it gets late, picking a dress that everybody likes and thinks is “appropriate” (i.e.: me, the girls’ mom and Mr. Panther’s mom, who is insisting on being SUPER-involved), etc. I kind of hate kids, I’ll admit it, so I wouldn’t have minded missing out on this tradition. I’m such an asshole!

11/3/10 @ 11:33 am (reply)

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tocarat (message) 324 posts, Helper bee

I’m having 3 flower girls…our doggy is our ring bearer and we may or may not include another cousin or two as additional ring bearers. We’re crazy like that.

11/3/10 @ 12:11 pm (reply)

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BM Matty

I am so glad you post this!! I felt like I was the only one not to have childern in the wedding party. its not cuz I am a meanie, I love childern, but so many of my FH family has kids and no other kids (besides the few in the wedding) would be invited so I thought it unfair.

11/3/10 @ 12:39 pm (reply)

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Whimsical.Sprite (message) 828 posts, Busy bee

I was never in a wedding as a child, and I wanted to be!

Therefore, it felt like a ‘must’ that I should give some little girl the chance I never had.

I don’t have any nieces/nephews or younger cousins, but my FI has two younger cousins who fit the bill perfectly. Our ring bearer and flower girl are siblings, and they are SO well behaved!!!

I couldn’t have dreamed better children to pick if I had the chance. I’m a lucky lucky bride!

11/3/10 @ 12:45 pm (reply)

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Miss Giraffe (message) 4,216 posts, Honey bee

@Miss Panther: Oh man, what a pain!

We’re not having any kids in the wedding, but I seriously want a flower girl!! We just don’t know any little ones!

11/3/10 @ 2:02 pm (reply)

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MissGeorgia (message) 33 posts, Newbee

My fiance’s niece and nephew will be our flower girl and ring bearer. Other than that we aren’t even inviting any other children to the wedding. This saddens me a bit because I love kids. But, I know it’s the right decision because we both come from large families and our guest list would explode if we added little ones.

11/3/10 @ 3:22 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Starfish (message) 1,924 posts, Buzzing bee

I always wanted to be a flower girl, too, but never had the chance!

11/3/10 @ 3:41 pm (reply)

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glamfish500 (message) 262 posts, Helper bee

We don’t have any little ones in our family to be in the wedding but my FI asked me yesterday if our dog could be in the wedding. I told him that if he could train him to be the ring bearer, he could be in the wedding. I hope it happens because I couldn’t imagine our big day with out the dog…sometimes I think we love him more than we love each other.

11/3/10 @ 3:44 pm (reply)

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Ms Cheetah (message) 1,188 posts, Bumble bee

@feministbride: You are going to get some adorable photos with all those kids!
@Miss 1Cent: That’s adorable!
@missrobots: Kids are definitely not for everyone!
@Miss Panther: haha!
@BM Matty: And it’s one less things for us to worry about on our wedding days!
@Whimsical.Sprite: Not giving another little girl the chance to be a flower girl was the hardest part of choosing not to have kids in our wedding party.
@glamfish500: Love that idea!

11/3/10 @ 3:54 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

I was never a flower girl, but always wished I could have been. Like you, we didn’t include children in our wedding (much to my mom’s disappointment). We don’t have nephews or nieces (yet…one is on the way though ), and there were no children we are close to. My parents have a god daughter who is 7, but she lives out of state and we have NO interaction with her. We just opted out, and no one missed it.