Ring Snark

Ring Snark

November 8th, 2010 @ 4:35 pm by Mrs. Prairie Dog
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Here is a little sampling of some of my least favorite comments I’ve received from people who have seen my ring:

“Oh! That is so…unusual.”

“Rings these days are so different…”

“Well, I have never seen anything like that.”

“Uh…that is really something.”

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It caught me off guard because I read wedding media. I’ve seen rings like mine everywhere. But these people saying these things? Approximately 0% of them spend a lot of time on wedding or jewelry websites. So sure, I can see how a bezel-set split-shank cushion-cut diamond ring with a pave halo would seem different. My dude designed it himself so that it would be different.

I don’t know about you, but I can smell fakeness like bad perfume. But I told myself I was imagining it. I was being oversensitive and reading too much into the disingenuous comments.

A few days later, at Starbucks, I told the girl ringing up my coffee that I liked her engagement ring. She looked at me, almost overwhelmed, and said, “Thank you for saying that.” She went on to explain that since the stone is not a diamond, she has received a lot of thinly-veiled snark. This made me realize that it’s not just me. It also made me wonder—why? Why do women do that to each other? I’ve heard more modest rings get the, “Oh, you can always upgrade” speech; I once heard a less modest ring called a “gaudy monstrosity” behind the girl’s back. It’s like people can always find something snarky to say! Stephanie Tanner school of comebacks: How. Rude!

Here’s the reality of it:

I wouldn’t choose 99% of the rings that I see, and neither would you. Of course we wouldn’t because our rings are unique to our tastes and who we are. I see so many rings that are not my taste, personally, but I still think that they’re beautiful.

I love my ring, and that’s what matters.

Oh—and my favorite comment to give and receive about rings? “It is so YOU.”

What about you? Was anyone snarky about your ring?

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71 Responses to “Ring Snark”

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Brandie

for the record I have seen similar rings..but your is way better than the ones I’ve seen, and if they have snarky comments its because inside they want the same type of awesomness your rocking on your hand..the hell with them! rock that ring!!

11/8/10 @ 4:42 pm (reply)

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Margarita

My fiancé is a jeweler. And as such, I see a ton of engagement rings. Bc he’s wholesale, everything I see is either 100% custom, or a copy of a designer. Before we got engaged, I had no idea what ring I wanted- I didn’t really like any of those I saw. And why would I- they’re those girls styles- not mine. Ultimatelly my fi designed his own and it’s perfect for me and I happen to love me. It’s “me. “. And it’s perfect for me!

And yes, girls are jealous and girls are mean

(and side note- I’ve been obsessed w split shank rings for ever now!!).

11/8/10 @ 4:42 pm (reply)

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BrooklynBride10 (message) 746 posts, Busy bee

Ugh. My MIL, after finding out we were engaged, asked me “Are you happy with your ring? Did you really want a ring like that?”

My husband designed the ring himself after we looked at rings together and he realized I didn’t want a typical diamond ring. Instead, he designed an absolutely gorgeous yellow gold ring, with a blue sapphire center stone and 2 side diamonds, which is absolutely perfect. Of course I wanted a ring like that! It’s totally the ring of my dreams.

11/8/10 @ 4:43 pm (reply)

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CorgiTales (message) 9,861 posts, Bee Keeper

Women just suck sometimes. So many of them want to tear you down to build themselves up. Your rink is beautiful

11/8/10 @ 4:43 pm (reply)

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kelsgurl (message) 279 posts, Helper bee

Your ring is fabulous - I love the setting! I totally feel you on the fakeness thing. Whenever I tell people about my wedding band we recently picked out - which is a wrap-around ring that will surround my solitaire diamond by two sapphires - people are just like “Oh - I’ve never seen anything like that before” or “Well…that’s different” U-G-H.

It’s tough at times, but you’ve just got to love the ring you’ve got and forget what anyone else thinks!

11/8/10 @ 4:43 pm (reply)

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BrooklynBride10 (message) 746 posts, Busy bee

And I absolutely love your ring btw! It’s gorgeous.

11/8/10 @ 4:44 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Sand Dollar (message) 1,305 posts, Bumble bee

I got a lot of snark about my ring. The meanest was of course from my mother. I was twisting it around and playing with it at church with her one day, and dropped it. It rolled a bit down the aisle, and my mom says “Well, at least it wasn’t expensive”. WTF mom?!?! Yes, it’s a tourmaline in silver, yes, it was cheap. But geez Louise people! I don’t understand the snarkiness of strangers, let alone my own mother!

11/8/10 @ 4:46 pm (reply)

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lil2685 (message) 12 posts, Newbee

I agree that each person has to find the ring that is “them”. I love my ring its a non diamond and made from the mold of a twig! No snarky comments yet but its only been a couple of weeks
PS I honestly think your ring is beautiful and how special that Mr PD designed it just for you ♥

11/8/10 @ 4:48 pm (reply)

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ohheavenlyday (message) 2,400 posts, Buzzing bee

I happen to love your ring! There are certain rings that aren’t my personal taste, but I would never tell a woman that. What does it hurt me to smile and say it’s gorgeous?

