Irrational Fears

Irrational Fears

December 6th, 2010 @ 1:33 pm by Mrs. Zebra
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OK, they aren’t technically irrational fears (it’s probably pretty ridiculous that I don’t worry more about breaking a bone while skiing), but with the wedding fast approaching, I’m starting to fear getting hurt. As with anything, however, weddings heighten our feelings.

Zeb’s good at everything. I’m serious. He can excel at pretty much anything he puts his mind to. We’ve skied together since we began dating. Because of him I switched from the traditional long skis to the short ski boards. I love them. There is definitely less of a risk of breaking a leg, as they are easier to maneuver around. Anyways, Zeb left me in the snow last year when he decided to take up snowboarding. I will never again attempt snowboarding because I broke my tailbone during my last attempt. It still isn’t right, but it’s not as bad as that first year. He’s getting a fancy board for his birthday and wants to go “a lot” this year. I’m not completely opposed to the idea of focusing less on the wedding and more on skiing, but as irony would have it, this is probably the year I’m going to get hurt. Or so I think.

My bridesmaid’s father shattered his knee on his motorcycle a few months before her wedding. It all worked out in the end. They adjusted. All the groomsmen had pictures of her father’s face mounted to popsicle sticks, and they all took turns dancing with her during the father-daughter dance. Her mother escorted her down the aisle. We’ll work around it, which is why I still go skiing, but it doesn’t mean that I’m not nervous.

Stolen from BM Happy’s Facebook

The other thing I’m nervous for? A pre-wedding pregnancy. I’m really only worried because I love Adeline so much that I’d be pretty heartbroken if I couldn’t wear her. Since the wedding was nine months out, I have been nervously counting down the days until red tide. Next month will be three months, so I figure I’m pretty safe after I make that mark. I could very easily (or perhaps not so easily) prevent this from happening altogether, but as with my other fears, I’m simply not willing to stop living my life the way I do for the greater good of the wedding.

Like my friend, we would adjust. A wedding is no excuse to stop living life. No one is ever promised a tomorrow (death—another fear).

What are some of your pre-wedding fears? Do you find them preventing you from participating in certain, ummm, extracurricular activities?

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32 Responses to “Irrational Fears”

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mightywombat (message) 3,311 posts, Sugar bee

I’m confused - is your fear that your birth control might fail? Or are you not currently using any?

12/6/10 @ 1:43 pm (reply)

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Julia

I’m a pediatrician and last year caught the stomach bug 6 times from my patients! I’ve only caught it 3 or 4 times so far this year. It doesn’t seem to matter how often I wash my hands or use sanitizing hand gel. I just catch it all the time! I live in total fear that I will get sick right before the wedding and won’t be able to enjoy myself.

12/6/10 @ 1:47 pm (reply)

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kitzy (message) 4,224 posts, Honey bee

haha i have a total fear of getting pregnant right now too…i’m 6 months out! and that is so cute at your bm’s wedding, but was her father not able to attend? or was he there and just had to sit down?

12/6/10 @ 1:55 pm (reply)

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PitBulLover (message) 8,314 posts, Bee Keeper

I was afraid of pregnancy and death as well! I was using BC and we were very careful but I was still so worried! I was also convinced that I was going to die before my wedding and that it would never happen. Well Im still alive and married without a baby!!!!! So you have nothing to worry about

12/6/10 @ 1:59 pm (reply)

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Miss Panther (message) 1,046 posts, Bumble bee

I just want to jump in and say that I ski board, too! (Or at least, I did before I moved to the damn South.) I never hear anybody else mention them, so yay! Anywho, I’m sure you’re way too skilled to hurt yourself, and also, good luck with the fun comments you’re probably about to get about the unplanned pregnancy thing … heheh.

12/6/10 @ 2:00 pm (reply)

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SerenaSF (message) 661 posts, Busy bee

I too am terrified of getting pregnant before the wedding! Yes, I use birth control. Yes, we are responsible. But we all know that things don’t always work out as planned, 99% effective is still not 100%, and walking down the aisle 8 months preggo is NOT something I want to do.

12/6/10 @ 2:03 pm (reply)

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JillBill (message) 425 posts, Helper bee

the phrase “red tide” will now be used frequently in my own vocabulary. thank you so very much.

12/6/10 @ 2:06 pm (reply)

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Miss Brooch (message) 1,721 posts, Bumble bee

I HAVE THE SAME pre-wedding pregnancy fear!! Ahhhh!! I’m close to the 4 month mark now, so I think I’m in the safe zone, too Whew!!

