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He should have a TON of songs already. We picked out the special songs, like first dances and cake cutting, but I told him to just play typical, fun wedding songs & play off of the crowd. If he’s a professional, he’ll know what to do if people are sitting & should be dancing & vice versa. And with a May wedding, you shouldn’t have to have a list finalized, anyway. It took us much longer than we thought to pin point our first dance, so I was glad that our DJ just needed a week to round things up.

It was important to us to not have any “booty poppin” songs that would offend the older crowd, so I made that clear early on & mentioned it many times after. I had some specific “do not play” songs that you’d typically hear at weddings, but other than that, I trusted him to play good stuff. This is what they do, as long as they understand what you want, and that y’all are on the same page, you shouldn’t worry about the music!

And as far as time line goes, our DJ asked us a few minutes before we did something. We made sure our photog was around & someone was there to start cutting the cake and he announced it. [Tip: We did the money dance BEFORE the cake was cut- You know how people leave after the cutting!] It really isn’t as difficult as you’d think & things just have a way of happening. But if you want something specific to happen, say a toast, then be sure to tell the DJ & a gazillion other people that you want it to happen before the cake is cut. We didn’t know that our best man had a speech written out until the next day. Had he told someone, he might not have forgotten about it while he was having a ball on the dance floor.

And just as an idea.. On our RSVP cards, I put a note that said to write your must play song on the back of the card.. Of the 100 invites that went out, we got about 75 songs. About half were slow songs, so I just told him that if he was going to play a slow song, pick from those. And I’m pretty sure he played all the faster songs we had on the list. Not to mention how happy it made our guests when they heard their first dance song played at our wedding. He was even taking requests from guests! Music is not something to stress about.. Unless you’re very specific and only want a specific vibe throughout, just trust the DJ. We wanted “rat pack” style songs during the early reception so no one would feel like they should be dancing while people were eating, so think about things like that, too.

Good luck & have fun! And trust your DJ. Dancing was the BEST part of our wedding!