11/8/10 @ 4:48 pm (reply)

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culby cheese (message) 193 posts, Blushing bee

No one was snarky about my ring, but this really applies to EVERYTHING about wedding planning! People have no filter and think it’s ok to snark on your wedding plans when they don’t agree. Of course it’s not what you’d do- It’s what I’m doing, beeyotches! It makes me think of Amy Poehler’s Amber sketch on SNL- the tooty girl with one leg- “JEALOUS???”

Be proud of your ring- it’s unique, and it’s so YOU!

11/8/10 @ 4:49 pm (reply)

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bRooklynRocks (message) 3,767 posts, Honey bee

I love your ring but may I say that I love the backdrop of the picture of your ring? I am planning on having some of those books as my centerpieces. Yes, you know me, I’m all about the classics. FWIW, I don’t even have a ring. I’m waiting for my sapphire and when I told my friends they said “It’s so you” Um okay, it is actually me

11/8/10 @ 4:52 pm (reply)

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missbiscuit (message) 1,050 posts, Bumble bee

Mine is a really pale aquamarine surrounded with small diamonds, but because of the paleness of the aquamarine it makes it hard to tell if it’s just a trick of light making a diamond look blue or what. Most pause long enough when looking at my ring that I feel I have to explain what the center stone is, and then I often feel that people are thinking “oh, what a shame”. I just let it roll off my back, though.. I LOVE my ring and picked the center stone myself. I wouldn’t have it any differently.

11/8/10 @ 4:52 pm (reply)

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Rebecca

oh, I LOVE your ring! I even had a teeny bit of ring envy when I saw it.

11/8/10 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Boom (message) 121 posts, Blushing bee

I love your ring! I am not a jewlery person so the whole ring thing is just silly to me. When people ask to see my ring it always catches me off guard, especially people I don’t know… for some reason I would expect “do you have a picture of the lucky guy” more from a stranger. haha Atleast that’s what I would ask. We don’t have a ton of $$ so my ring is his mom’s from her marriage with his dad… we are keeping the diamond but switching to a white gold band because I don’t like yellow gold on my skin. But other than that I think it’s perfect because his mom wanted me to have it, he knealed down on a swinging bridge 1 mile in the air (even though he is affraid of heights) to give it to me and cried like a baby with me after I said yes because we were so excited! I think it is easy for people to give snarky comments about a ring when they look at it as a peice of jewelry… only you will look at it as a representation of a commitment and the person you love.

11/8/10 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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tocarat (message) 324 posts, Helper bee

Your ring is beautiful!!! I love it, and mine is similar in style, so of course I would love it. Mine is so different from a lot of peoples and thats why I love it. One of my friends’ is a gorgeous turquoise stone and she gets crazy responses!

11/8/10 @ 4:55 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Locket (message) 2,837 posts, Sugar bee

I love your ring! I may be a bit biased because I have a split shank setting as well. I do know what you mean though…people are a bit odd when it comes to these things…it’s funny because I am on the end where part of me wishes my rings together were a bit less “blingy” because I don’t want people to comment behind my back and say that it’s too gaudy.

11/8/10 @ 4:56 pm (reply)

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totheislnds (message) 5,361 posts, Bee Keeper

woo hoo for cushion cut with paved halos! i haven’t had any strange comments yet but ill let you know when i do. Love your ring BTW!

11/8/10 @ 4:57 pm (reply)

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JoyfulBee (message) 167 posts, Blushing bee

I know how mean a lot people can be when they see something that is unusual… or very usual.

I have a round solitaire, and it really seems like a lot of women have the same kind of ring. Some women look down on it, because it is a very common setting, but hey. Who are they that I should care what they think?

A ring is a ring, is a ring. If your Mister bought you the ring, that gives it a different meaning from all the other rings that all the other Misters bought for their Ladies.

@Mrs. Sand Dollar: That was inappropriate and cruel, especially seeing as how you could obviously hear her. In these cases, the saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” really should be brought back.

11/8/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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AMFELTS (message) 60 posts, Worker bee

Some how after they start to say something about my ring I interject with what I think my ring looks like, “vintage”. Its not, its a one of a kind ring,designed by my guy just for me, but I know people who give those slighted comments, I dont want to hear it, so I just “give them the words to use” hahaha. I have no idea what they say later.

11/8/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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Julie

i have a solitaire ring. It’s exactly what i wanted and helped my fiance pick out the style (though he picked out the final ring) when I showed it to people i got “ohh are you going to add side stones to it?” more than once. No, i love my solitaire, and it allowed to have a bigger stone by giving up the side stones. Why do people think i need to add to it for me to like it? My wedding band won’t have ANY stones on it, and that’s how i want it.

If everyone had the same ring it would be boring, it is fine that girls have many differnet colors/shapes/styles of rings. back off snarky people!

11/8/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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