Weddingbee Blog

Firstly, I have to say that you guys were totally right. Let’s Talk About Sex is by Salt ’N’ Pepa, not Madonna. Funny enough though, Madonna has a line in a song where she says she can’t talk about sex. Anyway, sorry about that! Apparently ’80s Trivial Pursuit has taught me nothing! I mean, that game is really hard. I only get the Full House questions right.

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More importantly… Wow.

The comments you all left on my previous post left me speechless. The amount of love and support in this hive is really unbelievable. I’m not going to lie, I was a little nervous to, y’know, announce my virginity to the internet, but I’m glad I did.

I read every comment and appreciated them all so much…even the one with certain specific tips, despite that it had me blushing hardcore.

I have to say, I’m impressed by how much I learned from those comments, and naturally, I’m going to share my information with the hive. Here goes nothing!

1) Waiting girls (or guys) - you are not alone! I know I often feel like I’m the only person left -ever- whose not cashing in her (or his) v card until the wedding night, but apparently it’s not true. A lot of you reminded me to be proud of my decision and I’m passing that same statement right back around. As we all know, it can be a tough choice, but if you’ve made the choice and stuck with it, then I’m cheering for you. I’m waving my “waiting” flag and celebrating for all of us. As a wise bee recently told me, this makes us special.

2) Waiting is not easy. (Neither is pimpin’, or so I’ve heard hehehe). I think a lot of people assume that if you’re waiting until marriage, that’s the end of the story, but there’s so much more to it. The guy I’m marrying? Dead sexy. Are there times I would love to tear off his clothes and jump into bed with him? Of course! Physical attraction is important in any relationship, because of the necessity of physical intimacy, and those of us who are waiting feel it too. Once again, I’m cheering for us here, because there are times that it’s not easy for a billion reasons: our super hot fiances, having sex shoved in our face from every possible media outlet hundreds of times a day, pressure from pretty much everyone we know to just “do it” all ready, the fact that you don’t want it to be a big thing, but by not doing it, you’re making it a big thing, etc. Regardless, cheers to us, guys!…oh, and hold onto that will power ;-)!

3) It’s worth it. I’ve got to say, I was surprised by the number of people who had waited. Many many hive members told me that they waited and that it was totally worth it. Awesome. Good to know! I’ll admit that I have wondered about it before; like why wait? If I know I’ll be with Mr. G, what’s the difference if we do it now, 4 months from now, or 2 years ago? I’m glad that you guys say its worth the wait.

4) Don’t listen to people. Okay, I’m sure there’s a more eloquent way to put that, but I kind of mean it. People get weird and ridiculous about sex, and even more so when the V word comes into play. People have tried to tell me over and over that I’m making the wrong choice by waiting because ’what if it isn’t good’ and ’sex is too much of an important part of a relationship to risk having a bad partner’. I think both of these lines are BS and I’m happy I’m not the only one that feels that way. I’m sure that, in time, Mr. G and I will figure out what works for us - no matter what anyone says.

5) Don’t stress about the wedding night. I think this is a great point for all of those waiting. I think a lot of waiting girls think that since they’ve waited so long, that their wedding night has to be 100% perfect. I could see where this would stress people out.

6) Waiting isn’t for everyone. Word. I totally understand this. I mean, honestly, your sex life is no one’s business but you’re own. It’s a super personal decision what, when, and with whom you do it with, and I’m certainly not going to judge. If you’re not waiting, well then I certainly hope you’re having fun!

7) The first time is awkward and magical and rainbows and funny and wonderful and interesting and fun. Plan accordingly.

Pee before and after. Ahem… that’s all I’ll say about that. I apologize if this one is a little TMI for you guys.

Whether you’re “3 Date Reid” or waiting until marriage like super hot Victoria Secret Model Adriana Lima, thanks for letting me lay it all out there for you guys.

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You all are the best! Thanks for listening!

So Hive, Waiting or not waiting? And how did you make the choice?