12/6/10 @ 2:11 pm (reply)

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aunt pol (message) 1,473 posts, Bumble bee

Yep I’m petrified of getting in the family way right now too. Especially since Himself has gone all clucky. Seriously. We were in Ikea last week and he was all ‘ooh’ and ‘aah’ over the kiddie room sets. I had to keep dragging him back to the kitchen sets, and I’m being really vigilant on the BC. Easy for him on wedding day: his suit would still fit him, he’d be able to drink, and he’d have no real risk of morning sickness!
Am also scared of random stupid accidents. Bah.

12/6/10 @ 2:12 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

Hahaha, I was convinced I was going to get sick for my wedding, so much so that every single day for the week leading up to it, I announced to my mom in the mornings that my throat was sore, only to have it miraculously disappear once the day got going and was amazingly healthy for the wedding (still got rained on tho!)

12/6/10 @ 2:36 pm (reply)

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kirafiki

I was worried that my house was going to burn down with all my wedding crap in it. I lived in an old neighborhood and it seemed like there was always houses catching fire. Anyway, about 2 months before the wedding we were at the tux shop and a guy walked in and asked if we got stuck in traffic because of the fire. We asked- what fire?. Turns out our rehearsal dinner restaurant was on fire! Our reaction was to just laugh because, really, what else is there to do about it? Lucky for us, the place reopened 4 days before our wedding and I didn’t have to worry about my house burning down because what are the chances of that happening to my wedding twice.

12/6/10 @ 2:48 pm (reply)

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Charcole2011 (message) 298 posts, Helper bee

OMG I have the preggo fear too! And no, it’s not because we are irresponsible, but as other commenters pointed out, nothing is 100%…I also have a friend this happened to, which I think makes me more paranoid. I’m just trying to be super careful about the BC but MAN, I have dreams about babies and they scare me! hahaha. like you, it’s mostly because I love my dress and would be so sad to not be able to wear it (esp given the cost - yikes). I’m still 10 months out so I have a WHILE before I will start relaxing I think…good luck with your fears!!

12/6/10 @ 2:53 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Stiletto (message) 918 posts, Busy bee

I had the same pregnancy fear too It was completely irrational because I knew most likely it would not happen, but there’s always that 1% chance and then what the heck do you do with your wedding dress that you’ve been obsessing over wearing for months?! Mine was tight enough as it was, it definitely wasn’t made for two I think it’s normal to have those little freak outs!

12/6/10 @ 3:00 pm (reply)

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Miss Rainbow (message) 1,535 posts, Bumble bee

LOL @ Red Tide. I use that phrase too, and Mr. Rainbow is thoroughly disgusted every time I say it!

12/6/10 @ 3:02 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Glasses (message) 2,741 posts, Sugar bee

I was so so worried about getting pregnant before the wedding too. Like, ridiculously careful about taking my B.C. Glad to know I’m not alone!

12/6/10 @ 3:38 pm (reply)

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Talishazwi (message) 1,444 posts, Bumble bee

I did a cheer the day we hit about 4 months out and I wasn’t “in the family way” because I knew if I did get pregnant I could still wear my dress. I was so nervous before then! I did not want to be pregnant but especially not obviously so on my wedding day.

12/6/10 @ 3:50 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Thimble (message) 807 posts, Busy bee

haha, I totally thought about the “safe zone” too.. I hit 11 months out and it crossed my mind and I didn’t let go of worry completely until around the 3 month mark.

12/6/10 @ 3:50 pm (reply)

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DemoDreamer (message) 410 posts, Helper bee

I was def. worried about the pregnancy thing. I am now about 5 months out & the fear has now passed. My fear wasn’t really about being pregnant for the wedding but more fear of being ready for labor at the wedding… that would be horrible to have to worry about!! You’re obviously not alone! I don’t really have any other fears of being hurt or anything. But I don’t have any extreme high risk hobbies either!!

12/6/10 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

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linguo42 (message) 3,553 posts, Sugar bee

I keep worrying that I’ll get into a car accident and break my legs or smash my face and have to go down the aisle in a wheelchair looking like a jigsaw puzzle.

The pregnant thing is always a concern to me even without thinking of the wedding. I really, really don’t want to have kids until we’ve been married for a while and have had time to enjoy being husband and wife without baby making three. I’m on BC, but I always still breathe a silent hallelujah when Aunt Flo visits each month.

12/6/10 @ 4:48 pm (reply)

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