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Over the summer, Mr. S and I met up with his brothers and sisters-in-law for a long weekend in Chicago. While we were away, Mr. S’ older brother’s wife told us that they planned to start trying to conceive in early spring 2011.
When I mentioned this in passing to a friend of mine, she gasped, “You better hope that they don’t announce that she’s pregnant at your wedding.” I asked her why, and she said, “Because it’s your day—you don’t want anyone to steal your thunder!”
A few months ago, a coworker and I were discussing the episode of House that had aired the night before, in which one of the characters proposed to his girlfriend while at a wedding. My coworker was horrified, and said that she’d be furious if someone else got engaged at her wedding.
Another friend of mine was really stressed out earlier this year when her cousin absolutely freaked out because she wanted to get married two months before their wedding. She thought that my friend and her fiancé were infringing on her special time as a bride to be.
And then there’s that episode of Friends, the one where Monica gets angry because she catches Ross and Rachel kissing right after she and Chandler got engaged. She thinks they’re stealing her thunder.
Now, I have a short fuse and I often get stressed and/or pissed off, but this kind of stuff wouldn’t bother me in the least. I don’t consider our wedding day my day. If anything, it’s our day, Mr. S’ and mine. And it’s not even our day, it’s just our wedding. And we want our wedding to be a celebration for us and our friends and families. If a family member announced that they were expecting at our wedding, we’d be thrilled! If friends got engaged, reunited, or scheduled their own wedding around ours, it’s not a problem! It’s just one more reason to celebrate, in our opinion.
Now, I won’t be so forgiving if someone, say, gets drunk and causes a scene at the wedding, or gets into a fight or something like that. But that’s less about stealing thunder and more about people acting like raging douchebags, right?
Would you be upset if someone else got a lot of attention on or around your wedding day? What do you think constitutes “stolen thunder”?