To Be With You

To Be With You

November 19th, 2010 @ 5:06 pm by Ms Cheetah
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A few months ago I was out to dinner with my friend L, and we got to talking about how much time we spend with our significant others. At the time, Mr. Cheetah and I had similar schedules and we were able to spend quite a bit of time together (it was awesome). L was on the other end of the spectrum; her husband’s work schedule had him out of town for weeks at a time. It got me thinking about how much the amount of time spent together varies greatly from couple to couple, and even year to year. Some couples are able to be with each other all day, and may even work together (like Jim & Pam below). While many other couples are in long distance relationships and may only get to see each other every couple months or so.

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Recently the Cheetahs’ schedules have changed and even though we live together we only get to see each other a couple hours a day. In 10+ years together, our schedules, and thus the amount of time we spend together, has changed many times.

When we first started dating, I hated every moment away from Mr. Cheetah—even going to class was a struggle (but I always went). One quarter in college I had a 30-minute break between classes. It took 10 minutes to walk from class to Mr. Cheetah’s apartment and another 10 to walk back to my next class. I visited him every day (well, it was a Tues/Thus class, so twice a week) for those 10 leftover minutes. Yeah… I had it bad.

Just a year ago, there were many days when the only time we’d spend together was when we were sleeping in the same bed. I was finishing up my grad school course work and working on my thesis, so I was gone 15 hours a day. At that same time Mr. Cheetah was working on his Masters and working full time. There was also a 5-month period where we were long distance (I know that might seem like a walk in the park to some of you LD people out there!). We’ve also been lucky and have had stretches of time where we got many hours a day with each other.

While I still love spending oodles and oodles of time with Mr. Cheetah, the years together has made time apart easier. I believe that a little absence does make the heart grow fonder…I love the feeling of seeing Mr. Cheetah after a couple days apart.

How much time do you spend with your SO? How has that changed during your relationship?

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10 Responses to “To Be With You”

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Miss OBG

Our class schedule changes constantly, so sometimes we’ll go days without waking time together, and other times we’ll spend several hours a day hanging out. I definitely prefer the latter, but knowing he’ll be there sleeping next to me makes the former easier to deal with.

11/19/10 @ 5:20 pm (reply)

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MissMusic (message) 302 posts, Helper bee

We are at the point where we only see eachother to sleep— thank god we live together! I am currently interning and getting my master’s degree at night and he is working and going to night school for massage therapy. Things are crazy but it will be worth it when we are done!

11/19/10 @ 5:23 pm (reply)

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Minutiae (message) 2,296 posts, Buzzing bee

When we first started dating, we were semi-long distance. Now he lives nearby, so we see each other a little bit more frequently. We’re slowly gearing up to post-wedding life, when we’ll be living together!

Also, whenever I hear that “absence” phrase, I think of a family friend’s response to it: “but more than oft, it makes it wonder!” I’m very grateful for ALL the time my fiance and I have together.

11/19/10 @ 5:53 pm (reply)

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missbiscuit (message) 1,050 posts, Bumble bee

We only see each other for a couple of hours a night. I usually get home from work around 6/6:30, and then he has to be in bed by 10 because he gets up early for work. Weekends are heaven since we have whole days to do stuff together!

11/19/10 @ 6:01 pm (reply)

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tea (message) 7,288 posts, Bee Keeper

we’re a long distance couple from the start so we only see each other every few months or so, though we do make time to video chat whenever we can to help bide the time between visits. we value every minute we have together and we’re both looking forward to when we’re in the same place at the same time.

11/19/10 @ 6:03 pm (reply)

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Miss Cinnamon Bun (message) 1,100 posts, Bumble bee

Both our schedules are constantly changing, plus we work 6 days a week, so it’s a rare occurrence when our time off lines up. Some days we have literally kissed each other in the street, as one is walking to work, and the other coming home. We took a vacation in June when we realised that we’d have 5 days off together in a row. It’s the first time that’s ever happened!

11/19/10 @ 6:48 pm (reply)

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spitfire229 (message) 377 posts, Helper bee

Currently, we’re long distance, so we see each other every three or four weeks, for a weekend.

When we first started dating (the first three years), we lived in different cities (an hour apart), but he would stay over often enough to make it feel like we spent a lot of time together.

Then years 4-6 we’ve been a 7 hour drive apart, which was tough. (In this period, for 4 months we were in a different time zone, me in Ontario, he in Alberta).

Instead of going on a honeymoon, after our wedding, we will be moving into our first apartment together! Since we’ve never lived together, let alone ever lived in the same city, it will be a major adjustment!

11/19/10 @ 7:19 pm (reply)

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Heidi

We met at work and become office besties. That developed into a full force office romance. So we were Jim and Pam. Spent all day everyday together, eating lunch in the break room, playing pranks on co-workers. That lasted 9 months and then he was moving across the country for grad school. We both are from Oklahoma and met at a job in Oklahoma. So he moved to Philadelphia to start optometry school and I moved to China to teach English.

So, we went from everyday all day, to different countries. He came to visit me 2 times in the year that I was living in China. I have since moved back to Oklahoma, while he is still in Philadelphia.

I told him I wouldn’t move there unless we were going to get married-I was trying to protect my heart with this reasoning. I have been home from China since July and I have seen him 4 times. The last time being the proposal!

I’ll see him at Thanksgiving, Christmas, and he will come back during his spring break. Hopefully we can work something out between spring break and the wedding in May.

Let’s just say I am more than ready to be in the same place with him again! 1000 miles is getting old!

11/19/10 @ 11:55 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

I totally believe absence makes the heart grow fonder too! Even when Mr. G leaves for a couple hours for a job interview and I’m just sitting around at home, I start to feel sad. Little blessings!

11/20/10 @ 11:45 pm (reply)

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Ms Cheetah (message) 1,188 posts, Bumble bee

@spitfire229: That sounds like a perfect honeymoon!

11/23/10 @ 2:11 pm (reply)