I’m surrounded by two types of women right now, it seems. The first are currently pregnant or are glowing new mothers. The second are in the process of planning their weddings. I’ve found that the big announcements tend to happen in waves, or at least that’s what the world of social media is trying to tell me, anyway.
We’ve been engaged (for what feels like forever) for over a year now, and still have a good many months to go before the big day. As Miss Lioness put it recently, the length of a couple’s engagement is such a personal decision—and one of the strangest (and yes, also the hardest) things I’ve been dealing with lately is the amount of people who have gotten engaged after us but are getting married before us.
I know it doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things. People get married all the time—it’s not as though I expect the world to stop and revolve around me because I AM GETTING MARRIED NEXT JUNE. It’s silly, really. I love weddings. I love going to them, I love reading about them, I love seeing pictures of them, and I love blogging about them. Obviously. 
I’m the kind of girl who is all too willing to share the details with anyone who asks how things are going with our planning process. I can’t keep a secret to save my life, and I like to talk. Particularly when that talking revolves around weddings because I love… well, I’m sure you get the idea.
When I first revealed our wedding venue via some pictures online, it was mainly to show our friends here in London. A few guests got a sneak peek at the beautiful building, and others who couldn’t attend got to see the church and the reception venue and commented on how lovely it all looked. What I wasn’t expecting were people from my hometown to start asking me for details about our venues.
I told them, of course. I mean, why wouldn’t I? If I saw a gorgeous church in someone’s wedding photos, I would definitely ask that person for more information—that’s what inspiration is all about! I found my wedding photographer through a blog friend of mine who had a great experience (and stunning wedding images) with them, and it worked out perfectly.
Of the few (!) people who asked me for details on our reception venue, I know for a fact one of them has gone ahead and booked their wedding with them as well…and it really doesn’t worry me that much. We come from different groups of friends, we’ll likely be in different rooms within the building, and we each have very different styles in mind for our big day, so apart from the exterior photographs, you probably wouldn’t even know it. She was so thrilled with it and so thankful for me for posting that picture—it was a nice giddy feeling to know that I’d helped someone make one of the biggest decisions of their wedding planning.
Another girl decided on a different venue for her big day. I’m not sure where another of them has decided, and I don’t like to pry, so I’ll have to wait and see what her final choice was. But the last girl has gone remarkably quiet on the wedding-talk front. When I asked how she got on visiting the venue and whether she had decided on her location, she told me she’d rather not say. Er, okay? Soon after, I found that she had set her date a few months earlier than my wedding, and that she was keeping all of the details a secret. It’ll be interesting to see how (and where!) that wedding pans out.
I know there are some women out there who do like to keep everything under wraps until the big day, but I’m not one of them. I won’t be screaming out every little detail to the rooftops, except to the hive of course, but if someone asks me for advice or inspiration on a vendor, I’m more than happy to share it.
What were you like with your wedding: were you a sharer, or a secret holder?
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