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Mrs. Lox, Baltimore Age and Occupation: 33, Government Worker Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35. IT Consultant Engagement Date: May 8, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Vandiver Inn About Me: I’m an East Coast gal born and bred and a suburban brat turned city rat for the last year. Now Mr. Lox and I enjoy walking all kinds of places, having the coolest things around in our backyard, and especially our garage parking. I love gadgets, toys, Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby ice cream, monkeys, and our insane cats. I’m a blonde by birth and a redhead by choice. I’m that girl in the cubicle farm with all the cool toys and the file cabinet covered in magnetic poetry. I still use smiley faces in my emails, whether people like it or not. This is not the first rodeo for Mr. Lox nor me. And together, we are planning an intimate afternoon wedding on a budget we can afford by ourselves.
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Third Time’s the Charm?

January 7th, 2011 @ 9:14 am by Mrs. Lox

Let’s get real here for a minute. I really thought I wasn’t going to disclose this, but as it turns out I feel dishonest by not sharing. You will soon see the reason I choose not to tell people this. I am afraid of being judged, and overall I’m simply ashamed by the bare facts. That being said, dear hive, I’m like Abe Lincoln over here. I cannot tell a lie. Or at least, I really suck at it.

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I love that commercial, by the way. Anyway, so what is this big horrible secret of mine? Here goes nothing…this is not my second marriage. It’s my third.

Please insert pithy comments about “the third time being the charm” here. The thing is, I’m human and I make mistakes. And unfortunately, I made two whoppers. I could tell you all about why each marriage failed, but it’s really irrelevant here. I made some bad choices. Once I was too young to trust myself the way I should have. And another time I was just plain stupid. But I am older and smarter now. And Mr. Lox is another ballgame entirely.

So there it is…I’m heading down the aisle for a third time. Some people may think it’s tacky for me to even have a wedding. Some people may wonder why I even bother with a track record like mine. To those people, I say that I get it. I hear you. And I totally understand where you’re coming from. However, I’m a human being, too. And I get that I have made enough mistakes not only for my life but probably for someone else’s too. But I still believe there is hope for me. And you’d best know that I wouldn’t brave the aisle for a third time if I weren’t absolutely sure of what I was doing.

Confession time over here. I feel much better, don’t you? Are there any elements of your wedding, or planning, or related life experience that you sometimes wish you could hide?

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27 Responses to “Third Time’s the Charm?”

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Mrs. Meerkat
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Mrs. Meerkat (message)  3,216 posts, Sugar bee

Every bride and groom should get a day to celebrate. It shouldn’t matter if you have gotten married before. People should want to be there to support you. This is a whole new part of your life! :-P

 
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tarabonistall (message)  128 posts, Blushing bee

You aren’t celebrating your past - you’re celebrating the two of you and your present and future. You go girl!

 
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pepsint
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pepsint (message)  30 posts, Newbee

^agree w/ Meerkat….a wedding is about celebrating the future b/w two people.

each individual’s personal past should not even factor into the equation.

when you find the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with- celebrate.

screw the haters.

 
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kdane
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kdane (message)  168 posts, Blushing bee

I love that you are strong enough to share such an intimate secret. Since this is my 2nd wedding, I can totally relate to the snarky comments. I refuse to let them rain on my parade. I agree that EVERY wedding deserves to be what the couple wants and desires. A wedding is a celebration of the love and future of a couple NOT of the mistakes made in the past.

 
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PitBulLover
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PitBulLover (message)  8,314 posts, Bee Keeper

What happened before doesnt matter….whats happening now does and that is you and Mr Lox committing your lives to one another - why should you NOT celebrate that!?!

 
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Mrs. Trail Mix (message)  6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

Thank you for sharing with us, and I second everything that everyone above me has said!

 
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Miss Cinnamon Bun
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Miss Cinnamon Bun (message)  1,100 posts, Bumble bee

I agree with everyone, every wedding deserves celebrating!

