Picking my favorite post of all-time was really a difficult task for me; my blogging experience with Weddingbee has been so spectacular that selecting a singular piece of writing to look back on seemed impossible. However, after much deliberation, I want to revisit one of my earliest posts.
After getting engaged, I found it very enlightening to hear the comments that other people made regarding Mr. Buttons and me. My husband proposed to me after a [relatively] short time period, so we had a few skeptical comments shot our way. I really loved this post because I not only was able to explain my relationship, but I was also able to hear back from readers regarding their courtship stories. In the end, everyone is different: you can be dating someone for 8 months or 8 years before getting engaged…love is beautiful and mysterious that way!
Mid-October marked the one-year anniversary of the Buttons’ first date. Ah, so if you begin to do the math you realize… Mr. Buttons and I have only been together for a little over a year at this point, and we’ve been engaged for 6 of those months. So yes… we dated for only 8 months before he proposed!
I suppose you could say that we had a whirlwind romance, but nothing about it was rushed.
From the very start, Mr. Buttons and I clicked. Conversation came naturally, we share core values, and we were fortunate enough to have a lot of time to spend together because of our work schedules. Marriage came into consideration quicker than I would have normally expected, but it felt right, and we both knew that we’d found each other for a reason. And hey, when you know… you know!
In comparison to many of my friends/acquaintances’ relationships, I realize that this is a rather brief amount of time. I have had a good deal of skepticism pass my way since our engagement was announced, and I do try to take it in stride. My favorite is when people congratulate me/us and comment how much they can tell that we are in love, etc… and then they ask the inevitable question…
“So, how long have you two been together?”
“Just a little over a year now…”
A look of confusion/surprise crosses over their faces, and I typically hear something like, “oh…wow!” or, “you didn’t waste much time, did you?”
So, this begs the question…how long is long enough to “know” that someone is the person you are meant to be with? Is there a specific amount of time that must elapse before you officially are bequeathed with the ability to determine this? Is there a little alarm clock that suddenly “goes off” in your head to let you know that enough time has passed, and you are officially allowed to consider marriage? I think not. Some couples are together for years before a proposal, some just a few months. My parents had a shorter courtship than Mr. Buttons and I did, and they have been happily married for years! And, on the flip side, I know other couples that were together for years before they were married, as well! That is the beauty of life, right? At least, I’d like to think so! Love comes in so many shapes and forms, and what is right for one person isn’t necessarily right for others.
I’d like to just throw it out there that I personally focus on how much my fiancé and I are in love, not the amount of time we’ve had together. If you have been with your significant other for years, and you are still as madly in love as the first time you met, that is fantastic! Or, if you have only been together for a short time and you are still feeling the butterflies… that is wonderful, as well! I know I still get them when I see Mr. Buttons.
So… here’s to love, in every way, shape, and form it comes in! Enjoy it.
How long have you been with your SO? Did anyone else have a whirlwind romance like Mr. Buttons and I did?