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Dear Wedding Guests,
Mr. Cardy and I love you. We really, truly do. You obviously mean a lot to us, or we wouldn’t have invited you to participate in such a monumental day in our lives.
That being said…
SEND BACK YOUR DAMN RSVPS.
We are only a week away from the RSVP deadline that we asked you to meet, and we’ve received less than a third of the RSVPs back. I’m sorry, y’all, but that’s just not OK.
And you know what makes it even worse? I know for a fact that there are some of you who are either planning a wedding or are recently married. You KNOW what this is like! You know how frustrating it is to have to wait on people who are taking their sweet time to send back RSVPs, and to face the crappy realization that in a few weeks you’ll have to call dozens of people to track down an answer. It’s not fun!
So, my lovely wedding guests…please, please, PLEASE send your RSVPs back soon. It’s not like it requires that much effort. Mr. Cardy and I addressed the envelope and pre-stamped it. All you need to do is fill the card out and throw it in the mailbox! So get to it!
Love,
Miss Cardigan
Did you have any problems getting RSVPs back? Did you end up having to call people?
I haven’t been faced with the daunting return of the RSVP’s yet - but I’ll tell you what. If someone fails to return their RSVP to me by the deadline, and especially a week after, I am not going to hunt it down. I will assume they are not coming, family or not!
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I hated RSVPs. My deadline was November 15. I still have almost half of the guests to call because no one would mail them back. I had one guest text me “oh, BTW, I have your RSVP. We’re coming I just haven’t gotten around to mailing it.”
LAZY.
Waiting for RSVP’s are REALLY going to stress me out. I’m compulsively early for everything and I HATE waiting… acccccck! Hope they come back to you soon!
I never sent in a late RSVP until AFTER my wedding. I totally suck. To be fair, though, the invitation went to my husband, who, as is typical of him, immediately lost it. We didn’t run into it again until THE DAY OF the RSVP deadline, which is when I mailed it out. Since the couple never RSVP’d for our wedding at all (we had to call them), I didn’t feel *too* bad, though. 
HAH! The second week was the best week for us, but even now as I’m writing this, I was missing a good 40 RSVP cards, and my wedding was this past weekend!! Even then, I had people that RSVPed yes, and then didn’t show up at all. It’s going to happen, the biggest thing is not letting it stress you out. And if I get an RSVP this week, I’m going to be laughing my butt off.
They will come…at the last possible minute…but they will come.
This was so stressful for me too. I find it incredibly rude and really, it’s just a preview of the rude etiquette people will inevitably pay at the wedding 
Our RSVP date was a week ago and we still have people who have not rsvped or responded to emails sent politely requesting their rsvp. I am definitely cranky about this.
Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like your guests have got some time. I mean, your deadline is next week and this is a holiday week, the lead-up to which can be pretty hectic. If you wanted to hear from people sooner you should have asked to get the cards back sooner, ya know?
Of course, the sooner people can let you know, regardless of a ‘deadline’ the better. It makes it easier on you. And you will, undoubtedly, have to call people who neglect to let you know altogether. But, in the meantime, give your guests a break. They most likely just aren’t aware that this is an anxiety producing situation for you.
I haven’t gotten to that point yet in our wedding planning but one of my many job duties in my career is what I like to fondly call “herding cats”. We put on multiple events every year and getting our RSVPs back from our invites (entrepreneurs) is like pulling teeth.
I can only look forward to having to ‘herd’ some family and friends this spring.
Knowing this I’m always surprised when couples send out their invitations only a few weeks before the wedding. Don’t they realize how hard its going to be to get the RSVPs!!
RSVPs were the most stressful part of my wedding. We had to call a little over half of our guests. My mother-in-law kept telling us she would ask people if they were coming, and then she’d forget. (These were people she had insisted that we invite, and besides their address we had none of their contact info.) When she did get back to us, she’d say, “Oh, Thelma and Bob aren’t coming so they are sending their daughter and her husband.” Um, what????? My parents were paying for the whole thing, so having my in-laws add people at the last minute was stressful, too! Okay, rant done! It’s over now and the wedding went great.
You and I are in the same boat, as our RSVP deadline is December 3. We have received less than 1/4 of our RSVPs, and while I could be aggravated, I’m not. I think as brides, we need to remember that our wedding is never as important to anyone as it is to us. Things, such as the return of RSVPs, are high on our priority list because it is OUR wedding. Sure, it’s frustrating to think that you (and I, for sure) will have to call our family members and friends to secure a “yes” or “no,” but I promise it’s not the end of the world 
Your emotions are justified, but you are the only one who can control how you react to this situation. Choose to compartmentalize, and think of those phone calls as opportunities to reconnect with loved ones. Best of luck!
first of, i FORGOT we changed our RSVP date to 11/1 (i thought it was this week). so in reality, my so called really really good friend, who had implied she and her son were coming to our destination wedding, who had asked questions about the accomodations, who said she was going to talk to the reservations person (and seemed to know alot about the potentials) and who hadn’t sent the RSVP card back…. well, i texted her saying i just realized i hadn’t gotten her card and she replies, via text, i’m sorry, we can’t come. can’t wait to see lots of pretty pictures though!!!
um, no, because i want to gouge out your eyes. ok, not really. not, really, really.
so, our guest list is 8 people less and we don’t have much more to pay off then on our final wedding payment. silver linings right?
Miss Cardy, I just got married and have to admit that we got the majority of our RSVPs 1 to 2 weeks after the RSVP date!! So stay strong, they will come. Also, most of the people who didn’t RSVP weren’t coming anyway and we sent 400+ invitations (so we were really really scared!!).
We didn’t get a lot of RSVPs back. What we did is we had my husband’s mother track down her side of the family hoping they would give her a more definate answer than just a we’ll try to make it response (let’s face it we couldn’t afford to pay for their meal based on an indefinate answer) and it worked. They gave her a yes or no and she got back to us. My mom was going to do the same for my side of the family and any friends but I was able to email the few friends we were waiting on responses for and got quick definate responses back so she didn’t have to make any calls.
It is a pain and our worst offenders were those that were just married or about to get married as well, which shocked me (I send mine back the day after we get them now lol)
Good luck and hopefully you have someone to help you track down those guests, it will make your life so much easier!
Yikes! Be sure to give your parents the task of calling guests - one less thing for you two to worry about!
our rsvp deadline is in two days and we’ve received less than half back. arg!
The RSVP’s were the WORST part of the wedding! I hope everyone gets their act together for you Cardy.
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Mrs. Cardigan, Austin Age and Occupation: 21, Student/Soon-to-be Special Education Teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 20, Student/Soon-to-be Accounting Systems Analyst Engagement Date: August 16, 2009 Wedding Date: January 2011 Venue: Vintage Villas About Me: I'm a native Austinite who was raised as a die-hard Aggie. Luckily, I'm a pretty persuasive girl because I managed to convince my high school boyfriend (now fiance!), Mr. Cardigan, to ditch his hardcore Longhorn ways and join me up at A&M, where we currently reside with our adorable dogs, Cullen & Ranger. We're currently planning a bright, cheery wedding with a ridiculous amount of DIY projects that I can't wait to tackle! I love crafting in any form, reading, and margaritas (I think I love them the most!). Organization is what keeps me sane and I love helping others, which is probably why I ended up as an education major. It gets a little chaotic sometimes when you're planning a wedding among all of the papers, projects, finals, and certification exams, but we're having the time of our lives and we can't wait to get started on our journey as husband and wife - and we're so excited to share our wedding with the hive!
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