Weddingbee Blog

“Good friends are like stars…. You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.”

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When Mr. Ostrich & I first got engaged, I didn’t want any maids of honors or bridesmaids.

Was I being ridiculous? Maybe. But we had also agreed on a small {50 people) wedding and in that group of people would be my very bestest girlfriends. And if I really decided to have bridesmaids, knowing my indecisive self, there would be more people standing up front than sitting in the audience.

So what happened to this master plan of mine?

Mr. Ostrich decided he wanted his 3 “best men” & 1 “best girl {his honorary sister}” standing by his side.

“No question.” he said simply. “These are my bestest friends who have been there—from couple fights to way-too-drunk nights–every single time.”

Ack. So I had to face my fear of picking a bridal party. And if there is one thing I absolutely dread, it’s excluding people. I love all my friends for different reasons and they’ve all helped me at different stages along my wild ride of life….what makes only a few of them bridesmaid-worthy?

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So one night, armed with a big bottle of red wine and a lifetime of memories, I found my 3 “best girls” & 1 “best guy.”

Looking back, I had originally thought many of my friends deserved to be a bridesmaid for one reason or the other. “We’ve known each other since we were 6,” “We were inseparable since high school,” “We spent the whole summer together,” and of course…”I was a bridesmaid in her wedding.”

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But this time, instead of looking back, I started to look forward…”Who’s pushed me to be a better partner to Mr. O?” “Who do I confide in when I’ve royally screwed up in that crazy little thing called life?” and “Who do I call, when I’m terrified, shattered and shame spiraling, to be there with a case of wine and a shoulder to sob on?”

For this incredibly private Ostrich, when everything is rosy I love to confide in my many wonderful friends. But when I’m in a dark and twisty place, it’s an entirely different story. I hide, shut down and try to deal with it on my own instead of burdening my friends with my drama. But there has always been a few who know me better than I sometimes know myself and have, like Mr. O said, “have been there…every single time.”

And that’s when I found them….my best girls and guy…my source of strength, love and all that warm and fuzzy stuff.

Now it’s your turn, bees! How many people are in your bridal party? And what made these few stand out in your life?