Yeah, yeah, yeah, the Jaguars are planning a traditional wedding—I’ve put it out there enough for the entire universe to know that by now, right? That being said, one of the best things about having the Internet (and the hive!) at your disposal is being able to incorporate more modern aspects of wedding planning into your day, no matter what its theme. Modern, snazzy things make me feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Unfortunately for us, they just don’t seem to be fitting in well with our wedding. I’m finding myself coming up against quite a few roadblocks when discussing planning with some of the key members of our family—particularly my future in-laws. Here are a few options that have been shot down in flames so far:
Save The Dates – What’s the point? Mr. Jaguar’s parents thought I was hilarious for mentioning these and actually laughed at a sample magnet I had made up and stuck proudly on our refrigerator door in our apartment. They’ve indicated that they have already told most family members on their side to keep the date free, so why bother sending cards?
Videographer – Apparently this is something that is a big etiquette no-no for the Jaguar-In-Laws. Their reasoning was that they’ve seen them used in other cousins’ weddings where they bothered the older guests, got in the way, and made people uncomfortable. This is the first I’ve head of this happening—but they’re really adamant that people will be less than impressed to have a professional filming the wedding for us.
Bridal Registry – Not done on Mr. Jaguar’s side of the family. Say what? Again, we’ve been told that the “done thing” is to just let the parents on either side know what you’re looking for, without naming specific brands or prices, so that people don’t judge you on what you’re putting on your registry.
Photobooth – Nobody would use it. It’s too modern for the older family members and only the young people would be interested in using it, therefore it’s a waste of our money.
Wedding Website – Guests wouldn’t get enough use out of it and would go to the parents of the couple for information anyway. While my friends and family are pretty tech-savvy, Mr. Jaguar’s are a lot older and likely wouldn’t view it at all.
Now those opinions aren’t coming from Mr. Jaguar or me, and at the end of the day it will be us making the final decisions.
There will be some things that we will definitely be sticking to our guns on and doing anyway. The definites at the moment are the save the dates and the bridal registry. I don’t care if people use them or if they still go the parents for additional advice—I want them anyway. The wedding website idea has been shelved (quite sadly, I might add) because I knew how much work I’d want to put into it, and it would be a waste to spend all that time on something that only a small percentage of our guests would make use of. I did query getting a photobooth for the reception, but for the cost of hiring one, it just doesn’t seem worth it. I think I’ll try and use a different way of capturing images of guests instead, but that’s still up in the air. As for a videographer, well, I don’t know. It’s not a MUST HAVE for me, even though it seems to be more and more common these days. (And, er, I bawl my eyes out every time I watch a trailer made for a newly married couple. Seriously.)
Am I being snarky if I admit that I kind of wish the opinions weren’t quite so free flowing this early on in the game? Tell me I’m not the only one coming across so many barriers to having a traditional wedding with a few modern elements as well.