The First Big Wedding Related Cry

The First Big Wedding Related Cry

November 22nd, 2010 @ 2:45 pm by Mrs. Waffle
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I’m not gonna lie, bees. This fall in Central Texas was an allergy NIGHTMARE! About a month ago this little Wafflette was on a diet of antihistamines, Emergen-C, Kleenex and my good friend the Neti Pot. I had also spent 3 weekends in a row doing shows and events for work. All that to say, on a particular Saturday morning I was a mess of stress, no sleep, and Benedryl all jammed into a meltdown ready to go.

Poor, sweet Mr Waffle. He had no clue.

I had decided to take my mind off of the misery and look at beautiful beaches and resorts online. Ahhh, blissful honeymoon dreams of giant soaking tubs, warm sand and margaritas danced in my head. The Waffs caught that dreamy look in my eye and called me on it. He’s knows me too well and can spot me lusting over something online from over a mile away.

“What ya lookin’ at now?”

“Possible Honeymoon destinations and packages.”

“We shouldn’t look at that kind of stuff until we know we can afford it and it can fit into our budget.”

Now, on a normal day this kind of statement would agitate me a little, but I would be OK. After all, his super practicality and budgeting smarts are gifts he has that I admire. It was not a normal day though, and the storm clouds erupted…

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Typically, our discussions about budgets and other such topics are fair and rational debates. Not this time. I was whimpery and whiny whilst he was defensive and obviously not in the mood for my behavior. I believe I was told not to be stroppy at one point or another.

At the end of it all, there was a mass of tissues on my desk and I was being cuddled and hugged warmly. Mr Waffle put together a complicated spreadsheet and discovered that we did indeed have plenty enough money for a honeymoon. I discovered that I had my first big wedding-related cry and had indeed become one of “those girls” who gets emotional over silly wedding crap (although I SWEAR the Benedryl made me do it).

What small thing triggered your first wedding related cry?

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15 Responses to “The First Big Wedding Related Cry”

Bee

Miss Panther (message) 1,046 posts, Bumble bee

Awww! Talking about budgets sucks. I don’t know what “stroppy” means, but I bet every bride has her stroppy moment. I like that word. Can I start using it, you think?

11/22/10 @ 2:09 pm (reply)

Bee

Miss Sloth (message) 3,184 posts, Sugar bee

My first wedding-related cry was when a relative reneged on the money they promised us, after we’d booked all of our vendors and signed our contracts. My other big wedding-related cry was bridesmaid related.

For what it’s worth, I also get emotional when Mr. S gets all practical about the budget. I’ll get all daydreamy and say, “Wouldn’t it be nice if we had blahblahblah?” And he’ll say “Well, we can’t afford it so there’s no use talking about it.”

And then I get pissy. I know we can’t afford it, but just let me dream about it for five minutes, please!!! Dreaming about it is FREE!

11/22/10 @ 2:12 pm (reply)

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AnneTossy (message) 1,308 posts, Bumble bee

@Miss Sloth: Lol! I love that! ‘Dreaming about it is FREE!’

11/22/10 @ 2:15 pm (reply)

Bee

Miss Waffle (message) 1,121 posts, Bumble bee

@Miss Sloth:stroppy means ill-tempered and belligerent, and yes you should totally use it!

@Miss Sloth: I totally agree with wanting to just be allowed to be dreamy for a few minutes.
“Dreaming about it is FREE!” = awesome! Thanks!

11/22/10 @ 2:18 pm (reply)

Bee

Miss Elephant (message) 6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

My first cry was all about the budget and how we would pull it off.

11/22/10 @ 2:40 pm (reply)

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mightywombat (message) 3,311 posts, Sugar bee

Aw, I just love your posts and your drawings. I haven’t had my first cry yet, but I know it’s coming!*

*And I HAVE had my first break-out-in-hives-(really)-from-stress-of-guest-list-and-budget-planning moment, though.

11/22/10 @ 2:55 pm (reply)

Bee

Mrs. Locket (message) 2,837 posts, Sugar bee

Awww! I feel you on this..I def had my out of nowhere wedding cries, but in the end it was all ok (well for the most part). It’s ok to cry every once in a while

11/22/10 @ 3:20 pm (reply)

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that girl (message) 71 posts, Worker bee

I haven’t had a cry yet but I did have a hissy fit this weekend when my FI said that he didn’t think I was actually serious about New Zealand for a honeymoon and he couldn’t fly for that long.

I slept on the couch that night until he promised we could go.

Sometimes I’m not proud of myself… but seriously, why wouldn’t I have been serious!

11/22/10 @ 3:52 pm (reply)

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almostmrsc (message) 232 posts, Helper bee

Mine was that he didn’t want to sign the contract for the reception place with me. He was concerned that we weren’t getting free room from the hotel next door which isn’t even owned by our reception place. Yeah, I ripped up the copy that I had signed and nearly chucked the ring back in his face because it felt like to me that he wanted to back out… which was so not the case. I was pissed, hurt, and sobbed for a while. I should note that we are not really financially responsible for our reception costs so it set me off pretty good.

11/22/10 @ 4:08 pm (reply)

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vtbride2011 (message) 73 posts, Worker bee

I <3 your drawings!!! They are always so great!

My first cry was also about our honeymoon and not being able to afford it.

11/22/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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feministbride (message) 283 posts, Helper bee

@Miss Sloth: Exactly!! My only wedding cries have been over budget concerns, too… and we’re so early in the process that everything is still a dream at this point. My Mr. is so practical, that he has a hard time imagining anything if he’s not certain if we can achieve it. So like you, I’m constantly saying, “just let me imagine things for a minute!!!”

11/22/10 @ 5:34 pm (reply)

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missbiscuit (message) 1,050 posts, Bumble bee

I was already a little wimpery realizing that we wouldn’t have the budget for a photobooth which I reeeally wanted but then we realized that we wouldn’t have enough for a honeymoon either and I totally broke down. I’ve come to terms with it now- we’ll save up and do a kick ass 1 yearaverssary… but still, it does sting. And I was totally distraught in the moment when it first sunk in.

11/22/10 @ 6:00 pm (reply)

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Kinsey

Mine was yesterday, when we had his parents over to discuss the “few” people they HAD to have at the reception. We’re trying to keep the number around 150, and they added 60 people to the list that was already around 130, which didn’t even include some of my parents friends. They claim those people don’t absolutely need to be there, but they would like for them to be and it’s all up to me now. This puts all the pressure on me to cut people I haven’t even met. Stress!

11/22/10 @ 9:29 pm (reply)

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Bee

Mrs. Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

I cried when I found out Mr. G’s parents definitely weren’t coming to the wedding. I hope you found some place amazing for your honeymoon!

11/23/10 @ 12:34 am (reply)

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missDNA (message) 231 posts, Helper bee

my first cry was also about budget. I was overwhelmed and thought we couldn’t afford the venue I loved (also the venue we booked). I am a visual learner and my fiance is amazing with spreadsheets and money so he went home and did it all up so that I could see that we could actually afford it after some negotiating and booking friday instead of saturday My Fiance is also British, so I get called all kinds of weird things that I have no idea what they mean. Haha.