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After hours of hunting the Internet, I had exactly zero light-bulb moments. No—a-ha!—that’s what I want. Since my taste in dresses is fairly…old fashioned, nothing that sells as a bridesmaids dress these days really sang to me. Except this one:

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This dress, to me, is formal-gown perfection. Understated, elegant, timeless. I would love wearing this dress so much that I would pay $400. But there’s no way I could expect my girls to do that for a simple dress they didn’t even pick out.

When I floated the idea of pick-your-own dresses, my girls seemed to want some direction. So I waffled about like the annoying un-decider that I am.

First up, I tried to pick a color.

I think the blue is dreamy—subdued, soft, spring-y. But the specific color I wanted—a slate gray-ish, cloudy kind of blue—is difficult to find. Also, since I have a best man on my side, he’d stick out in a black suit next to blue dresses. Plus, black is classic, flattering, and chic. But then I worried that long, black gowns would be too black-tie formal for my regular-formal wedding.

The weeks of indecision turned into months, and I was starting to feel the heat. The sooner I decided, the sooner the dresses would come in, the sooner alterations could be made. I started to stress. But then my MOH floated a brilliant idea. Pick a weekend in the next few weeks. On that Satuday, we will go to one of the larger dress shops in the area, and we WILL leave with a decision made.

And that, my friends, is exactly what we did. Any time I worried that the decision should have been made already, I simply said to myself—it WILL be done on the 9th. I don’t need to worry about it until then. This pick-a-date-and-do-it thing was really helpful and highly recommended for any tough decision.

OK, be honest. Would you have gone with black or blue?