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Can I be honest with y’all for a minute here?

I promise once I get this off my chest I’ll go back to talking about interesting things like our wedding projects and all the fun stuff that Mr. Cardy and I have coming up…but I just need to get this off my chest.

I am so over wedding planning.

I’m shocked that I’m even admitting it, but I really just need to say it. I’m so incredibly burned out, and I’m just tired of it. Maybe this stems from having such a long engagement, or maybe it’s just something everyone goes through when they’re about a month away from their wedding.

(Side note: holy cow, we’re a month away from our wedding!)

I’m trying really hard to get things done. Really, I am. My to-do list is about a mile long and it grows a little bit every day, but I’m having such a hard time getting motivated to actually do any of it.

Small sample of my real-life to do list. Notice that there are many more things left undone than there are completed items!

I don’t think I can pin this back to a specific point. All I know is that over the last few weeks I have just become more and more exhausted, and I’ve found it harder and harder to get motivated to do wedding related tasks. It probably doesn’t help that I feel like I’m constantly dealing with some sort of wedding-related problem, whether it’s the fact that we’re a week past our RSVP date and we still have less than half of the RSVPs in or if it’s the fact that someone in Mr. Cardigan’s family has decided that instead of bringing the date Mr. Cardigan and I had originally intended for her to bring, she’s going to bring an extremely rude and obnoxious guest that Mr. Cardigan has met and is NOT a fan of.

I’m trying really hard to keep a positive attitude about the wedding, but with all the stress and craziness surrounding it, I’ve found that it’s extremely important for me to make a concerted effort to focus on the important things… like why we’re doing this in the first place.

Does it really matter if some guest is there that Mr. Cardigan and I don’t like? Will I even really notice her there? Probably not.

Will anyone notice if I don’t finish all of my projects and the venue isn’t as nicely decorated as I’d like it to be? No.

Is it really a huge deal my DIY projects aren’t absolutely perfect? Hell no.

In the beginning of our engagement, I cared so much about all of the little things. I thought that I needed to do every last thing myself, and I made some things much harder for myself than they really needed to be. Now, I still think the little things are important, don’t get me wrong, but I’m just so tired of dealing with the little things that I quite frankly don’t give a damn whether or not they get done.

I’ve officially decided that I’m not going to let myself get all burned out about the wedding anymore. Sure, we only have a month left, and my to-do list contains way more than a month’s worth of items.

But you know what? Some of those things can magically disappear off of my to-do list with a simple click of this awesome button I call “delete”. Poof! It’s like they never existed. Look, no more stress!

My new attitude is as follows:

I’m getting married, dammit, and I’m freaking excited about it. It might not be perfect. All of my projects might not get done. But it will be wonderful and memorable and one of the happiest days of my life. And I’m going to love it. The end.

I have exactly 30 days left. I’m going to do what I can to finish all of my projects, but I might not finish them. And I’m fine with that. The things that get finished will get included, and the things that don’t get finished won’t. Anything that is unnecessarily stressing me out will be cut. And I will only do projects if I actually want to.

Maybe it’s because I’m sharing my wedding with so many people on such a public blog, but I think for a while there I forgot what the important things were, and I think that’s why I’m hating wedding planning right now. I mean, I love you guys, but I’m not going to make myself miserable just so that I feel that my wedding is “worthy” of being featured on a blog. It’s just not worth it. And I’d like to think that y’all will still love me too, even if my wedding isn’t perfect.

And with that, I’m letting go. I’m determined to enjoy planning for this last month leading up to the wedding. And if I’m not enjoying it, I’m going to reexamine what I’m doing and make sure I’m doing it for the right reasons.

Also? When I get stressed, I’m trying to cope by releasing some extra tension. My current favorite way to do that is by blasting Cee Lo Green’s “F*ck You” and singing along as loudly as I possibly can (click only if you aren’t offended by profanity! Definitely NSFW). Works like a charm.

Whew. I feel better now. Thanks for listening.

Did you get burned out with wedding planning at all, or did you ever get caught up in trying to make your wedding “good enough” (whatever that means!)?