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Ew, no not that kind! My poor dad just had a heart attack.
Moving in with Mr. Knitting 2.5 years ago was kind of the best thing ever. We had so much fun finding an apartment and setting it up together (with lots of help). Our lives had been intertwined for years before we moved in together so finally having all our stuff in the same place was amazing.
However, we did have a big problem.
I hated having to share a bed. I really didn’t like it. I had so much trouble falling asleep and then staying asleep. I also began to do weird things in my sleep like flip myself around in bed and wake up with my head at the foot of the bed with no recollection of doing this.
While I completely loved living with him, it felt like the biggest treat ever when he was away for a night because it meant I got our comfy bed all to myself.
Comfy bed I didn’t want to share:
Now, I’m much better. It took me two years, but now I’m finally comfortable sharing a bed. I can fall asleep and stay asleep and this feels like a huge accomplishment. Even better, I actually like sharing a bed now and find it difficult to believe that I once had so many problems with this. That being said, whenever we stay in a hotel room with two beds you can bet we each take our own bed. We still like our space.
Just before checking out of a hotel. You’ll notice we definitely used both beds:
Where do you fall on the bed sharing issue? Instantly easy, or did it take some time?
I’m a big cuddler, but when it comes time to actually sleep I’m a total bed hog. Poor guy, I’ve trained Mr. Seashell to practically cling to the edge of the bed so that I can properly sprawl out. I’d feel worse, but the man falls asleep in 10 seconds of hitting the pillow and sleeps like a log.
Instantly easy for me. But I also sleep like a rock every single night as long as an atomic bomb is going off right outside my window.
I can completely relate! It took me a long time to get used to sharing my bed, especially because that second body took over the doggies’ side and they now sleep ON me. Actually, after almost 4 years, I’m still not used to it. Not sure if the hyper awareness of someone else there will ever fully go away.
It never bothered me to share a bed because I’m the bed hog in the relationship. I feel bad for my husband (sometimes)…he has woken up to my feet in his face, me taking my knee and hitting him in the back (I might have been dreaming I was throwing knees in the octagon), and just recently he woke up and my fist was on his pillow in his face. Poor guy.
Love the bedspread! As for the post, he had trouble because I’m a “heater” and “follow him around the bed,” to cuddle while asleep. He’s gotten used to it, but loves when it’s cold so I don’t bother him as much. As for me, he snores LOUD, like I wonder how anyone else ever slept beside him and kept her hearing.
It took time. When I was in college my live-in boyfriend and I shared a twin bed. After we split I got a bigger bed and got very used to sleeping alone.
It was very strange sharing a bed with my now-husband, and it took time to get used to having someone else in my bed. Except that neither of us are cuddly-sleepers. Most of the time we sleep back to back, and that was helpful for me. Now I get lonely if he’s not there. Even though we don’t cuddle, I like being able to reach behind me and feel him.
My guy is a bed hog AND a blanket hog. And there were times after I moved in where I just couldn’t sleep in the same bed (mostly when I was crying or sick. Those are the only times I roll up like a caterpillar in a blanket.) I’ve always tossed and turned at night, so I was worried about waking him. But after a few weeks, he got better about sharing the covers (but not the bed) and I realized it took shaking him and shouting at him to wake him up, so it was easier to sleep next to him. Now, it’s hard to sleep well without him in bed next to me.
It took a few months of regular sleepovers before I got used to it, but it was never too bad as long as we have had a king size bed. I can’t share a full or queen with him and expect to get more than a few hours of sleep!
I am still getting used to the bed-sharing situation. We have very different preferences when it comes to sheets and blankets and their tucked-in-ness. I am actually looking forward to a day far in the future when we can possibly have separate beds! Am I the only one out there who is considering this option? Thanks for this post Miss Knitting!
Oh pleeease let it not take me two years! *gulp* We are the exact same way. You’ve given me (distant but present) hope.
Before I met the boy I would always sleep in a diagonal across the bed. The would inevitably result in me kicking someone in the shins if we were sharing a bed in an attempt to get to my rightful position. After living together for over a year now I have finally learned to sleep vertically, but I still look forward to the nights I have the bed to myself.
My fiancé and I were neighbors in an apartment complex when we first met. A year prior, I had come out of a lengthy and complicated relationship where I was used to sharing a bed, but used to sharing it with that specific person. I was only just getting used to sleeping alone, sprawling on my new mattress. When I started dating my neighbor, I would wait for him to fall asleep and sneak back home.
I think it took us about two years to get used to sharing a bed, which was also when we decided to get a new, fancy mattress. I think looking for something together helped solidify the idea of “sharing.” Plus we sleep with two blankets on the bed now, which provides some sense of security in our sleep, I think.
I have trouble falling asleep if he isn’t next to me. Not normally an issue except we just watched Paranormal Activity and our old houses make some creepy noises. Bad imagination!
We always snug in bed, but lately, my guy explained why he calls me his “little heater.” Apparently, around 4am, I get really hot which makes him get super hot. At that point, he will stop spooning me until I cool down. So we always fall asleep with snugs and wake up with snugs.
I actually have the most trouble falling asleep when he is not there. I toss and turn, wake up often, and just never get into the good REM sleep unless he is there. :-/
This post is so perfect- I moved in with my bf two years ago and we spent the first six months in separate beds! ACtually, we would try to sleep in one full size and at about two am i would switch to the second bed. Luckilyyy…for christmas last year we put our money together and bought a king sized bed 
Evverything is so much better now, we both sleep soundly.
Also, we had to reach an understanding about bedding by keeping two separate sets- he uses the flat sheet and a quilt, and I wrap up in another comforter. No one has to be a bed hog now!
We have a double bed, so it’s a little tight which I don’t mind but when Mr TM’s away, I love sleeping diagonally on it, isn’t that strange??
It was easy for me. I didn’t think it would be, but ever since we first shared a bed, it’s been so much easier to sleep. I have the hardest time sleeping if he’s not next to me.
Ugh, I have a terrible time sleeping with my FI. While he can’t sleep well without me in bed, I suffer through his cover pulling and teeth grinding. I hope I get used to it soon. . . because currently I do not like sharing my tempurpedic bed!
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Mrs. Knitting, Toronto Age and Occupation: 24, Student Recruitment Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Neuroscience PhD Candidate Engagement Date: October 2009 Wedding Date: December 2010 Venue: University of Toronto Faculty Club About Me: I'm a pearl wearing, etiquette book reading Toronto girl who loves cooking and baking, museums, charm bracelets, and collecting books on Jackie Kennedy (a lot). I've been known to spend Sunday mornings at the antique market, Wednesday evenings at sister sushi dinners, and any bit of spare time reading. After six and a half years of many late night walks, watching DVDs together in bed, travelling to places like New York, and Tobermory, doing Sudokus together on the couch, lots of Indian food, the occasional yoga class, moving in together and so much more, Mr. Knitting and I are planning a cozy Christmasy (it's a word!), vintage wedding in Toronto complete with many DIY projects (eek!) and lots of help from our amazing group of family and friends.
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