Choosing a Wedding

Choosing a Wedding

November 5th, 2010 @ 3:09 pm by Ms Cheetah
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Deciding to get married does not necessarily mean having a big party with guests, food, dancing, fancy dresses, a wedding party, etc. The Cheetahs endorse weddings of all kinds from big traditional ballroom weddings to private island elopements to backyard barbecues.

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Mr. Cheetah and I discussed having many different types of weddings; going to the courthouse (perhaps the Santa Barbara courthouse), a destination wedding (renting a large house in some dreamy locale for immediate family and very close friends), to an all inclusive big wedding (250ish guests in a modern loft), to what we ultimately chose:

A semi-intimate, semi-destination wedding for about 130 guests with many of the standard trimmings (dinner, dancing, wedding party, toasts…). It’s perfect for us, but it was important to us to go over all the options, especially since weddings ain’t free and we wanted to consider other people’s hopes and expectations (like our parents’).

So, why did we choose to have a big ol’ wedding?

We are blessed with family & friends who want to be there and watch us be wed-and party afterwards.
Tying the knot is a big deal to us and we want to celebrate it in a big way.
I can’t imagine not having our families there with us—and my family is kind of big.
This is likely the only chance we’ll have to have a big party with all (most) of our nearest and dearest from all over the world.
I love weddings. I love the dresses, the flowers, all the little details, the photos (ah, the photos!). I even love wedding/party planning.
It’s going to be crazy fun.

What kind of wedding did you choose? Was it a hard decision?

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11 Responses to “Choosing a Wedding”

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bRooklynRocks (message) 3,767 posts, Honey bee

I’m doing a big ol’ wedding. Left to me, I’d do 50 people, in a nice small intimate gathering but that is so not the style of my whole family nor his. We’d end up disappointing sooooo many people just to make two of us happy so bigger it was. But I put my foot down at 175-200. I heard of this lady from my part of the world who had 800 guests at her wedding in MD. Yikes

11/5/10 @ 3:23 pm (reply)

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Entangled (message) 2,616 posts, Sugar bee

We made the same decision for the same reasons, except a few hundred miles north.

11/5/10 @ 3:40 pm (reply)

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CapeBride917 (message) 94 posts, Worker bee

We took the same option as you! Semi-destination and semi-intimate, but neither of our families are very large so we’re hoping to keep it to about 90 people.

11/5/10 @ 4:30 pm (reply)

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mrspaetz (message) 3,805 posts, Honey bee

Small semi-destination wedding (40 ppl) + civil ceremony with just us. Perfect for us.

11/5/10 @ 5:59 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

I totally get you. We had a courthouse wedding but it was not as meaningful as our big wedding, for all the reasons you listed.

11/5/10 @ 6:29 pm (reply)

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Miss Earrings (message) 2,477 posts, Buzzing bee

I get you too. We have thought about eloping SO many times, and were even encouraged to by some people to save money….but in the end we chose to have a biggish wedding instead, and I think I will be really glad we did, for similar reasons to you.

11/5/10 @ 7:52 pm (reply)

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Whimsical.Sprite (message) 828 posts, Busy bee

We would have done a destination wedding, but with both sides having older grandparents we decided to just have the nice traditional wedding. We wanted all the family to be there, thus, no destination wedding for us!

11/6/10 @ 1:51 am (reply)

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Miss Giraffe (message) 4,216 posts, Honey bee

It was only a hard decision when we started seeing dollar signs. Just kidding. . . kind of. But, in the end, this big huge traditional party we’re having? I can’t picture it any other way!

11/6/10 @ 2:09 am (reply)

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Miss Munchkin (message) 48 posts, Newbee

That sounds like a good wedding compromise! I wanted 50 people max but my Fiance (having only talked about it once or twice) said it would be ridiculous to have such a small wedding considering our families are not small =/ which also cancelled out destination wedding…We might end up doing what you are doing!

11/6/10 @ 10:30 am (reply)

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NotYourTypicalBride (message) 1,294 posts, Bumble bee

We considered several options, and ended up pretty much where you did, for pretty much the same reasons!

We’re having a semi-destination wedding, slightly more intimate than yours (80-90 people). The only difference: I didn’t KNOW I loved weddings, and planning weddings, until I started to do it. But I do love a good party, and it IS going to be crazy fun.

11/6/10 @ 12:07 pm (reply)

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mak418 (message) 693 posts, Busy bee

I was thinking small (like 60). My hubby said, 100 is small, right? Until I showed him catering estimates of upwards of $100 pp for dinner. Wound up inviting 80, figuring we’d get 60-65, and came in at 48 adults and 7 kids, which was just about perfect.

11/7/10 @ 6:02 pm (reply)