Bridal Guilt

Bridal Guilt

November 30th, 2010 @ 3:57 pm by Mrs. Prairie Dog
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Genetically speaking, I got my dad’s eyes, and my mom’s guilt. Guilt runs in our family like a dominant gene, and it is exhausting.

Here are a few of the many, many issues that I’m wrestling with:

1. I feel guilty that my parents are paying for the majority of our wedding and are just so freaking nice about it. Never once have they made me feel guilty about it…and so, I feel guilty about it.

2. I feel guilty that I let myself get stressed about wedding-related minutia. 99% of my concerns are petty, first-world problems.

3. I feel guilty that bridesmaids are supposed to pay for dresses, presents for shower / wedding, bachelorette stuff, etc. I should pay THEM- a lot- for keeping me sane(ish) since my pre-teens.

4. I feel guilty that my fiance is like, seriously, the sweetest man on the planet, and I am just a biotch sometimes.

5. I feel guilty that we decided to have the wedding in Cincinnati because it’s more convenient for us.

6. I feel guilty interviewing multiple vendors and having to reject all but one.

7. I feel guilty about getting legally married, period, because it’s not fair that we can and others can’t.

(Do you like how I sneak the loaded one into the middle?)

8. I feel guilty that my wedding dress was expensive, yet I’m still considering a reception dress.

9. I feel guilty that I’m only inviting family and close friends.

10. I feel guilty that the parking around our church is not great.

(record scratch)

Yes. I feel guilty that guests of our ceremony might have to walk a block and/or parallel park. Both things are annoying. So I feel guilty.

Am I a head case or what? Now that I’ve typed all of my things out, I’m lettin’ ’em go. Like an Arabian princess and some caged-up doves.

By all means, unleash your guilt-birds below.

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27 Responses to “Bridal Guilt”

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Helstrong (message) 943 posts, Busy bee

Ummmm… are you my twin? I feel guilty for 90% of those things too!

11/30/10 @ 4:03 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

I had a lot of things I felt guilty about too, but I found that on my wedding day there was so much love for us and everyone just wanted us to be happy, and were smiling, happy to be there and do anything they could to help. Weddings are truly beautiful!

11/30/10 @ 4:05 pm (reply)

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Miss OBG

Especially the parents thing - I know they want to pay, and I really have no alternative (aside from canceling the whole thing) but I feel awful about it! And then my mother asks me what I want for Christmas, and I feel even worse!

11/30/10 @ 4:07 pm (reply)

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Mcabrera

Agreed! I feel the exact same way.

11/30/10 @ 4:08 pm (reply)

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KaitlinHudson (message) 1,131 posts, Bumble bee

I feel guilty that my mom’s favorite dress only came in ivory and cost over $200.

I feel guilty about wanting a make-up artist

I feel guilty for wanting performed music for our ceremony instead of an iPod ceremony.

I feel bad about wanting to make my guests travel to the reception.

The.List.Goes.On.

11/30/10 @ 4:12 pm (reply)

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Miss Earrings (message) 2,477 posts, Buzzing bee

I feel the same way much of the time!

11/30/10 @ 4:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Brooch (message) 1,721 posts, Bumble bee

I’m right there with you! I feel guilty about EVERYTHING!!!!

11/30/10 @ 4:32 pm (reply)

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Miss Knitting (message) 1,072 posts, Bumble bee

I just spent the last weekend having my dad try to talk me out of feeling guilty about our wedding. What did I ever do to deserve all the wonderful things people are doing for our wedding?

11/30/10 @ 4:33 pm (reply)

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mclove (message) 102 posts, Blushing bee

The parking is terrible around my church too!! What a bad first impression of the evening, right??

11/30/10 @ 4:45 pm (reply)

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Kelly

I feel guilty that we are having a wedding… when we both have already been married before.

11/30/10 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

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Megrit (message) 478 posts, Helper bee

Ugh, I feel ya on feeling guilty about havnig the sweetest fiance in the world and then beign a total B. That’s me for sure! Good luck letting go of the guilt!

11/30/10 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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Kinsey

I feel guilty that we’re not I’m not just LOVING wedding planning. This is mostly because everything is so expensive/stressful and I know my parents are both freaking out about how they have to pay for everything. My dad volunteered to pay for the honeymoon before he realized it was customarily done by the groom, and now we’re having trouble getting his parents to help pay for airfare (which we can’t afford). I feel so bad that my parents have to spend all this money and time on our wedding, which turns me into a total B. And the guilt cycle continues.

11/30/10 @ 5:01 pm (reply)

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Miss Ostrich (message) 1,948 posts, Buzzing bee

that we’re inviting 0.000002% of our families to our DW {because we have ginormous families}. that we’re making people pay all this $$$ to see us tie the knot. $$ and leaving people out who love us - yep, that’s all my guilt birdies right there…

11/30/10 @ 5:32 pm (reply)

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chrispygal (message) 1,113 posts, Bumble bee

Bridal guilt is an evil, evil thing. I suffer from it myself. Yuck!

11/30/10 @ 5:32 pm (reply)

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cj_one2000 (message) 167 posts, Blushing bee

@Miss OBG: Same thing here, my mom got me a KitchenAid Professional mixer at my bridal shower, is paying for 50% of the wedding and then she asks me what I want for Christmas! She also wants to get me something else for my bridal shower with just family right before the wedding. Guilty

11/30/10 @ 5:39 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Furry (message) 90 posts, Worker bee

I feel guilty about all of those things too! That plus our reception is in a different place than our church (like 10 minutes away). So much to feel guilty about! I hope you feel better soon though!

11/30/10 @ 5:56 pm (reply)

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riley jane (message) 571 posts, Busy bee

I can totally relate to this post! Couldn’t have said it better myself.

11/30/10 @ 6:12 pm (reply)

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periwinkle

#1 is gratitude, not guilt. Lather, rinse, repeat!

The things you can change (#8?) are the only things to reconsider. Totally up to you.

11/30/10 @ 6:16 pm (reply)

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croup

Self deprecation is probably the most unattractive thing ever. And, obviously you don’t feel that guilty because you are still going along with your plans as you choose. Why do you need a second dress? If you know it’s excess, then don’t get it. That will get rid of your guilt. Finally, you are inviting these people to your wedding, to eat food and dance to music you paid for. A wedding is a special occasion. Most people don’t pay every weekend to travel to a wedding or buy a gift. So, it’s not that big of a deal. Most people love weddings, and if they decide it’s not financially possible to come then they won’t. I don’t understand why you are feeling guilty…

11/30/10 @ 6:50 pm (reply)

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