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Most of the things I own would not be considered “modern” or “trendy.” I tend to err on the side of old-fashioned with my sense of style—in clothes, in home goods, in anything. So, yes, I have worried about my wedding becoming dated in a few years. I like that my venue, my dress and accessories, and even my planned hairstyle aren’t really “modern.” In fact, I’ve subconsciously been shooting for a wedding look that is timeless.
But really, my friends, that is crazy talk, and I need to get over it. We’ve gone from this:
(I would 100% wear this dress. But not the doily hat.)
to this…
(a very young Heidi Klum in 1994)
to now:
(see the extended Brides timeline here)
Styles come in, they go out, they’re eulogized as “vintage,” or snickered at. Style comes back around, too, but really…who cares? Laughing at your dad’s mustache and blue suit or your mom’s big, lace headpiece is a rite of passage. Or in this case…hey Grandma, why did you wear a doily on your head? Everyone’s wedding becomes dated in some way, and it’s totally fine.
This is why I need to stop caring about my wedding being “timeless.” It won’t be. So I might as well go with things that I like now. Even if it is a total “2011 cliche” in a few years, I will still be able to say: Oh, I loved that dress.
Are you like me—concerned with having a dated wedding? What do you think we will see as the “2010s” bride in the future?
Not that I actually felt like you though. My wedding gown was more of like the last picture you showed so I still don’t feel it is out dated.
I love this attitude! It’s always confusing to me when people alter their choices for their wedding because they want it to be “timeless” or not too trendy. Who cares? If you like it, you like it! 
Someone told me that I should have had my husband take his glasses off for the photos since her husband’s glasses are what make her photos look dated, but he wouldn’t look like himself without glasses. We looked like ourselves at our wedding, and whether or not we’ll look dated in a couple decades really doesn’t concern me.
i’ve had people tell me I shouldn’t wear my accessories I have picked because they aren’t timeless. I don’t care about timeless. I want to be happy with what I wear and if I love it, then who cares. Right? ha
I’m pretty sure my wedding dress was from a 2006 collection, but did it matter? Oh heck no! Why are we worrying about being timeless? It should be our love that is timeless and not the stuff around us because, in the end, it is just stuff.
“Hey grandma, why did you wear that doily on your head”? Hahahhahahaah.
That’s interesting that they removed the apostrophe from Bride’s from ‘94 and now it’s just Brides.
I found 2 issues of my mom’s Brides mag from 1972 and they are awesome!!
I love your attitude on this, I feel the same way. As long as I love it, then that is all that matters.
I’ve been having trouble finding the dress, simply because I prefer a more modest look than what is currently in fashion, but I don’t want an outdated 80s Princess Diana look either. I actually love the dress (and doily headpiece!) of the first image the most!
I’m finding that the things I gravitate towards are actually so old-fashioned and once-traditional, that they are now new and unusual. We are carrying hand fans instead of bouquets, and I am drawn to gowns with sheer sleeves or overlays or other modesty touches (no cleavage-bearing ballgowns). My chuck-taylor-everyday-wearing SO does not want to wear chucks for the wedding, even though we are getting married outdoors, because it has become trendy to do so.
Ooohh, great post. I was deciding between a “timeless” dress and something with a little more point of view to it. In the end I decided the “timeless” dress would be forgettable, and what I wanted was something unforgettable!
I think you make a good point–as much as people like to think their look will look timeless, it’s so likely that it will not.
I wanted a relatively “classic” engagement ring because it’s going to be on my hand every day forever, but I didn’t worry about it so much with the wedding. I don’t want to be overly trendy either, but no matter what you do, your wedding will look at least somewhat like a product of its time. Who cares?!
I would so wear that first dress too - but I’m with you, sans doily.
I think no matter what, some aspect of your wedding will be dated, but it’s the same with any other monumental life event - my cousin wore black stretch pants and an oversized polka dot t shirt for her senior photos in the 80’s. I’m pretty sure my uncle was sporting a mullet in a family portrait from back then too. I guess I just think that there will be some aspect of my wedding that my grandkids will be like, “you wore that?!,” or something. But that’s half the fun of looking at old wedding photos anyway, right?
I struggled with a choice between two dresses- one was all white, A-line, totally a classic bridal look. The other was fitted and two-tone: ivory on top, light gold in the skirt. I worried that the latter wouldn’t look “bridal” enough, especially in a few years, but in the end I just said “screw it” and got it anyway. I love it and no one will not know I’m the bride.. so why not get it!? I think you’re right- everything will look dated eventually…
this is exactly my thinking! i love looking back at photos and seeing how things were at that exact moment and knowing almost immediately when it was. its great. i’m not worried about having a timeless looking wedding at all. it is what it is and there is beauty in that
Good post. I haven’t given it much thought, to be honest… which I think is right along with what you’re saying. I want the wedding to be “us” versus trying to pick something timeless/classic/trendy/modern/whatever. However “us” falls is how it’ll be.
I feel like ‘timeless’ is such a trend, that trying to be that way ironically dates ones wedding. 
I think part of tthe fun is to look at pictures from the past and see how differently people dressed.
Part of me wants my wedding look to be “timeless” so that I’m spared some of the snickering from my children (and people being able to guess my age!)
But part of me thinks, so what if people in 25 years can tell my wedding happened in 2012? They’ll immediately recognize that we’ve made it over 20 years, that’s what! There are several couples I know with children my age, who still have wedding pics displayed after all these years. Some have a ridiculous element I find amusing, but mostly I’m in awe that they actually made it when, let’s face it, many don’t. The head-doilies are secondary.
A truly timeless set of wedding pics wouldn’t give this impression–with modern retouching techniques, it could have happened 25 years ago or 2 years ago.
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Mrs. Prairie Dog, Cincinnati Age and Occupation: 24, Program Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, PhD/Biomedical Engineer Engagement Date: December 18, 2009 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Glendale Lyceum About Me: I'm a pilgrim soul of a girl with a house full of books and a coffee addiction that could slay Juan Valdez. My life is a whirl of grammar correction, good music, glue-gunning, and two pets named Hazel and Winston Churchill. I'm marrying my high school boyfriend in a formal-ish spring affair, roughly themed: "Elizabeth Bennet crashes a party co-hosted by Jay Gatsby and Cath Kidston, and loves it."
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