 
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Miss Tartlet
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Miss Tartlet (message)  3,207 posts, Sugar bee

*hugs* You’re an incredibly strong woman, and your wedding’s gonna rock!

 
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DeaconBride (message)  659 posts, Busy bee

Miss Lox let me first say CONGRATULATIONS!!! I too am a encore (third time) bride and have felt the same way you did/do. This is a moment to celebrate today and not the past. I thought others would judge, but my AMAZING FH tells me all the time that this is the first time we are marrying each other and we have both decided that the path we took to each other makes this moment so much more joyous.
I applaud your honest but you owe no one an explanation at all. Celebrate and have an awesome wedding!!!
BTW…my wedding is going to be the largest of my previous 2 and I can’t wait!!!

 
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paw (message)  379 posts, Helper bee

So strong of you to share! I agree with everyone above that every wedding deserves to be celebrated with those you love however you two want to do it because it’s your day.

Can’t wait to see more of your wedding plans!

 
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heather25
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heather25 (message)  2,355 posts, Buzzing bee

Unless its someone who is really concerned for you, people should keep their comments to themselves. And this is coming from someone that takes marriage very seriously and loathes divorce for herself.

As long as you know what you are doing, do you.

 
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heather25
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heather25 (message)  2,355 posts, Buzzing bee

And another thing: I know we all get down on breakups of any sort, but consider yourself lucky to have felt a certain way–even for a fleeting moment–three times. Some people never have that once in their lives.

 
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shericamarie
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shericamarie (message)  106 posts, Blushing bee

i’m a second time bride - congratulations on finding your happiness and learning from your mistakes

 
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10.10.10 (message)  118 posts, Blushing bee

I am my husband’s third wife. And we had one hell of a wedding (his first real wedding)!
He made some mistakes along the way, but I think he’s honestly a better husband to me because of his past.
Enjoy your moment and celebrate your love for each other with the people that support you!

 
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Miss Lox (message)  1,128 posts, Bumble bee

I would really like to hug each and every one of you. This right here is why people like the Hive so much. For reals. :)

 
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RingAroundtheRosie
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RingAroundtheRosie (message)  311 posts, Helper bee

Oh, people are just silly. I can’t believe people actually tell you that you shouldn’t bother with a wedding the 3rd time! My dad has been married 3 times, the 3rd to my mom and they’ve been together for 30 years. Stealing a quote from Pam on The Office, “Sometimes the heart doesn’t know what it wants until it finds what it wants.” Enjoy every moment of your celebration and tell those crazies to shove it!

 
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kayakgirl73
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kayakgirl73 (message)  2,157 posts, Buzzing bee

Congrats. I’m so glad you’ve found happiness.

 
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Mrs. Locket
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Mrs. Locket (message)  2,837 posts, Sugar bee

Hey, when you know, you know! Who cares if this is your third wedding. So long as you are happy that’s all that matters. Many people doubted my getting married at first because Mr. L was and always will be my first and only serious longterm relationship.

 
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Miss Twigs (message)  126 posts, Blushing bee

Of course you should have the wedding you want! Sometimes people are thoughtless and cruel. Don’t let ‘em get you down!

 
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Hirondelle
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Hirondelle (message)  407 posts, Helper bee

The fact that you still have so much faith and hope is beautiful!and it deserves one serious celebration!

 
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Mrs. Lox, Baltimore Age and Occupation: 33, Government Worker Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35. IT Consultant Engagement Date: May 8, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Vandiver Inn About Me: I’m an East Coast gal born and bred and a suburban brat turned city rat for the last year. Now Mr. Lox and I enjoy walking all kinds of places, having the coolest things around in our backyard, and especially our garage parking. I love gadgets, toys, Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby ice cream, monkeys, and our insane cats. I’m a blonde by birth and a redhead by choice. I’m that girl in the cubicle farm with all the cool toys and the file cabinet covered in magnetic poetry. I still use smiley faces in my emails, whether people like it or not. This is not the first rodeo for Mr. Lox nor me. And together, we are planning an intimate afternoon wedding on a budget we can afford by ourselves.

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